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Anonymous wrote:This was your first ultrasound. You don’t know what to expect from the procedures or the questions from the tech, OP. You are likely just nervous.

I can bet one thing, though: what race are you and what race is the tech?

This wasn't my first ultrasound. This is my second pregnancy. This was my first ultrasound during this pregnancy. I did not know what to expect in terms of questions about my preemie. They also didn't have records from my OB about my previous birth. She kept asking why he was premature. I don't know what caused my son to be premature. I went into labor naturally. I was never told there was a reason.

Lady, you don’t get it. She was asking routine questions that are important. No, you did not “naturally” go into labor. Our bodies don’t naturally give birth early. We give birth early when something atypical happens. It could have been an incompetent cervix, an infection, a medical condition that induced uterine contractions, or a million other things. Most likely, your preterm labor resulted from one of a handful of common explanations, some of which can be prevented this time around, and most can at least be monitored for. You are fortunate that you did not have complications with your first. However, you are now more likely to have another preemie, possibly even earlier. Please have some faith in your medical professionals, and if you don’t understand something you should ask for clarification.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was your first ultrasound. You don’t know what to expect from the procedures or the questions from the tech, OP. You are likely just nervous.

I can bet one thing, though: what race are you and what race is the tech?

This wasn't my first ultrasound. This is my second pregnancy. This was my first ultrasound during this pregnancy. I did not know what to expect in terms of questions about my preemie. They also didn't have records from my OB about my previous birth. She kept asking why he was premature. I don't know what caused my son to be premature. I went into labor naturally. I was never told there was a reason.

She still needs to ask.

Perhaps on DCUM women know the gender by 11 weeks but I don't think it's the norm in the US. Those tests are usually not covered by insurance.

Anonymous wrote:This was your first ultrasound. You don’t know what to expect from the procedures or the questions from the tech, OP. You are likely just nervous.

I can bet one thing, though: what race are you and what race is the tech?

This wasn't my first ultrasound. This is my second pregnancy. This was my first ultrasound during this pregnancy. I did not know what to expect in terms of questions about my preemie. They also didn't have records from my OB about my previous birth. She kept asking why he was premature. I don't know what caused my son to be premature. I went into labor naturally. I was never told there was a reason.

Anonymous wrote:I have had 2 week cervix checks after a premature baby. Those questions are completely normal and justified. Most women know the gender by 18 weeks because of testing which occurs at 11 weeks or so. Asking about your previous preemie is standard and there are things that might seem insignificant to you but could be important info that could help prevent another premature birth. Just because you had a seemingly random premature baby doesn’t mean that’s the norm. Many women have contractions leading up to preterm labor, or they had a shortened cervix early on, or a whole host of other medical possibilities. You seem very uninformed beyond your single experience.

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I have had 2 week cervix checks after a premature baby. Those questions are completely normal and justified. Most women know the gender by 18 weeks because of testing which occurs at 11 weeks or so. Asking about your previous preemie is standard and there are things that might seem insignificant to you but could be important info that could help prevent another premature birth. Just because you had a seemingly random premature baby doesn’t mean that’s the norm. Many women have contractions leading up to preterm labor, or they had a shortened cervix early on, or a whole host of other medical possibilities. You seem very uninformed beyond your single experience.

This was your first ultrasound. You don’t know what to expect from the procedures or the questions from the tech, OP. You are likely just nervous.

I can bet one thing, though: what race are you and what race is the tech?

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Anonymous wrote:You and your DH sound crazy!!LL

OP here. My husband wasn't there. I thought his reaction was a little dramatic. I really don't want to say anything but I wanted to get advice on here. I am supposed to come for cervix checks every 2 weeks with the same tech. Maybe she's just very nutty and I smelled something else. I just remember getting closer to her and smelling although. Later on I thought about what we talked about and her reactions seemed a bit strange.

Maybe you are mad your DH didn’t attend and your are displacing your anger?
I mean most guys go to that scan. Most, not all.

No. Not at all. This is my second child. He wasn't at hardly any of my appointments during my first pregnancy. We both work and I am independent. I am not angry at all. I am worried but not angry.

Even when men don’t go to the appointments, they usually go to the anatomy scan. Is he showing any interest in the baby?

Pp stop trying to start a war. Husband's do not need to go to appointments. I always found this weird.

Many women do know the gender by then because of the NIPT you can do in the first trimester.

I had a preemie and the tech asked me a thousand questions about it. If you had pprom without contractions v with v incompetent cervix matters. Whether you have a uterine abnormality matters. I would expect a lot of questions from the tech.

Maybe she was drunk. I don’t know. But the two things above would not make me think that.

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Anonymous wrote:Your DH thinks the u/s could have been done wrong but he wasn’t there? Okay

Yes when someone is drunk on the job things can be done wrong. I don't think him being there would confirm anything. We don't have ultrasound training pp.

I’m sure someone she works with would have noticed if the person was drinking.
You sound unhinged.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it was mouthwash
Honestly, get a life

Wow. No. The fact is, there are alcoholics in every profession, and OP has a perfect right to decline to be seen by this tech. All she has to do is tell the facility she wants a different tech. I'd also get the anatomy scan redone-- would even pay for a 2nd opinion elsewhere.

The radiologist will read the u/s. No need to get it redone. Do you have anxiety?

Anonymous wrote:Your DH thinks the u/s could have been done wrong but he wasn’t there? Okay

Yes when someone is drunk on the job things can be done wrong. I don't think him being there would confirm anything. We don't have ultrasound training pp.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You and your DH sound crazy!!LL

OP here. My husband wasn't there. I thought his reaction was a little dramatic. I really don't want to say anything but I wanted to get advice on here. I am supposed to come for cervix checks every 2 weeks with the same tech. Maybe she's just very nutty and I smelled something else. I just remember getting closer to her and smelling although. Later on I thought about what we talked about and her reactions seemed a bit strange.

Maybe you are mad your DH didn’t attend and your are displacing your anger?
I mean most guys go to that scan. Most, not all.

No. Not at all. This is my second child. He wasn't at hardly any of my appointments during my first pregnancy. We both work and I am independent. I am not angry at all. I am worried but not angry.

Even when men don’t go to the appointments, they usually go to the anatomy scan. Is he showing any interest in the baby?

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it was mouthwash
Honestly, get a life

Wow. No. The fact is, there are alcoholics in every profession, and OP has a perfect right to decline to be seen by this tech. All she has to do is tell the facility she wants a different tech. I'd also get the anatomy scan redone-- would even pay for a 2nd opinion elsewhere.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You and your DH sound crazy!!LL

OP here. My husband wasn't there. I thought his reaction was a little dramatic. I really don't want to say anything but I wanted to get advice on here. I am supposed to come for cervix checks every 2 weeks with the same tech. Maybe she's just very nutty and I smelled something else. I just remember getting closer to her and smelling although. Later on I thought about what we talked about and her reactions seemed a bit strange.

Maybe you are mad your DH didn’t attend and your are displacing your anger?
I mean most guys go to that scan. Most, not all.

No. Not at all. This is my second child. He wasn't at hardly any of my appointments during my first pregnancy. We both work and I am independent. I am not angry at all. I am worried but not angry.