Let him know you are interested by casually flirting and paying attention to how he responds. If he is up for it, you will eventually know, and it will happen.

Anonymous wrote:Keep walking, I am not interested in giving you advice or being involved with your adultery. Gross.

Probably wouldn't want your advice!

OP, this is what you want:

https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/

Keep walking, I am not interested in giving you advice or being involved with your adultery. Gross.

you'll probably get better advice in the explicit section

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t. You will scratch your itch but later on you may end up dealing with a lot of troubles (breaking your spouse trust, possible divorce, messing up your colleague family, your kids in therapy after separation, lawyers bills etc). Not worth the risk.

OP here. I am aware of the consequences of my actions should it be found out. However, that wasn't the intent of my post. I am interested in pursuing this, just not sure how as I've never had an affair before. I know it's wrong on many levels to sleep with a man thats not my husband. That doesnt change the fact I still want to, and would given the chance. I just dont know how to approach him, and I may very well get shut down if he is like the rest of you shaking your finger at me

Then take actual responsibility for those feelings, be an adult, and end your marriage before pursuing another relationship. What you’re considering is unbelievably selfish. It doesn’t matter if your husband maybe already has done it.

So many people around here who know how to run other people's lives. What are you doing on a message board? You should be selling your advice for a ton of money if it's so good.

(Or you can just stop judging and mind your own business.)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t. You will scratch your itch but later on you may end up dealing with a lot of troubles (breaking your spouse trust, possible divorce, messing up your colleague family, your kids in therapy after separation, lawyers bills etc). Not worth the risk.

OP here. I am aware of the consequences of my actions should it be found out. However, that wasn't the intent of my post. I am interested in pursuing this, just not sure how as I've never had an affair before. I know it's wrong on many levels to sleep with a man thats not my husband. That doesnt change the fact I still want to, and would given the chance. I just dont know how to approach him, and I may very well get shut down if he is like the rest of you shaking your finger at me

Then take actual responsibility for those feelings, be an adult, and end your marriage before pursuing another relationship. What you’re considering is unbelievably selfish. It doesn’t matter if your husband maybe already has done it.

Yuck

Anonymous wrote:Don’t. You will scratch your itch but later on you may end up dealing with a lot of troubles (breaking your spouse trust, possible divorce, messing up your colleague family, your kids in therapy after separation, lawyers bills etc). Not worth the risk.

OP here. I am aware of the consequences of my actions should it be found out. However, that wasn't the intent of my post. I am interested in pursuing this, just not sure how as I've never had an affair before. I know it's wrong on many levels to sleep with a man thats not my husband. That doesnt change the fact I still want to, and would given the chance. I just dont know how to approach him, and I may very well get shut down if he is like the rest of you shaking your finger at me

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You must be low on empathy — for your spouse and their spouse (and kids).

In other words, she’s a woman.

I am a woman, but what does that have to do with it? Men don't have affairs now?

Anonymous wrote:This is a stupid way to scratch an itch. Find a better way.

OP here. A better way...how? Clearly I am not happy with what I am getting at home and conversations about our sex life has gotten us nowhere. On top of that, my husband travels and who knows what he is doing on these trips where he's staying out after midnight "entertaining clients". So maybe before anyone judges, its not always one sided. I am just trying to find a discreet way to fill a void in my marriage without blowing up my family. Unlike a lot of women on dcum, i need regular sex in my life and that is just not happening.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You must be low on empathy — for your spouse and their spouse (and kids).

In other words, she’s a woman.

Oh hey, incel bro! How’s the weather over in Moscow today?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You must be low on empathy — for your spouse and their spouse (and kids).

In other words, she’s a woman.

Oh hey, incel bro! How’s the weather over in Moscow today?

Morality aside, your kids will hate you.

Don’t. You will scratch your itch but later on you may end up dealing with a lot of troubles (breaking your spouse trust, possible divorce, messing up your colleague family, your kids in therapy after separation, lawyers bills etc). Not worth the risk.