What? It's tacky for you to write about it here or even think about it. The clothes are hers now. Mind your own business. Go sell something somebody gave you.

We get tons of hand me downs and I’d never sell any of it. I just pass stuff along to others. That’s the point. We are not well off by any standards, so we could definitely use the money. But I’d never do that. Once a neighbor asked to buy my double stroller. It was a hand me down from another friend who told me to just donate it. Well I sold it and gave my friend that money from it.

People are rude and tacky all the time. I wouldn’t give her anything again.

Anonymous wrote:Tacky. But maybe she needs the money? Guessing since you gave it away freely you don’t need the $.

It’s hard to let go of things you give away. I sometimes have sucked at it, but have gotten better with practice. You just let go; it’s no longer yours. If you can’t do that, then sell, donate to a shelter, or other.

Personally I agree, but I'm doing okay. On the other hand a friend who is hurting for money graciously gave her daughter's uniforms to one of her daughter's friends who had younger siblings. They weren't even used by that family, they went up immediately for sale. We're talking within days. Had she known she would have sold them herself, I think she was rightfully annoyed.

That would annoy me too. A friend gave me tons of hand me downs and I would never sell them when I got them for free. If your friend made a mistake and thought something you gave her was from grandma or something, or maybe if you gave a pair of pants that she also received in duplicate as a gift, fine, but purposefully selling all the stuff you gave is annoying. I actually don’t have a problem with people selling items that were bought and given as gifts.

Not tacky but if it bothers you, sell them yourself next time.

Tacky. But maybe she needs the money? Guessing since you gave it away freely you don’t need the $.

It’s hard to let go of things you give away. I sometimes have sucked at it, but have gotten better with practice. You just let go; it’s no longer yours. If you can’t do that, then sell, donate to a shelter, or other.

A friend of mine had this happen and she said something to the other mom. Other mom promptly gave her the items back and they are no longer friends.

The other mom definitely should have asked if you wanted them back. Heck, I was gifted a really nice bassinet and before I gifted it to someone else I made 100% sure the original owner didn't want it back. The original owner actually said something to me like, "no, I don't want it back but you should sell it and make some money!" but I didn't feel right selling it.

I get the sting. It would prob be my knee-jerk reaction too. But in reality, you gifted them to her and she probably barely remembers what items came from where. It’s her to do what she wants. If it were me, I would cit you in. But again, she may not even remember where they came from.

It's tacky what your friend did. On this forum though everyone will say you're tacky for thinking it's tacky. It's a lose lose situation if you post here.

Yes it is tacky. But I also agree that unless you state you want them back, you shouldn't be bothered.

If you give her more things you could note "so and so's daughter is the size below yours, I mentioned to her that you might have stuff to pass down when you're done!"

I always accept hand me downs, but I also ask, when given "do you want these back?" and if the answer is no, I honestly mostly forget where all of the clothes in my kids closets came from. I will either sell or pass on at the end. If they say they want them back, or if they say "so and so would like them next", I take a picture of what they are, so I can remember to pass it on.

She should ask you if you want it back or at least split the sales amount with you but maybe they really need the money. Stop giving her stuff.

Next time you give someone clothes, ask that they pass them on or give them back to you.

What’s the difference between selling and passing them on? Either way someone is getting to wear the clothes again. I’m poorer and always buy used clothes off Facebook. I’m glad people sell on there.

OP here,
I guess i am in the minority. I was just taken aback since we have many friends yet who have little girls or who are pregnant who could have used those clothes. Everything for sale was from me except maybe 3 outfits so i don't think it was a case of her not knowing. Especially since everything i gave her was the same 2 brands.

Anyway, i get that i gave them to her, i would just never think to sell those items without asking or letting the person who gave them to me know i guess. It just seemed a bit tacky to me personally.

Thanks.

Maybe she doesn’t remember what she bought and what you gave her. Who cares?

Eh. I have wealthy friends who give me lots of Hanna, Boden, Tea etc. I have never asked for it or even hinted I wanted it. I do thank them graciously when they give it. My daughter wears and enjoys the clothes. The friends did not loan the clothes or ever make any mention of wanting them back.

When my daughter is done wearing the clothes, I do sell the items still in good condition. These brands fetch a good price! It never occurred to me this was tacky or poor form. If I knew someone personally to give the clothes to I would, but I don’t. But I don’t see how that’s different from me selling them.