Totally normal. Preschools frequently make job offers to the two providers at DS’ in home daycare based on their reputations.

Anonymous wrote:PLEASE tell me you're a troll OP.

Why is it trolling to be concerned about this? I fully support nanny's need and/or desire to work elsewhere and no longer for us if that is what is best for her. I think DD would adjust fine if she didn't see her again, but not if she has to see her on a regular basis caring for other children but not be able to care for her. I don't understand why people can't see how hurtful this could be to a small child.

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Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

Let's calm down here and not be dramatic. It would not have to traumatize your child for her nanny to move on to another job. Good grief.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet you get into frequent fall outs with your friends/family/acquaintances. The teacher was not at all out of line and it’s astonishing that you throw out the word trauma.

It’s also possible she wants to save her from an off kilter employer.

Nope, I don't. If nanny wanted to leave her off-kilter employer, she would have done so already. People have tried to poach her many times, but apparently, she's happy working for me!

Oh, I am sure she is! If nanny is staying with you, and not applying to other job, what's with the drama? I am going to guess that preschool teacher was trying to save this poor woman!

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Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

Traumatize? Oh boy.

Oh you give me a break. How would you feel if one of your parents was no longer your parent, but you had to see him or her every day parenting other kids? Nanny is that important to DD.

So, you've made arrangements for the nanny to remain part of the family until when?

And I also hope you're not planning on having any more kids. Talk about traumatizing...

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Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

Traumatize? Oh boy.

Oh you give me a break. How would you feel if one of your parents was no longer your parent, but you had to see him or her every day parenting other kids? Nanny is that important to DD.

So, you've made arrangements for the nanny to remain part of the family until when?

Nope, this is nothing to be mad about. Day-cares are consistently short staffed. Nobody is going to be traumatized FFS, as you say. I hope your nanny applies and gets the job and they pay her more than you do! Because honestly if you are this nasty, why would she keep working for you?!

Anonymous wrote:I bet you get into frequent fall outs with your friends/family/acquaintances. The teacher was not at all out of line and it’s astonishing that you throw out the word trauma.

It’s also possible she wants to save her from an off kilter employer.

Nope, I don't. If nanny wanted to leave her off-kilter employer, she would have done so already. People have tried to poach her many times, but apparently, she's happy working for me!

PLEASE tell me you're a troll OP.

Anonymous wrote:Are you 100% sure that taking the teaching job would require her to completely quit working for your family? I was in a similar situation and it has worked out wonderfully. Our nanny taught while my child was in a different class at the school.

Nanny was sounding hopeful that she could work at the school then easily pick DD up since they would be at the same school. But I think for that to work, I'd have to extend DD's day by an hour since I don't think any of the teachers' day ends right at pick-up.

I bet you get into frequent fall outs with your friends/family/acquaintances. The teacher was not at all out of line and it’s astonishing that you throw out the word trauma.

It’s also possible she wants to save her from an off kilter employer.

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Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

It's the teachers responsibility to provide for the students best they can while students are in their care. That includes hiring the most qualified staff etc.

So are you agreeing with me or what? Because DD will still be at this preschool, and with the same preschool teacher next year. So doesn't teacher's responsibility continue with respect to DD? Isn't her duty to DD stronger than her duty to the school to hire good teachers for OTHER classrooms? She's a teacher, not an administrator responsible for hiring teachers.

A conversation doesn't mean anything will happen. Your dd is 3 so she'll be at the school what 2 more years max? If the nanny and teacher are smart and want this to work out they'll wait a couple years since it would make it hard not hr classroom to have a former nanny and her former charge all together and probably disruptive for everyone else. Preschool teachers don't get paid enough to have a "duty" to their students as you put it beyond providing the education and care they are paid for.

Are you 100% sure that taking the teaching job would require her to completely quit working for your family? I was in a similar situation and it has worked out wonderfully. Our nanny taught while my child was in a different class at the school.

The preschool teacher was fine.

OP, you sound nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:No different than in any other professions trying to poach good employees. Nannying and preschools seem more personal because it's childcare but it's the same.

OP here. If it were one of the other teachers, I would be annoyed, but not feel like a line was crossed. Shouldn't DD's preschool teacher feel a sense of responsibility to HER students and not encourage actions that would traumatize them?

It's the teachers responsibility to provide for the students best they can while students are in their care. That includes hiring the most qualified staff etc.

So are you agreeing with me or what? Because DD will still be at this preschool, and with the same preschool teacher next year. So doesn't teacher's responsibility continue with respect to DD? Isn't her duty to DD stronger than her duty to the school to hire good teachers for OTHER classrooms? She's a teacher, not an administrator responsible for hiring teachers.