Anonymous
05/29/2019 16:51
Subject: Had a play date and ...
Anonymous wrote:WHY ARE
YOU WRITING LIKE
THIS IS A
HAIKU?!
STOP
IT!
I thought the same thing.
And stop saying, “anyways”
Anonymous
05/29/2019 16:24
Subject: Re:Had a play date and ...
Anonymous wrote:Or maybe a favorite recipe that you can fake that you just made for the family, no one has to know that you actually just heated up leftover spaghetti lol.
I would so recommend against this. It's one thing if someone already asked for recipe ideas, but so, so strange to me to offer a (FAKE!) dinner idea as a way of keeping in contact.
Anonymous
05/29/2019 16:19
Subject: Had a play date and ...
Sorry, I'm stuck on the follow up that you think your 4 month old played with their 16+ month olds. What the what? You mean... he lay there?
Anonymous
05/29/2019 14:48
Subject: Had a play date and ...
4 month olds don't have playdates. They don't interact with toddlers at all. You had a mom hangout session, where you sat there with your baby, and the other parents had to run around after their kids. This isn't the way these things work. At least, work well.
Anonymous
05/29/2019 14:42
Subject: Re:Had a play date and ...
I recommend Moms club based on zip code.
Also, a baby and toddler are very different. I have a 2yo but when she was a baby I would sometimes feel left out but she was just too young to participate.
I feel you need to really hit it off with mom or your kids play magically well together.
I have met so many moms where we are friendly but not friends. My kid is so so or fought over a toy. I’m not making effort to hang out.
I recently made a friend who lives far from me, works long hours and our kids are off ages. However, I really liked the mom. She invited us to a bday party and the rest is history. Our families hang out often on weekends now.
Also, a baby and toddler are very different. I have a 2yo but when she was a baby I would sometimes feel left out but she was just too young to participate.
I feel you need to really hit it off with mom or your kids play magically well together.
I have met so many moms where we are friendly but not friends. My kid is so so or fought over a toy. I’m not making effort to hang out.
I recently made a friend who lives far from me, works long hours and our kids are off ages. However, I really liked the mom. She invited us to a bday party and the rest is history. Our families hang out often on weekends now.
Anonymous
05/29/2019 14:24
Subject: Re:Had a play date and ...
Did you get a response? I have two kids and can take DAYS to respond to non-urgent texts. My friends are all the same. Its rude and we frequently apologize to each other but it is what it is.
Keep going to library storytimes etc near your house, parks, etc and you'll find friends.
Keep going to library storytimes etc near your house, parks, etc and you'll find friends.
Anonymous
05/29/2019 11:39
Subject: Had a play date and ...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Did you just get together today, and attempt to innitiate another play date?
Yes. Met up
Today.
Not sure when we will get together again
I texted as a thanks, again “can’t wait to do it again. Have a good rest of your week!”
So, no don’t plan to get together again soon but just wanted to thank them
So why do you expect a response? Your text did not contain a question or anything warranting a response.
Anonymous
05/29/2019 11:37
Subject: Re:Had a play date and ...
Just keep at it OP you'll get there. With this group I would probably send a cute meme to the group chat next, maybe later tonight? Something innocuous but that everyone can relate to, like an "I've got a case of the Mondays" type thing. Or maybe a favorite recipe that you can fake that you just made for the family, no one has to know that you actually just heated up leftover spaghetti lol. Let me know if you need any memes.
Let me know if you need any memes.
Anonymous
05/28/2019 23:38
Subject: Had a play date and ...
Watch Swingers, with Vince Vaughn and Jon Favreau.
Anonymous
05/28/2019 23:38
Subject: Had a play date and ...
WHY ARE
YOU WRITING LIKE
THIS IS A
HAIKU?!
STOP
IT!
YOU WRITING LIKE
THIS IS A
HAIKU?!
STOP
IT!
Anonymous
05/28/2019 23:38
Subject: Had a play date and ...
Anonymous wrote:Oh god, are we back to the "he didn't text me" worries, but for play dates??
They didn't text you, no big deal, no hard feelings, move on... they might text you later, they might not... there could be a million reasons. Live your life. Don't worry so much.
Three day rule
Anonymous
05/28/2019 23:36
Subject: Had a play date and ...
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, you should look for new moms groups in your neighborhood. The kids ages are off enough that I think it’s likely that you won’t form close friendships with these ladies unless you guys really hit it off. Definitely don’t rule them out, but see what meet-ups are happening closer to home with kids a little younger.
Thanks willl try
The moms
Will be moving out of state. All
Of them. One in 1 year. The other 2
In 3. So I know this and am
Ok if we don’t meet up a lot.
Anonymous
05/28/2019 23:35
Subject: Had a play date and ...
Anonymous wrote:The difference between a 4-month-old and a toddler is huge, so don't take it personally if they don't end up including you in a playgroup.
On the positive side, even if nothing happens in the future, you can feel good that you got out and connected with other moms. And in the meantime, this might be a good prompt for you to start working on building a community where you feel likes less of an outlier--other families within 15 minutes of your house, with moms of other babies not yet walking, etc. You should find YOUR neighbor down the block with similar interests and a child close in age! That way, you're building your own social network, whether or not you get back together with this specific group.
Thanks. We met because our husbands are in the same field
But I realize I am an outlier and I told
Myself not to take it personal if they got together without me
since their kids are all toddlers
and mine is 4 months. They all live in the same area too
I am trying to meet local moms but it’s hard
I am joining MOPs and I will start going to story time
I do see moms walking their kids around my neighborhood
But never know how to advertise to them
Anonymous
05/28/2019 22:56
Subject: Had a play date and ...
Honestly, you should look for new moms groups in your neighborhood. The kids ages are off enough that I think it’s likely that you won’t form close friendships with these ladies unless you guys really hit it off. Definitely don’t rule them out, but see what meet-ups are happening closer to home with kids a little younger.
Anonymous
05/28/2019 22:53
Subject: Had a play date and ...
The difference between a 4-month-old and a toddler is huge, so don't take it personally if they don't end up including you in a playgroup.
On the positive side, even if nothing happens in the future, you can feel good that you got out and connected with other moms. And in the meantime, this might be a good prompt for you to start working on building a community where you feel likes less of an outlier--other families within 15 minutes of your house, with moms of other babies not yet walking, etc. You should find YOUR neighbor down the block with similar interests and a child close in age! That way, you're building your own social network, whether or not you get back together with this specific group.
On the positive side, even if nothing happens in the future, you can feel good that you got out and connected with other moms. And in the meantime, this might be a good prompt for you to start working on building a community where you feel likes less of an outlier--other families within 15 minutes of your house, with moms of other babies not yet walking, etc. You should find YOUR neighbor down the block with similar interests and a child close in age! That way, you're building your own social network, whether or not you get back together with this specific group.