Anonymous wrote:I know have an afternoon babysitter for my 9 and 10 year old instead of after school care, and I have noticed that they snack the entire time with the babysitter. I've stopped buying snack foods. Now, they are baking cupcakes, etc. which is even worse because they trash the kitchen. I'm at the wits end as well because 1. it's not healthy. 2. I end up spending 30-40 minutes cleaning the kitchen when I get home before I can start dinner. My 10 year old has ADHD and is very challenging to manage so I don't want to set unrealistic expectations for the babysitter knowing how one of my children behaves. I'm following this thread closely.
OP here and yes I can commiserate. Up until a couple months ago we had an au pair who was watching the kids after school and it was the same thing. They would literally snack nonstop for two hours in front of the TV until I got home to make dinners. Then they wouldn’t eat dinner and would be up snacking again all night. When au pairs Year was up we now have them in extended day which helps avoid that issue. I will only use extended day now. It’s much less convenient for me having to do pickup, but at least there they are playing and doing arts and crafts and sports and activities instead of screens and noshing. Our AP didn’t even bake with them. But yes... the mess would have driven me bonkers and I would have had to say something. I think the PPs offer helpful suggestions. Maybe they can bake or make healthier things like granola bars with honey, something with nut butter, or geesh take them bike riding.