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Anonymous wrote:My husband rides like he's training for a marathon. Everything is about the bike. I'm driving 10 hours to help my DD pack up before graduation from college, then driving back. We have a high school kid and one still in college at home. They will be doing the lion's share of the work with the dogs while I'm gone but I've asked my husband to not ride two days out of the six I'm gone because it's a 12 hour day and my kids both have finals/tests to study for and to take, etc. I don't want to put the burden fully on them. The dogs are old and need to go out, etc. He also won't be able to ride Sun and Mon as he'll be at his DD's graduation.

Apparently, this is a huge hardship and he's looking for ways to ride anyway those days. It's insane! Normally I never restrict his ability to ride because it doesn't affect me. The fact that I'm doing all the physical work regarding our DD's moving doesn't seem to even dawn on him - it's all about when he can ride, how long he can ride, etc. It's absolutely maddening! I'm hoping it pours rain on Thursday.

Getting tired of this sh*t.

Some guys pretend to do sports and they hop to their girlfriends. Check where he is going.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MAMIL.

Be glad that he doing something that supports heart health. Track him on an app, and let it go. He could be having a different kind of middle aged crisis.

Your standards are exceedingly low.

And the posters that are responding are divorced, right. Decide which is more important. And stop doing it all.

Anonymous wrote:The sad part is most of these obsessed people believe they are actually doing their part. I get platitudes like "I would never let X or Y to happen", yet when I ask something simple like can you come home at lunch to let the dog out because I am going out for the day (he's about 20 minutes from the house), it will be "too much traffic" which is code for "I can't ride that day if I do". When we were looking for a house years ago, all homes that did not allow a rideable access to the WO&D was out of the question because "taking your car to a trailhead is just not done by serious riders". Now that we are within 5 years of moving, location will be based on how good/close we are to the bike trails. Everything - EVERYTHING - centers around the bike.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this will make him take a break

http://www.mtbtreks.com/bike-riding-increases-the-risk-of-prostate-and-testicular-cancer/

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I was. And in the winter, skiing. I hated it because we eventually had no relationship at all, even though I do these sports too. I do not engage in these activities to the detriment or instead of all my other obligations, like my children or my relationships or even basic chores. We are now divorced. I had no idea this was so common. I felt so rejected and hurt by his behavior. The worst incident was when he left me home alone with newborn twins, recovering from a c-section just delirious with sleep deprivation. But hey, no friends (or wife and family) on a powder day, right?! I eventually gave up and left him, and he blames me for the end of our shell of a marriage. Obtuse to the bitter end.

I thought he was unusual but maybe not. He was also on Strava and obsessed with his college racing days. Maybe this is a type A thing....?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband rides like he's training for a marathon. Everything is about the bike. I'm driving 10 hours to help my DD pack up before graduation from college, then driving back. We have a high school kid and one still in college at home. They will be doing the lion's share of the work with the dogs while I'm gone but I've asked my husband to not ride two days out of the six I'm gone because it's a 12 hour day and my kids both have finals/tests to study for and to take, etc. I don't want to put the burden fully on them. The dogs are old and need to go out, etc. He also won't be able to ride Sun and Mon as he'll be at his DD's graduation.

Apparently, this is a huge hardship and he's looking for ways to ride anyway those days. It's insane! Normally I never restrict his ability to ride because it doesn't affect me. The fact that I'm doing all the physical work regarding our DD's moving doesn't seem to even dawn on him - it's all about when he can ride, how long he can ride, etc. It's absolutely maddening! I'm hoping it pours rain on Thursday.

Getting tired of this sh*t.

Some guys pretend to do sports and they hop to their girlfriends. Check where he is going.

Anonymous wrote:So they are as douchy as they seem on the streets/trails in their ridiculous spandex.

Lance wannabes

Anonymous wrote:My husband rides like he's training for a marathon. Everything is about the bike. I'm driving 10 hours to help my DD pack up before graduation from college, then driving back. We have a high school kid and one still in college at home. They will be doing the lion's share of the work with the dogs while I'm gone but I've asked my husband to not ride two days out of the six I'm gone because it's a 12 hour day and my kids both have finals/tests to study for and to take, etc. I don't want to put the burden fully on them. The dogs are old and need to go out, etc. He also won't be able to ride Sun and Mon as he'll be at his DD's graduation.

Apparently, this is a huge hardship and he's looking for ways to ride anyway those days. It's insane! Normally I never restrict his ability to ride because it doesn't affect me. The fact that I'm doing all the physical work regarding our DD's moving doesn't seem to even dawn on him - it's all about when he can ride, how long he can ride, etc. It's absolutely maddening! I'm hoping it pours rain on Thursday.

Getting tired of this sh*t.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MAMIL.

Be glad that he doing something that supports heart health. Track him on an app, and let it go. He could be having a different kind of middle aged crisis.

Your standards are exceedingly low.