Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 11:56     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The mommy wars and mom shaming start early, OP. Check your judgement of these women, because soon you will be on the receiving end of it, on every choice you make about your birth, your parenting, how your child is fed, if you work or don’t work, and more.


OP here. In my post I mentioned that this is my 3rd. I'm well aware how this stuff works. But thanks. And yes I'm judging the women who are smoking pot while pregnant, clearly don't have the resources be having another child, have no common sense whatsoever etc... For example, for my last point a woman was posting that she was declining all ultrasounds because "she doesn't want to radiate the baby". Or another one who is refusing NIPT testing for fear of miscarriage. I mean, these aren't parenting differences they are simply just examples of stupidity.


And what exactly does judgement do for you, OP? Does it make you feel superior? Does it make you feel better than someone else? Does it make you feel smug and privileged? Does it make you feel smart, because all those women are “so dumb”? Does it make you feel like a lion, basking in your glory above the sheep? Why exactly DID you start a nasty judgement thread about other moms? I think it says much more about you, than it does them.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 10:57     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Almost daily in mind people post that they are out of money and people send them cash, diapers, toys at Xmas. Yes, sometimes people need a hand but every day someone is putting up a gofundme or Amazon wishlist. Gotta be done scammers.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 10:19     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wait, what is babydust?


Its just a silly thing you tell someone trying to conceive. Like, 'i'm sprinking some baby dust on you this month!'

Like good juju for getting pregnant. I agree its silly but can't imagine how it could be offensive.


I don’t think it was ironic or making fun, I think they were deadly serious. But apparently some people who have had pregnancy losses had to cremate their babies remains, so “baby dust” = dead babies. It seems to just be localized to just The Bump, I have never seen that term have a negative connotation anywhere else and I’m even a part of a few infertility and secondary infertility groups.


Jesus. That is intense. The bump is nuts there. If you talk about gender you get 7 million people yelling at you about gender vs sex. They are very insular and nasty over there. Or they were a few years ago. There were a bunch of people who had been there a long time who considered themselves the police of the board and would just rip new people to shreds for asking pretty innocent questions.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 10:06     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:The mommy wars and mom shaming start early, OP. Check your judgement of these women, because soon you will be on the receiving end of it, on every choice you make about your birth, your parenting, how your child is fed, if you work or don’t work, and more.


OP here. In my post I mentioned that this is my 3rd. I'm well aware how this stuff works. But thanks. And yes I'm judging the women who are smoking pot while pregnant, clearly don't have the resources be having another child, have no common sense whatsoever etc... For example, for my last point a woman was posting that she was declining all ultrasounds because "she doesn't want to radiate the baby". Or another one who is refusing NIPT testing for fear of miscarriage. I mean, these aren't parenting differences they are simply just examples of stupidity.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 09:54     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:My cousin just named her son Cashton. I can’t even.


lmao
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 09:45     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like babycenter! That place is insane and makes me worry for the next generation. No one is married, no one works (sah girlfriends?), and they have too many kids.


I run in DCUM type circles and my partner and I are happily together but not married. I guess good to know people are silently looking down on me? But then again who am I to judge judging because everything else described sounds quite trashy to me. Begging for money on the internet especially.


Seriously? There’s literally no way you didn’t already know this before reading this thread.


Being an unmarried couple with a child has always been taboo. This is not a new thing. And if you think people are looking down on you-you should think about your kid. My parents were never married and it was a constant source of anxiety and people definitely thought less of me. That is until we moved and I just told people my parents were divorced which was much more socially acceptable.


np. I disagree, it's not this way anymore. if you are in a stable long-term relationship, i don't think people bat an eye. in fact, how would anyone know? I know lots of couples (same sex, different sex) and their kids, I don't demand to see a marriage certificate. And married people can have different last names, like me. I didn't change my name.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 09:45     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wait, what is babydust?


Its just a silly thing you tell someone trying to conceive. Like, 'i'm sprinking some baby dust on you this month!'

Like good juju for getting pregnant. I agree its silly but can't imagine how it could be offensive.


I don’t think it was ironic or making fun, I think they were deadly serious. But apparently some people who have had pregnancy losses had to cremate their babies remains, so “baby dust” = dead babies. It seems to just be localized to just The Bump, I have never seen that term have a negative connotation anywhere else and I’m even a part of a few infertility and secondary infertility groups.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 09:42     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:The mommy wars and mom shaming start early, OP. Check your judgement of these women, because soon you will be on the receiving end of it, on every choice you make about your birth, your parenting, how your child is fed, if you work or don’t work, and more.


Not OP but I literally could not care less what some unmarried 23 year old on baby daddy #3 has to say about me or my kids. “The lion doesn’t concern itself with the opinions of the sheep.”
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 09:34     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:Wait, what is babydust?


Its just a silly thing you tell someone trying to conceive. Like, 'i'm sprinking some baby dust on you this month!'

Like good juju for getting pregnant. I agree its silly but can't imagine how it could be offensive.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 09:31     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
The mommy wars and mom shaming start early, OP. Check your judgement of these women, because soon you will be on the receiving end of it, on every choice you make about your birth, your parenting, how your child is fed, if you work or don’t work, and more.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 09:09     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Wait, what is babydust?
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 09:07     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:My cousin just named her son Cashton. I can’t even.


Mine named her son Cash. Which I thought was pretty bad, but I think Cashton is worse.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 07:40     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Being an unmarried couple with a child has always been taboo... in America. It’s much more common in Europe.

Agree the hot mess relationships make one worry about humanity. Life is tough for a lot of people. Many grow up in communities where they often don’t know any better.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 07:33     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like babycenter! That place is insane and makes me worry for the next generation. No one is married, no one works (sah girlfriends?), and they have too many kids.


I run in DCUM type circles and my partner and I are happily together but not married. I guess good to know people are silently looking down on me? But then again who am I to judge judging because everything else described sounds quite trashy to me. Begging for money on the internet especially.


Seriously? There’s literally no way you didn’t already know this before reading this thread.


Being an unmarried couple with a child has always been taboo. This is not a new thing. And if you think people are looking down on you-you should think about your kid. My parents were never married and it was a constant source of anxiety and people definitely thought less of me. That is until we moved and I just told people my parents were divorced which was much more socially acceptable.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2019 07:30     Subject: Anybody join due date groups on Facebook? These women are something...
Anonymous wrote:The names are killing me in my FB due date group. SO BAD. Just in the last name post I saw a Trinity, Harleigh Lynn, Jacklynn, Karsyn, Evryn, Drydyn, Jaxxyon, Emberleigh, and Draco. Not even sure if some of them are boys or girls. And yes, there's a bunch of begging for money/donations, tons of sob stories, so many hot mess relationships. There really are two Americas ...


The amount of hot mess relationships are really disturbing. They will post screenshots of conversations between them and the father and they are just terrible.