Totally normal. My kids first and middle names are all from their grand parents or great granparents:

Son:

First name: DH's middle name/step-dad's middle name
Middle name: my grandfather's name

Daughter:

First name: MIL's middle name
Middle name: my mom/grandmother/great-grandmother's name

In Jewish tradition it’s morbid to name a child after anyone who is still living. So I definitely wouldn’t do it, it feels like a death wish.

But the gender aspect of it? No prob. If you’d be comfortable naming a child after dad in a similar fashion then I don’t see what the hangup is.

Do it if you like! I gave Dd my middle name. I wanted some family name as the middle but all the girl names were either names I didn’t like or already associated with crazies I’m related to.

Anonymous wrote:My mom's name is my middle name.

NP . Me too. I love it.

I was considering it for my second. Our first has a strong family name. I think I'm going with a derivative/similar name instead though - I think my first might be offended otherwise. Not forever, but she's at an age where I think she might feel hurt that I didn't give her my name, too - she's all about being the same as me right now. Not worth the potential drama, but if that wasn't an issue, I'd totally do it.

My mom's name is my middle name. I always hated it.

We are a 2 Mom family and I didnt change my last name when we got married. DD has my last name as her middle name. My middle name was my Grandma's first name. You do what works for you.

My mom, grandma and I all have very similar names, with the order flipped for the next kid. Think different versions of Mary Elizabeth. So grandma was Mary Elizabeth, mom was Betsy Marie, and I’m Maria Beth. I didn’t continue the tradition but I don’t see anything odd about it just because we’re women.

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a nice idea, especially if you like the name!

+1.

We did. My daughter’s first name is one syllable and sounds pretty with my name, Elizabeth, as the middle. Had we had a boy we were going to use DH’s first name for the baby’s middle name for the same reason.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's great. I felt strongly that any girls I had would have family names from my side of the family. And actually, I would have held my DH to that if we'd had more than 1 boy too. He only had any sort of naming "right" on the first boy. After that, all my family. Why? I changed my last name and the kids have that last name, so I get the rest of the names.

How totally sexist. All family names came from my side since we all have his last name. One of my sons has my mom's maiden name as his middle name. The other has my dad's name as his middle.

DP How is this sexist? You are doing the exact same thing! Except for the eldest boy..


Op: To answer your question. Using your first name as middle name is fine. I have cousins named after the father and the mother as first names!

Sexist because the girls would have names from her family, but not the boys.

I'm the first PP quoted. I conceded on the first boy having my DH's name as a middle because he wanted it to be his FIRST name and I did not want that at all. So I compromised with the middle. If we'd had more than 2 children (we did not) he would have only had the oldest boy from his side. We only had two, so it was split. If we'd have two girls, I would have had both middle names. Sure if I was re-doing things maybe I would have fought harder to have my DS' middle come from my side, but I was just happy to not have three living males with the same firstname lastname combo.

One branch of my family has a tradition of naming girls after their mothers going back at least to the mid 1800s into the early and mid 1900s. Most used the same name as the mother, although some use a form of the mother’s name, especially when the mother’s name is something like Mary or Catherine or Elizabeth. Also a lot of using the same middle name.

Do what make you and your spouse happy, OP.

The boy version of my name is my son’s middle name (and vice versa for my daughter with my husbabd’s name.)

Anonymous wrote:I think that's sweet. I hate my first name though. I love my mom's name (classic name with nicknames) and wish I could name a DD after her, but my MIL's name is awful (Karen) and it wouldn't be even to name after only my mom.

Why not use your mom’s name for the first name and your MILs name for the middle. Karen isn’t so bad. My MILs name is Candice.

Anonymous wrote:My mom's name is my middle name.

Me too.