Agree with all these previous posters. I’m an early childhood educator and that is ridiculous. I would leave that school/daycare.

Punished??? No way.

“Larla, don’t pee in the grass. That is not ok. Please ask to use the toilet.”

She’s only 3. Good lord.

Poor child.
Extra hugs for her tonight OP and let her know she is fine and her teacher is a quack.

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a big deal in the general scheme of things but two things are weird. 1 - basically any preschool has a teacher that a 3 year-old could go to to ask to use the bathroom. If she can’t wait that 30 seconds then she is not fully potty trained. 2 - if a child is potty trained just pulling their pants down and peeing wherever in front of other kids is weird.

Dad here. The way I can reconstruct the story is that 1. She asked to go to the bathroom but teachers did not respond (fast enough). That must have been a while because she can hold her pee quite long. 2. She went to the side and peed, other kids noticed. That's a bit different from pulling down her pants in front of other kids.

The version of the teachers is that they did not notice anything themselves but that other kids told them. Then teachers said they 'investigated' and concluded she did it 'on purpose' and deserved punishment. Thar they did not notice means she really went tot the side or there really is a lack of oversight.

I think the whole CI is overblown and indicates shortcomings on the teachers's side if anything.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's inappropriate for them to have made her go inside as a punishment. I'd have been like, "so let me get this straight, there was so little supervision that she was able to take off her underwear, pee, put it back on, all while no body noticed she was legit getting NAKED on the playground.... and so little supervision that she couldn't find a teacher to ask about going inside to use the bathroom.... but there was enough supervision for one of those 3 teachers to then LEAVE THE PLAYGROUND with her and have the group watched by just 2 adults?"

This and I would be very upset that she couldn’t find a teacher. I would set up and conference to ask about how kids on the playground are supervised. Let them know you will explain to your daughter the rules. But she’s three - no punishment for the first time.

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Anonymous wrote:There had to be teachers around at recess. Doesn’t seem like she even bothered to go look for one. You can’t just cop a squat wherever and whenever you feel like it. This is not the same situation as needing to pee when hiking.

This, you don't do that at school and failed to teach her there is a time and place for it.

OP here, knowing my child (she can hold pee for a very very long time) and from what the teachers and my child told me, my guess is: she really needed to pee and there was no one around to ask to go to the bathroom, instead of having an accident, she thought wrongly it was better to pee on the grass. And yes she is only 3 y. o. we hadn't had the conversation yet where she can't do that in school (we fixed that) but the reaction was really over the top imo, I was speechless because I felt at the time we were lucky they didn't report her or something.

At this point I will just let it go. She is going to a new school next year but I definitely think that the school didn't manage this well.

Good that you’re leaving that place. They should not have punished her.

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Anonymous wrote:Let it go. It will be a great story to tell her prom date while he waits for her to finish getting ready.

This wins for creepiest and most inappropriate response ever. I'm sure it was meant jokingly, but I hate "jokes" about humiliating our teenage girls with childhood stories about their private parts to males in their lives.

This is not at all a story about private parts. Good lord.

DP It may not be but, it would embarrass her anyway. Why would anyone do this?

Anonymous wrote:I’d be more concerned about the lack of supervision. The response is also bizarre. I’d be thinking this isn’t the best childcare situation.

I agree.

Anonymous wrote:Well if no teacher was supervising a group of 3 year olds adequately enough to see one of them pee in the playground then I'd say that's definitely a problem, but not necessarily with the child.

Exactly. It’s basically the main responsibility.

It’s not a big deal in the general scheme of things but two things are weird. 1 - basically any preschool has a teacher that a 3 year-old could go to to ask to use the bathroom. If she can’t wait that 30 seconds then she is not fully potty trained. 2 - if a child is potty trained just pulling their pants down and peeing wherever in front of other kids is weird.

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Anonymous wrote:There had to be teachers around at recess. Doesn’t seem like she even bothered to go look for one. You can’t just cop a squat wherever and whenever you feel like it. This is not the same situation as needing to pee when hiking.

This, you don't do that at school and failed to teach her there is a time and place for it.

OP here, knowing my child (she can hold pee for a very very long time) and from what the teachers and my child told me, my guess is: she really needed to pee and there was no one around to ask to go to the bathroom, instead of having an accident, she thought wrongly it was better to pee on the grass. And yes she is only 3 y. o. we hadn't had the conversation yet where she can't do that in school (we fixed that) but the reaction was really over the top imo, I was speechless because I felt at the time we were lucky they didn't report her or something.

At this point I will just let it go. She is going to a new school next year but I definitely think that the school didn't manage this well.

Anonymous wrote:Let it go. It will be a great story to tell her prom date while he waits for her to finish getting ready.

Yeah, and a great story to tell her male boss on her first day of work! And a great story to tell her college advisor when you meet him at Parents Weekend! Let's see who can make her feel the dirtiest.

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Anonymous wrote:Let it go. It will be a great story to tell her prom date while he waits for her to finish getting ready.

This wins for creepiest and most inappropriate response ever. I'm sure it was meant jokingly, but I hate "jokes" about humiliating our teenage girls with childhood stories about their private parts to males in their lives.

This is not at all a story about private parts. Good lord.

You mean the story where she removed her underwear at the playground, then squatted down and urinated in front of people?

Anonymous wrote:I think it's inappropriate for them to have made her go inside as a punishment. I'd have been like, "so let me get this straight, there was so little supervision that she was able to take off her underwear, pee, put it back on, all while no body noticed she was legit getting NAKED on the playground.... and so little supervision that she couldn't find a teacher to ask about going inside to use the bathroom.... but there was enough supervision for one of those 3 teachers to then LEAVE THE PLAYGROUND with her and have the group watched by just 2 adults?"

Good point.

Well if no teacher was supervising a group of 3 year olds adequately enough to see one of them pee in the playground then I'd say that's definitely a problem, but not necessarily with the child.

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Anonymous wrote:Let it go. It will be a great story to tell her prom date while he waits for her to finish getting ready.

This wins for creepiest and most inappropriate response ever. I'm sure it was meant jokingly, but I hate "jokes" about humiliating our teenage girls with childhood stories about their private parts to males in their lives.

This is not at all a story about private parts. Good lord.