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Anonymous wrote:this is such bizarre logic to me. Can no one complain, in this case? When a mom of 1, a newborn, complains that she is tired, is your response "well, YOU chose to have a baby. Either manage it or don't but stop complaining about your choices. You knew what the repercussions would be." When someone says "oh my gosh it's so hot out" is your response "either managing living in a hot city or don't but stop complaining about your own choices."

There are totally people like this on DCUM and elsewhere. "Why should anyone be inconvenienced by maternity leave policies when having a baby is a CHOICE?" "Don't complain about real estate being expensive here, you should've picked a major that pays six figures right out of college and bought a condo at 22, if you don't like it move to Cleveland."

We have maternity leave - its just not paid in less you save your annual and sick leave. Its called being an adult and being responsible. No one should have to pay you additional leave for having a child. Cancer, sure, we should help, but a child, absolutely not. I saved my leave for years so I got paid leave.

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Anonymous wrote:this is such bizarre logic to me. Can no one complain, in this case? When a mom of 1, a newborn, complains that she is tired, is your response "well, YOU chose to have a baby. Either manage it or don't but stop complaining about your choices. You knew what the repercussions would be." When someone says "oh my gosh it's so hot out" is your response "either managing living in a hot city or don't but stop complaining about your own choices."

There are totally people like this on DCUM and elsewhere. "Why should anyone be inconvenienced by maternity leave policies when having a baby is a CHOICE?" "Don't complain about real estate being expensive here, you should've picked a major that pays six figures right out of college and bought a condo at 22, if you don't like it move to Cleveland."

We have maternity leave - its just not paid in less you save your annual and sick leave. Its called being an adult and being responsible. No one should have to pay you additional leave for having a child. Cancer, sure, we should help, but a child, absolutely not. I saved my leave for years so I got paid leave.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m more tired of working parents complaining.

Meh. We are working to pay your social security and taxes that support educating your brood and "retirement" that you will leech off us.

Anonymous wrote:I’m more tired of working parents complaining.

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Anonymous wrote:this is such bizarre logic to me. Can no one complain, in this case? When a mom of 1, a newborn, complains that she is tired, is your response "well, YOU chose to have a baby. Either manage it or don't but stop complaining about your choices. You knew what the repercussions would be." When someone says "oh my gosh it's so hot out" is your response "either managing living in a hot city or don't but stop complaining about your own choices."

There are totally people like this on DCUM and elsewhere. "Why should anyone be inconvenienced by maternity leave policies when having a baby is a CHOICE?" "Don't complain about real estate being expensive here, you should've picked a major that pays six figures right out of college and bought a condo at 22, if you don't like it move to Cleveland."

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously, she had it made by this summer, but she messed it up by having a baby. Of course the pool
Won’t be fun with a 5 month old!

I didn’t really think she was complaining exactly, more looking for advice, but I also didn’t tell her it may be worse next summer with a mobile toddler unless the then 5 y/o is a good swimmer and / or pretty tall in the 3 feet area.

Yeah I think 5 months is easier than a toddler (child depending of course).

A 4 year old isn’t a toddler.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, she had it made by this summer, but she messed it up by having a baby. Of course the pool
Won’t be fun with a 5 month old!

I didn’t really think she was complaining exactly, more looking for advice, but I also didn’t tell her it may be worse next summer with a mobile toddler unless the then 5 y/o is a good swimmer and / or pretty tall in the 3 feet area.

Yeah I think 5 months is easier than a toddler (child depending of course).

A 4 year old isn’t a toddler.

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Anonymous wrote:this is such bizarre logic to me. Can no one complain, in this case? When a mom of 1, a newborn, complains that she is tired, is your response "well, YOU chose to have a baby. Either manage it or don't but stop complaining about your choices. You knew what the repercussions would be." When someone says "oh my gosh it's so hot out" is your response "either managing living in a hot city or don't but stop complaining about your own choices."

There are totally people like this on DCUM and elsewhere. "Why should anyone be inconvenienced by maternity leave policies when having a baby is a CHOICE?" "Don't complain about real estate being expensive here, you should've picked a major that pays six figures right out of college and bought a condo at 22, if you don't like it move to Cleveland."

Anonymous wrote:I’m more tired of working parents complaining.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, she had it made by this summer, but she messed it up by having a baby. Of course the pool
Won’t be fun with a 5 month old!

I didn’t really think she was complaining exactly, more looking for advice, but I also didn’t tell her it may be worse next summer with a mobile toddler unless the then 5 y/o is a good swimmer and / or pretty tall in the 3 feet area.

Yeah I think 5 months is easier than a toddler (child depending of course).

Anonymous wrote:this is such bizarre logic to me. Can no one complain, in this case? When a mom of 1, a newborn, complains that she is tired, is your response "well, YOU chose to have a baby. Either manage it or don't but stop complaining about your choices. You knew what the repercussions would be." When someone says "oh my gosh it's so hot out" is your response "either managing living in a hot city or don't but stop complaining about your own choices."

Anonymous wrote:s/o from the pool life thread. But it extends everywhere. You had three kids by choice. You knew what the repercussions would be for your kids and yourselves. Not as many activities, harder in public places in the younger years etc. You can’t make the defining soccer game because one parent has to travel and you don’t arrange backup? Then don’t sign up for the team, and don’t complain when the coach only selects the “committed” players to move up. It’s your kids that are suffering. Either manage it or don’t but stop complaining about your own choices. Rant over.