Anonymous
05/11/2019 17:28
Subject: HS grad party - alcohol for adults
I think you're way over thinking this. Have some wine and beer in the fridge and direct the adults to that, and put out the non-alcoholic drinks in coolers/bins for all to access.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 17:05
Subject: HS grad party - alcohol for adults
OP, only you know how this will go --- a huge number of people, not knowing what's going on, teens trying to circumvent the rules OR a small intimate gathering where it's obvious who's drinking and who isn't.
If you have any worries about the issue of who's drinking, then don't have alcohol.
If you have any worries about the issue of who's drinking, then don't have alcohol.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 17:01
Subject: HS grad party - alcohol for adults
You don't need alcohol at every party and given the focus of this party is on teens, I would not serve alcohol,
The only people who are going to care are the alcoholics and they can figure out a plan. Plus it will save you a lot of money!
The only people who are going to care are the alcoholics and they can figure out a plan. Plus it will save you a lot of money!
Anonymous
05/11/2019 16:55
Subject: HS grad party - alcohol for adults
Use a bartender or have the alcohol out of the main area and let the adults know they can help themselves if even that.
I never found it rude when my parents or friends' parents had alcohol at parties for us and had alcohol for their older guests.
I never found it rude when my parents or friends' parents had alcohol at parties for us and had alcohol for their older guests.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 14:20
Subject: HS grad party - alcohol for adults
My Memorial Day Barbecue with teens with include alcohol for the adults. My graduation party for my son will not. If your adults require alcohol you can make a different choice.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 13:13
Subject: HS grad party - alcohol for adults
I have been to many HS grad parties and there was always beer and wine. If you expect a big crowd, I would use a bartender. You and your DH won't have time to monitor/watch. If it's a smaller group, place the beer/wine cooler front and center and separate from the waters and sodas.
Of course, this advice s f you want to serve alcoholic beverages. Be safe and have fun.
Of course, this advice s f you want to serve alcoholic beverages. Be safe and have fun.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 12:19
Subject: Re:HS grad party - alcohol for adults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Of course the adults are allowed to socialize and have a drink. Do you withhold every time you have families over?
Do you have to drink every time you socialize? No one is saying they aren't allowed but the op is worried about 17 and 18 years drinking at her party and then her being responsible.
If you can't go ONE event without alcohol than you are an alcoholic or have serious drinking problem. If you can't live without it, drink before or after.
And if your kid, and the kids at the party, can't be trusted to not pilfer drinks
Are you seriously sating that if you high school kids at a party, no alcohol should be served? So when I have a BBQ with 2 families, no beer? At our annual 4th of july party, not wine?
That's idiotic.
You didn't come on here to ask any opinions about your BBQ so I didn't and won't offer any advice on what you serve. You can do whatever you want.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 12:06
Subject: Re:HS grad party - alcohol for adults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DS graduated last year and before his party a friend told me that the law is that if one of the kids were to consume alcohol at your home and ended up in an accident you could be charged. I never researched it so I'm not sure if that's accurate but it was enough to make us decide not to serve the adults. i admit to being a nervous nelly about that kind of thing though.
NP. Do not apologize for not wanting to have alcohol there, and please don't laugh it off and tell friends, "i'm just such a nervous nellie." Your party, your rules, venue or not. As PPs are saying, it's fine not to serve any alcohol. Most of my friends would not even bat an eyelash at a party honoring a teen and hosting teens being a party that just doesn't have alcohol.
All the posters saying they trust their kids, or they wouldn't invite kids they couldn't trust not to drink, or adults should be able to drink if they want--you and OP should ignore them. If YOU as the host aren't comfortable serving alcohol because of, as OP put it, the optics, then don't serve it. If you have adult friends who would care so very much that they'd judge you for not serving alcohol. then question whether they're really worth having as friends. They can leave the judgement at home.
OP, I also agree with the PP who said that not serving alcohol is respectful of the person being honored.
This.
Agree
Personally, I would be okay with serving alcohol, but if that is not what you want OP, then that is totally a reasonable choice.
It’s nice that you’re having a party. Do what makes you comfortable.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 11:47
Subject: Re:HS grad party - alcohol for adults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:DS graduated last year and before his party a friend told me that the law is that if one of the kids were to consume alcohol at your home and ended up in an accident you could be charged. I never researched it so I'm not sure if that's accurate but it was enough to make us decide not to serve the adults. i admit to being a nervous nelly about that kind of thing though.
NP. Do not apologize for not wanting to have alcohol there, and please don't laugh it off and tell friends, "i'm just such a nervous nellie." Your party, your rules, venue or not. As PPs are saying, it's fine not to serve any alcohol. Most of my friends would not even bat an eyelash at a party honoring a teen and hosting teens being a party that just doesn't have alcohol.
All the posters saying they trust their kids, or they wouldn't invite kids they couldn't trust not to drink, or adults should be able to drink if they want--you and OP should ignore them. If YOU as the host aren't comfortable serving alcohol because of, as OP put it, the optics, then don't serve it. If you have adult friends who would care so very much that they'd judge you for not serving alcohol. then question whether they're really worth having as friends. They can leave the judgement at home.
OP, I also agree with the PP who said that not serving alcohol is respectful of the person being honored.
This.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 11:25
Subject: Re:HS grad party - alcohol for adults
Anonymous wrote:DS graduated last year and before his party a friend told me that the law is that if one of the kids were to consume alcohol at your home and ended up in an accident you could be charged. I never researched it so I'm not sure if that's accurate but it was enough to make us decide not to serve the adults. i admit to being a nervous nelly about that kind of thing though.
NP. Do not apologize for not wanting to have alcohol there, and please don't laugh it off and tell friends, "i'm just such a nervous nellie." Your party, your rules, venue or not. As PPs are saying, it's fine not to serve any alcohol. Most of my friends would not even bat an eyelash at a party honoring a teen and hosting teens being a party that just doesn't have alcohol.
All the posters saying they trust their kids, or they wouldn't invite kids they couldn't trust not to drink, or adults should be able to drink if they want--you and OP should ignore them. If YOU as the host aren't comfortable serving alcohol because of, as OP put it, the optics, then don't serve it. If you have adult friends who would care so very much that they'd judge you for not serving alcohol. then question whether they're really worth having as friends. They can leave the judgement at home.
OP, I also agree with the PP who said that not serving alcohol is respectful of the person being honored.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 10:35
Subject: HS grad party - alcohol for adults
Anonymous wrote:We have gotten a keg of root beer for our last two parties. Lots of fun for everyone and really quite good. You will likely have left overs which do not keep, but everyone loved it.
Love this idea!
Anonymous
05/11/2019 10:32
Subject: Re:HS grad party - alcohol for adults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Of course the adults are allowed to socialize and have a drink. Do you withhold every time you have families over?
Do you have to drink every time you socialize? No one is saying they aren't allowed but the op is worried about 17 and 18 years drinking at her party and then her being responsible.
If you can't go ONE event without alcohol than you are an alcoholic or have serious drinking problem. If you can't live without it, drink before or after.
And if your kid, and the kids at the party, can't be trusted to not pilfer drinks
Are you seriously sating that if you high school kids at a party, no alcohol should be served? So when I have a BBQ with 2 families, no beer? At our annual 4th of july party, not wine?
That's idiotic.
I'm the PP who has a drink around teenagers and I agree. If you have a teenager who can't be trusted Don't bring them to my house.
Mine has gone out in the middle of the night to pick up friends who have been drinking. He goes to parties to be DD. I Don't worry about him and we've never hidden alcohol.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 10:28
Subject: HS grad party - alcohol for adults
We have a drink around our 18 year old and his friends. We aren't driving. What's the problem? Why shouldn't they see adults being responsible?
Mind you a case of beer lasts us a year and the last glass in a bottle of wine is likely to go down the drain.
Mind you a case of beer lasts us a year and the last glass in a bottle of wine is likely to go down the drain.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 10:24
Subject: Re:HS grad party - alcohol for adults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Of course the adults are allowed to socialize and have a drink. Do you withhold every time you have families over?
Do you have to drink every time you socialize? No one is saying they aren't allowed but the op is worried about 17 and 18 years drinking at her party and then her being responsible.
If you can't go ONE event without alcohol than you are an alcoholic or have serious drinking problem. If you can't live without it, drink before or after.
And if your kid, and the kids at the party, can't be trusted to not pilfer drinks
Are you seriously sating that if you high school kids at a party, no alcohol should be served? So when I have a BBQ with 2 families, no beer? At our annual 4th of july party, not wine?
That's idiotic.
Anonymous
05/11/2019 10:12
Subject: HS grad party - alcohol for adults
Forgot to add -- with the root beer you also get desert by making root beer floats