Anonymous
05/27/2019 04:20
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
Discuss a wake-up time if it’s that important to you. Otherwise I consider it fine to stay asleep until the sleeper-in wants to wake up. Isn’t that the point?
Anonymous
05/27/2019 02:45
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Dh never got up with ds. Ever.
Same here. My DH never get up early for our 2 young kids. He sleeps in & wakes up past 10am every weekend, and then it takes him more than an hour for shower/brush teeth/get changed etc. He tells me that he is not a morning person, and he loves sleeping. He cannot handle 2 kids at same time.
Since the youngest one is 2 months old, I have been encouraging him to take care of his little girl. She is calm, sleeps all the time, really low maintenance. On weekend, after I feed & change the baby, I take the toddler boy outdoor for 2-4 hours. Most of the time, when I am back home, baby is still sleeping. I have not tried to take 2 kids out of the door by myself yet, afraid to screw up baby sleep pattern & afraid that the oldest acts out & runs away.
He can, but doesn't want to. Why should he, when you will do it instead?
Anonymous
05/27/2019 02:21
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
Anonymous wrote:Dh never got up with ds. Ever.
Same here. My DH never get up early for our 2 young kids. He sleeps in & wakes up past 10am every weekend, and then it takes him more than an hour for shower/brush teeth/get changed etc. He tells me that he is not a morning person, and he loves sleeping. He cannot handle 2 kids at same time.
Since the youngest one is 2 months old, I have been encouraging him to take care of his little girl. She is calm, sleeps all the time, really low maintenance. On weekend, after I feed & change the baby, I take the toddler boy outdoor for 2-4 hours. Most of the time, when I am back home, baby is still sleeping. I have not tried to take 2 kids out of the door by myself yet, afraid to screw up baby sleep pattern & afraid that the oldest acts out & runs away.
Anonymous
05/27/2019 01:56
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
You guys need to have a conversation about what sleeping in means.
You consider it an extra hour of sleep and are up by 8. Does your DH consider that he’s off-duty all morning? Does he think it’s okay to sleep in until noon? You need to ask!
This is a communication fail. Maybe just decide that on weekends you can each stay in bed until 9 or whatever makes sense - BUT make sure that you also take the same time on your day.. If your DH considers it to mean he has the whole AM off and he needs to be up by noon, do that. If you don’t like to sleep that late make sure you get out of the house and do something you enjoy.
You consider it an extra hour of sleep and are up by 8. Does your DH consider that he’s off-duty all morning? Does he think it’s okay to sleep in until noon? You need to ask!
This is a communication fail. Maybe just decide that on weekends you can each stay in bed until 9 or whatever makes sense - BUT make sure that you also take the same time on your day.. If your DH considers it to mean he has the whole AM off and he needs to be up by noon, do that. If you don’t like to sleep that late make sure you get out of the house and do something you enjoy.
Anonymous
05/27/2019 01:19
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
Dh never got up with ds. Ever.
Anonymous
05/26/2019 23:34
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sleeping in...No never. I wake up before the kids during the week plus Saturday to shower, dress, start breakfast, and make lunches for school. Sunday I stay in bed until they wake up...usually around 6:30-7:30, then get up with them and make a big breakfast.
Weekends, DH is out of town a lot for work. If he is home, he often is up early and goes into work or does stuff around the house in the early morning (empties dishwasher, will vacuum or steam floors if I didn’t get to it night before, makes coffee). On occasion he will sleep in until 8-9, but it is rare and usually bc he was woken up a lot for work. The kids are “my job” so I guess I don’t expect to sleep in ever. And he is working hard too at other things, so I can’t complain.
Kids are supposed to want to sleep until noon when they are teenagers, right?
Your answer is not really applicable because apparently no one sleeps in at your house. But give it time, my kids are 8 and 10 and they don’t sleep in, but no one has to wake up with them anymore either.
At 8 and 10 its not really an issue. If you want to sleep in, leave them breakfast (I leave a bowl and cereal on the table with milk in an easy to pour container) and mine just play or ask for the iPad or video games. They wake us when they need or want attention (though husband is usually up).
Anonymous
05/26/2019 23:26
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
We don’t have a set time but we usually get up somewhere between 8-9. Today though my six year old threw a temper tantrum and it didn’t stop until I got up at 7 and told him to go to his room for a time out. So that felt like a rip off. DH could have handled it.
Anonymous
05/26/2019 23:18
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
I'm a morning person, always have been, DH is a night owl, always has been. I get to veg out from 8pm onwards, he gets to sleep as late as he wants. I love mornings, and am at my best then. After 5-6pm, I tend to fade. I've always been this way, unless I nap around 4pm, in which case I'm up for a party. DH is the opposite. We try to "let" each other sleep as much as possible when possible.
Equality does not mean that everything is exactly the same...
Equality does not mean that everything is exactly the same...
Anonymous
05/26/2019 23:07
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
Anonymous wrote:Sleeping in...No never. I wake up before the kids during the week plus Saturday to shower, dress, start breakfast, and make lunches for school. Sunday I stay in bed until they wake up...usually around 6:30-7:30, then get up with them and make a big breakfast.
Weekends, DH is out of town a lot for work. If he is home, he often is up early and goes into work or does stuff around the house in the early morning (empties dishwasher, will vacuum or steam floors if I didn’t get to it night before, makes coffee). On occasion he will sleep in until 8-9, but it is rare and usually bc he was woken up a lot for work. The kids are “my job” so I guess I don’t expect to sleep in ever. And he is working hard too at other things, so I can’t complain.
Kids are supposed to want to sleep until noon when they are teenagers, right?
This sounds like hell. Aren’t your kids older than the toddlers that everyone else is talking about though? Surely elementary or middle schoolers can watch tv and eat cereal on their own?
Anonymous
05/26/2019 23:02
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
Anonymous wrote:Sleeping in...No never. I wake up before the kids during the week plus Saturday to shower, dress, start breakfast, and make lunches for school. Sunday I stay in bed until they wake up...usually around 6:30-7:30, then get up with them and make a big breakfast.
Weekends, DH is out of town a lot for work. If he is home, he often is up early and goes into work or does stuff around the house in the early morning (empties dishwasher, will vacuum or steam floors if I didn’t get to it night before, makes coffee). On occasion he will sleep in until 8-9, but it is rare and usually bc he was woken up a lot for work. The kids are “my job” so I guess I don’t expect to sleep in ever. And he is working hard too at other things, so I can’t complain.
Kids are supposed to want to sleep until noon when they are teenagers, right?
Your answer is not really applicable because apparently no one sleeps in at your house. But give it time, my kids are 8 and 10 and they don’t sleep in, but no one has to wake up with them anymore either.
Anonymous
05/26/2019 22:57
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
Sleeping in...No never. I wake up before the kids during the week plus Saturday to shower, dress, start breakfast, and make lunches for school. Sunday I stay in bed until they wake up...usually around 6:30-7:30, then get up with them and make a big breakfast.
Weekends, DH is out of town a lot for work. If he is home, he often is up early and goes into work or does stuff around the house in the early morning (empties dishwasher, will vacuum or steam floors if I didn’t get to it night before, makes coffee). On occasion he will sleep in until 8-9, but it is rare and usually bc he was woken up a lot for work. The kids are “my job” so I guess I don’t expect to sleep in ever. And he is working hard too at other things, so I can’t complain.
Kids are supposed to want to sleep until noon when they are teenagers, right?
Weekends, DH is out of town a lot for work. If he is home, he often is up early and goes into work or does stuff around the house in the early morning (empties dishwasher, will vacuum or steam floors if I didn’t get to it night before, makes coffee). On occasion he will sleep in until 8-9, but it is rare and usually bc he was woken up a lot for work. The kids are “my job” so I guess I don’t expect to sleep in ever. And he is working hard too at other things, so I can’t complain.
Kids are supposed to want to sleep until noon when they are teenagers, right?
Anonymous
05/26/2019 22:57
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
I physically can’t sleep past 8:30 unless I’m sick. I’m a huge fan of naps though, and take them liberally when I have the opportunity. DH will sleep until noon if I give him the opportunity. Usually we have things going on so I wake him around 10/10:30 because we need to get things going.
Anonymous
05/26/2019 22:50
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
Anonymous wrote:till he wakes up, if that is 11am that's fine. same for me.
Same.
Anonymous
05/26/2019 22:49
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
Anonymous wrote:If you and DH each get one day to sleep in on weekends, how late do you each sleep in?
Our kids are typically up by 6:30 or 7 and when it’s my turn to sleep in I typically get up at 8. This morning was DH’s day and he was annoyed I let one of the kids wake him at 8:30 because he wanted to sleep longer. I was feeding the baby and our older one wanted pancakes but I couldn’t make them for a little while. DH said he doesn’t consider that sleeping in which I think is crazy.
Just curious how late others sleep in.
8:30 is not sleeping in. It was your morning to handle - you had to manage the noise level of the older one and you failed. Team DH.
Anonymous
05/26/2019 22:48
Subject: Trading off sleeping in on weekends
My husband always has done the AM shift. I sleep as late as I want..noon, later...he doesn't mind.