Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 20:24     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Rude. How can anyone question that? I'm confused.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 20:22     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, it does you no good to ruminate on this

Getting people to agree that something was "rude" does not change anything. It does not change anything that's of any importance. It does not help your relationships. It does not make you thinner. It does not help you in any way.

Start focusing on things more important.


I dont want to be thinner. Thanks though.


Yeah, you do. -NP


Not really. I mean I guess if it was easy. But I don't think a 12 -14 is super huge. I can still eat what I like. When I was slim, i didn't have nearly as much fun. It wouldn't be worth the struggle.


If you didn't want to be thinner, his comments wouldn't bother you. I say this as a 12 myself. I eat what I like and have fun, too. But if I focus on someone else's comments about me, I have enough self-awareness to know it's really about how I feel about myself.


You think his comment was appropriate? Is he rude? That was what I was asking.

Even if I wish I was thinner, it doesn't change the fact that he is rude and inappropriate. Why are you trying to make me the bad guy?
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 20:17     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, it does you no good to ruminate on this

Getting people to agree that something was "rude" does not change anything. It does not change anything that's of any importance. It does not help your relationships. It does not make you thinner. It does not help you in any way.

Start focusing on things more important.


I dont want to be thinner. Thanks though.


Yeah, you do. -NP


Not really. I mean I guess if it was easy. But I don't think a 12 -14 is super huge. I can still eat what I like. When I was slim, i didn't have nearly as much fun. It wouldn't be worth the struggle.


If you didn't want to be thinner, his comments wouldn't bother you. I say this as a 12 myself. I eat what I like and have fun, too. But if I focus on someone else's comments about me, I have enough self-awareness to know it's really about how I feel about myself.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 20:16     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Rude
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 20:16     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I think you’re making too much out of it because you’re super insecure about your weight gain. Nobody thinks about it as much as you do.


I'm not really insecure. But I don't think it's polite to do. It's rude. Even if I was insecure, he was trying to make a job about my weight.


Right. It was rude. Yes, and? How may we help you?


I guess I think he is a ass now. I will limit my time with him.


Oh effing kay then. Move on with your day.


I answered the question. What's wrong with you?
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 20:15     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, it does you no good to ruminate on this

Getting people to agree that something was "rude" does not change anything. It does not change anything that's of any importance. It does not help your relationships. It does not make you thinner. It does not help you in any way.

Start focusing on things more important.


I dont want to be thinner. Thanks though.


Yeah, you do. -NP


Not really. I mean I guess if it was easy. But I don't think a 12 -14 is super huge. I can still eat what I like. When I was slim, i didn't have nearly as much fun. It wouldn't be worth the struggle.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 20:08     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, it does you no good to ruminate on this

Getting people to agree that something was "rude" does not change anything. It does not change anything that's of any importance. It does not help your relationships. It does not make you thinner. It does not help you in any way.

Start focusing on things more important.


I dont want to be thinner. Thanks though.


Yeah, you do. -NP
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 20:08     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think you’re making too much out of it because you’re super insecure about your weight gain. Nobody thinks about it as much as you do.


I'm not really insecure. But I don't think it's polite to do. It's rude. Even if I was insecure, he was trying to make a job about my weight.


Right. It was rude. Yes, and? How may we help you?


I guess I think he is a ass now. I will limit my time with him.


Oh effing kay then. Move on with your day.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 20:06     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Rude
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 19:22     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Anonymous wrote:People show you who they are. Believe them.



Agree
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 19:18     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
People show you who they are. Believe them.

Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 19:18     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think you’re making too much out of it because you’re super insecure about your weight gain. Nobody thinks about it as much as you do.


I'm not really insecure. But I don't think it's polite to do. It's rude. Even if I was insecure, he was trying to make a job about my weight.


Right. It was rude. Yes, and? How may we help you?


I guess I think he is a ass now. I will limit my time with him.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 19:15     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think you’re making too much out of it because you’re super insecure about your weight gain. Nobody thinks about it as much as you do.


I'm not really insecure. But I don't think it's polite to do. It's rude. Even if I was insecure, he was trying to make a job about my weight.


Or you could be over thinking this... seriously, it may be all in your head.


He admitted to my sister that he was making a weight joke and he like to be funny. My sister knew what he meant also. That part was NOT in my head.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 19:14     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
Anonymous wrote:OP, it does you no good to ruminate on this

Getting people to agree that something was "rude" does not change anything. It does not change anything that's of any importance. It does not help your relationships. It does not make you thinner. It does not help you in any way.

Start focusing on things more important.


I dont want to be thinner. Thanks though.
Anonymous
Post 06/03/2019 19:13     Subject: Was my BIL rude?
OP, it does you no good to ruminate on this

Getting people to agree that something was "rude" does not change anything. It does not change anything that's of any importance. It does not help your relationships. It does not make you thinner. It does not help you in any way.

Start focusing on things more important.