Anonymous wrote:I am 48 and still worry, but I've mellowed some. I used to freak out for hours about minor things. Now I meditate and am realizing that you are not your thoughts, you are the observer of your thoughts. I think something, and put it in a category like "thoughts about the past" or "thoughts about the future". Worries don't have a hold over you and can't scare you if it's just another thought that will come and go like the others.
This. I still worry sometimes but I realise it will only makes things worse. A lot of the time I have to remind myself to let go. Do what I can however there are some things you have no control over so just deal with it when and if it happens. Thoughts about the past, are unproductive. The past is gone and reliving bad memories is only upsetting yourself, it's best to let the worry go.
Thoughts about the future, you don't really know what is going to happen which is why mindfulness is quite important to me. Bringing myself back to the now. I can take care of my health, organise my finances but at some point I have to not think about how things will go as who knows what is going to happen.