Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:By 13 I did not censor media for my kids, although I did have several talks about why I didn't want them to watch porn.
Let her figure things out herself. The idea that parents micro-manage what their kids read, watch, etc., is ridiculous.
It’s called parenting.
No, it's called micro-managing. I parent my kids. I parent them by giving them the tools to make decisions and think for themselves. I give them the space to make mistakes and learn from them. So when my girls are 20 and home from college, THEY will be able to occupy their free time, and won't need me to crowdsource ideas for them. At 13 a kid should be capable of picking out movies for themselves. And books. And music.
So you believe that is a parent exercises some control over the movies their 13 yo watches, that is indicative of micromanaging on a level that would render the kid unable to figure out how to occupy her time when she is 20, and home from college? Logic isn't your first language, is it?
Look, you rationalize it however you want - you're teaching them to be independent, and self-sufficient, and whatever. But in reality, advocating that a 13 yo be permitted to watch whatever movie they want, without any parental input or control whatsoever, is just abdicating responsibility, and indicative of a parent who is just too lazy or disinterested in her kid to do even minimal work.
If you don't believe me, go ask a bunch of strangers is 13 yos should be able to watch any movie they want, and see the reaction you get.
I don't care one bit what a "bunch of strangers" think about how I parent. Why would anyone? I'm not lazy or disinterested. When my daughter wanted to watch Dirty Dancing I watched it with her, and we had big talks about illegal abortions and dating older men and parental approval. But hey, I'm sure you feel really good about yourself that you think you're better than some stranger on the internet.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:By 13 I did not censor media for my kids, although I did have several talks about why I didn't want them to watch porn.
Let her figure things out herself. The idea that parents micro-manage what their kids read, watch, etc., is ridiculous.
It’s called parenting.
No, it's called micro-managing. I parent my kids. I parent them by giving them the tools to make decisions and think for themselves. I give them the space to make mistakes and learn from them. So when my girls are 20 and home from college, THEY will be able to occupy their free time, and won't need me to crowdsource ideas for them. At 13 a kid should be capable of picking out movies for themselves. And books. And music.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:By 13 I did not censor media for my kids, although I did have several talks about why I didn't want them to watch porn.
Let her figure things out herself. The idea that parents micro-manage what their kids read, watch, etc., is ridiculous.
It’s called parenting.
No, it's called micro-managing. I parent my kids. I parent them by giving them the tools to make decisions and think for themselves. I give them the space to make mistakes and learn from them. So when my girls are 20 and home from college, THEY will be able to occupy their free time, and won't need me to crowdsource ideas for them. At 13 a kid should be capable of picking out movies for themselves. And books. And music.
Wow. I just disagree with this so much. 13 years old?? You really don't know anything about human development. The brain of a 13 year old is SO FAR from the brain of even a young adult. Just wow. I hope it works out for you and your daughter the way you think it will
While this is true, it does not mean that a 13 year old can’t distinguish fiction from reality. Or understand sex. My 12 year old is quite mature (tho also a tomboy not at all interested in sex, as far as I can tell) and she’s allowed to watch pretty much whatever she wants. She always asks me questions when she sees something she doesn’t understand, and I’m happy to discuss it with her.
13 year olds not having the same brains as young adults does not mean they’re stupid.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:By 13 I did not censor media for my kids, although I did have several talks about why I didn't want them to watch porn.
Let her figure things out herself. The idea that parents micro-manage what their kids read, watch, etc., is ridiculous.
It’s called parenting.
No, it's called micro-managing. I parent my kids. I parent them by giving them the tools to make decisions and think for themselves. I give them the space to make mistakes and learn from them. So when my girls are 20 and home from college, THEY will be able to occupy their free time, and won't need me to crowdsource ideas for them. At 13 a kid should be capable of picking out movies for themselves. And books. And music.
Wow. I just disagree with this so much. 13 years old?? You really don't know anything about human development. The brain of a 13 year old is SO FAR from the brain of even a young adult. Just wow. I hope it works out for you and your daughter the way you think it will
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:By 13 I did not censor media for my kids, although I did have several talks about why I didn't want them to watch porn.
Let her figure things out herself. The idea that parents micro-manage what their kids read, watch, etc., is ridiculous.
It’s called parenting.
No, it's called micro-managing. I parent my kids. I parent them by giving them the tools to make decisions and think for themselves. I give them the space to make mistakes and learn from them. So when my girls are 20 and home from college, THEY will be able to occupy their free time, and won't need me to crowdsource ideas for them. At 13 a kid should be capable of picking out movies for themselves. And books. And music.
So you believe that is a parent exercises some control over the movies their 13 yo watches, that is indicative of micromanaging on a level that would render the kid unable to figure out how to occupy her time when she is 20, and home from college? Logic isn't your first language, is it?
Look, you rationalize it however you want - you're teaching them to be independent, and self-sufficient, and whatever. But in reality, advocating that a 13 yo be permitted to watch whatever movie they want, without any parental input or control whatsoever, is just abdicating responsibility, and indicative of a parent who is just too lazy or disinterested in her kid to do even minimal work.
If you don't believe me, go ask a bunch of strangers is 13 yos should be able to watch any movie they want, and see the reaction you get.
I don't care one bit what a "bunch of strangers" think about how I parent. Why would anyone? I'm not lazy or disinterested. When my daughter wanted to watch Dirty Dancing I watched it with her, and we had big talks about illegal abortions and dating older men and parental approval. But hey, I'm sure you feel really good about yourself that you think you're better than some stranger on the internet.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:By 13 I did not censor media for my kids, although I did have several talks about why I didn't want them to watch porn.
Let her figure things out herself. The idea that parents micro-manage what their kids read, watch, etc., is ridiculous.
It’s called parenting.
No, it's called micro-managing. I parent my kids. I parent them by giving them the tools to make decisions and think for themselves. I give them the space to make mistakes and learn from them. So when my girls are 20 and home from college, THEY will be able to occupy their free time, and won't need me to crowdsource ideas for them. At 13 a kid should be capable of picking out movies for themselves. And books. And music.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:By 13 I did not censor media for my kids, although I did have several talks about why I didn't want them to watch porn.
Let her figure things out herself. The idea that parents micro-manage what their kids read, watch, etc., is ridiculous.
It’s called parenting.
No, it's called micro-managing. I parent my kids. I parent them by giving them the tools to make decisions and think for themselves. I give them the space to make mistakes and learn from them. So when my girls are 20 and home from college, THEY will be able to occupy their free time, and won't need me to crowdsource ideas for them. At 13 a kid should be capable of picking out movies for themselves. And books. And music.
So you believe that is a parent exercises some control over the movies their 13 yo watches, that is indicative of micromanaging on a level that would render the kid unable to figure out how to occupy her time when she is 20, and home from college? Logic isn't your first language, is it?
Look, you rationalize it however you want - you're teaching them to be independent, and self-sufficient, and whatever. But in reality, advocating that a 13 yo be permitted to watch whatever movie they want, without any parental input or control whatsoever, is just abdicating responsibility, and indicative of a parent who is just too lazy or disinterested in her kid to do even minimal work.
If you don't believe me, go ask a bunch of strangers is 13 yos should be able to watch any movie they want, and see the reaction you get.
Anonymous wrote:By 13 I did not censor media for my kids, although I did have several talks about why I didn't want them to watch porn.
Let her figure things out herself. The idea that parents micro-manage what their kids read, watch, etc., is ridiculous.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:By 13 I did not censor media for my kids, although I did have several talks about why I didn't want them to watch porn.
Let her figure things out herself. The idea that parents micro-manage what their kids read, watch, etc., is ridiculous.
It’s called parenting.
No, it's called micro-managing. I parent my kids. I parent them by giving them the tools to make decisions and think for themselves. I give them the space to make mistakes and learn from them. So when my girls are 20 and home from college, THEY will be able to occupy their free time, and won't need me to crowdsource ideas for them. At 13 a kid should be capable of picking out movies for themselves. And books. And music.