Anonymous wrote:Thanks. Part of me wants to try everything before DE. It's hard to wrap my head around DE, especially in my early 30s, when I'm still responding to cycles etc. The other part of me is just sick of throwing out all my money on ivf. But like everyone else on this board, I really want a baby. So maybe the only option is de/adoption
It’s so hard. Especially when you get eggs and REs are initially encouraging. I almost wished I had terrible hormone levels and everyone told me up front I couldn’t do ivf (which happened to a friend in her mid 30s). I would have been devastated, but it would have been clear and quick. The years of thinking “maybe if I just try this” it will work we’re unbearable, but irresistible at the same time. I’m not saying the DE is for everyone. My concept of motherhood has to do with raising a child and the relationship, so when it came down to it, genetics wasn’t central to motherhood for me. It did take me time to get comfortable with the details of the actual process (donor selection, etc).
Whatever u decide I hope you get to be a mom soon.