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Anonymous wrote:Marry him, idiot.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't seem like you want it (which is fine!) If that is the case, I would abort and tell him I miscarried.

This. Financial support is one thing, but if you don't want a 3rd kid you are well within your rights to have an abortion without his approval. If he was so Catholic he would already be married and not having sex with casual partners without a condom. So don't let his pretend religion get in the way if this is the path you want.

If he’s not even your boyfriend I don’t think his opinion counts for a lot. What do you want?

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Anonymous wrote:Marry him?

I’ve thought about this. I worry, though, because he hasn’t even met my children, and it would be a huge change for everyone involved in a very short amount of time. Seems like a recipe for disaster.

Abort. He hasn't even MET your children? And you're going to spring this huge change on them all at once? Not just a new step-parent type person but a baby??? No way.

Anonymous wrote:Remember in your thinking just because hes rich doesn't mean that you will get a windfall and be able to hire nanny's and outsource care as op said. Hes there to support the baby not make your life easier with his millions.

If he doesn't want to help make her life easier as the mother of his child, then why should she continue with a pregnancy only he wants?

This is a serious question. You're saying she shouldn't feel entitled to his money as a means to make her life easier. Well, why should he feel entitled to her body for pregnancy and efforts raising a child 'he desperately wants'? Why should he feel entitled taking away resources from her existing children to support his child?

OP, you really need to lay your cards on the table. Be up front about finances. Pregnancy and motherhood will have a huge impact on your career and your ability to provide for the two children you already have. What is he willing to offer in terms of help, financial, emotional, time, etc. You have very little time to make this decision. Don't go into it with vague assurances. Personally, if I already had 2 children, I would not continue this pregnancy with the terms that he's only there to support the baby and your needs aren't his concern.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marry him, idiot.

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This man has never even met her kids. Seems idiotic to rush into marriage.

You don't seem like you want it (which is fine!) If that is the case, I would abort and tell him I miscarried.

Anonymous wrote:Marry him, idiot.

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Marry him, idiot.

Abort. You don't want it, it doesn't matter what he wants, or that he's "Catholic". Honestly, you should never have told him. This will probably end your relationship with him, but it doesn't sound like it was going anywhere anyway.

Remember in your thinking just because hes rich doesn't mean that you will get a windfall and be able to hire nanny's and outsource care as op said. Hes there to support the baby not make your life easier with his millions.

Maybe it's because I am from a different culture but I would definitely get an abortion in that case. Marrying the guy? Come on, this is never going to work out.

Do not marry him. He hasn't met your kids. Can you imagine

"Hi kids this is Steve. We've been dating for awhile. And we are getting married. Oh and also you are going to have a new baby sibling in a few months".

Do you want to spend your life with him? Take some time to think of your future..

Married and have baby?
Single and he raises baby?
Single and you get an abortion?

Then when you've thought about what YOU want, discuss it with him.

You really only have 3 choices.

1 abortion
2 keep the baby and do 50/50 coparenting
3 give the baby to him to raise and you get visitation.

There's alot to consider such as just because he says he'll support you will he and is it just financially. What type of parent does he plan on being. Can you take the time and stop working to go on maternity leave and financially support another child and mentally be there for all 3 kids needs. How will this affect your other children.

If he has millions, that will make things much easier on you. Seriously, get a full time nanny for the baby and who can also help with school
Pick up for older kids. Outsource cooking and cleaning. I’m super pro choice but I think you should have the baby. He sounds like he will be involved. You have dated for a year and you love him, why are assuming it’s going to end?