Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. That’s interesting that men find beauty so important. I was thinking they would find youth and fertility also important on a similar level.

So if men are presented with an average looking woman in her 20s and another woman in her mid 30s who is a stunning 10/10, who would they most likely date?

It depends on what he is looking for. Is he looking for a wife or a date?

A wife

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys are simple, its all about the looks.

if you really think guys see beauty as only looks, then you're a sad person. Beauty encompasses confidence, personality, hygiene and many other things.

Whatever you say, lady.

Anonymous wrote:If men are so attracted to beauty, then why do they pass up beautiful women to marry plain ones? I have seen it many times, and it wasn’t like the plain ones were smarter or had better personalities either.

Security? Same reason women marry the safe guy over the bad boy.

If men are so attracted to beauty, then why do they pass up beautiful women to marry plain ones? I have seen it many times, and it wasn’t like the plain ones were smarter or had better personalities either.

Anonymous wrote:Guys are simple, its all about the looks.

if you really think guys see beauty as only looks, then you're a sad person. Beauty encompasses confidence, personality, hygiene and many other things.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. That’s interesting that men find beauty so important. I was thinking they would find youth and fertility also important on a similar level.

So if men are presented with an average looking woman in her 20s and another woman in her mid 30s who is a stunning 10/10, who would they most likely date?

Youth, beauty, and fertility generally go together.

And it depends what the guy wants. If he wants someone to have babies with, it'll be the 20-something every time.

Not so. Early 30s is perfectly fine too.

Nope. You want to have time to date her for a few years, be married w/o kids for a few years, and have two kids spaced a reasonable amount of time apart. Try doing that in early 30s and you risk running into late 30s fertility problems.

Anonymous wrote:This is a question I’ve been pondering about lately. I’m finding it very hard to find a nice guy to settle down with. I’ve been hearing different things from different people regarding the things men find attractive in a woman. However, they’re usually from a woman’s perspective. I would like to hear the men’s perspective regarding this, so I can understand them better and have realistic expectations.

I’ll list the qualities/attributes that a woman may possess:

Education levels
Youth
Wealth
Social Status
Career
Fertility
Independence
Beauty
Confidence
Athletic/Physically active

If men were to select the top 3 attributes from the list that attracts them to a woman, what would they be?

To hell with your career, independence, and social status. Have a job, don’t be a total slug. What the job is, who cares? The other two: who cares?

Male here - when I was in college and in my early 20’s it was all about looks, fun and having a good time. When I hit my mid 20’s and had my career going, looks were still important but intelligence, personality and compatibility became very important. Getting married wasn’t my goal but I was getting smarter and more mature in terms of what made for a good relationship. I was friends with a woman I worked with who was “girl next door” pretty but not a knock out but over time I realized she was incredibly smart, very nice and we got along very well. It took three years for us to get together but it was such an easy relationship to slip into. That was 31 years ago and it’s been a wonderful relationship. Also, she has aged incredibly well while some of my old hot GF’s look pretty bad.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. That’s interesting that men find beauty so important. I was thinking they would find youth and fertility also important on a similar level.

So if men are presented with an average looking woman in her 20s and another woman in her mid 30s who is a stunning 10/10, who would they most likely date?

Youth, beauty, and fertility generally go together.

And it depends what the guy wants. If he wants someone to have babies with, it'll be the 20-something every time.

Not so. Early 30s is perfectly fine too.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. That’s interesting that men find beauty so important. I was thinking they would find youth and fertility also important on a similar level.

So if men are presented with an average looking woman in her 20s and another woman in her mid 30s who is a stunning 10/10, who would they most likely date?

The one in her 30s.

Man here. When I'm looking at online profiles, there is a certain minimum acceptable level of youth and beauty that is required. I'm not even going to click on someone who is older or less physically attractive than that. And file "athletic" under beauty, meaning, you can't be fat.

After that I'll consider education a plus.

Wealth and career are not positive attractors. They can only be a negative (i.e., if you're an obvious loser that's bad)

Independence and Confidence, don't care about at all.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Beauty
Confidence
Athletic/Physically active

These are my top three and I've said it before,

"a woman with a pleasing figure and a pleasant disposition will always be more popular with men than a very pretty woman with neither."

The good news, ladies, is you have a measure of control over your figure and your disposition. There's really no requirement to be a beauty queen.

Ugh, please don't refer to us as a collective "ladies". It's so condescending.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys are simple, its all about the looks.

No, not for all guys.

Sammy Davis Jr? Is that you?

I just know this thread is going to degenerate into women telling men what they should want, rather than what the OP requested, which is men telling women what men actually want.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. That’s interesting that men find beauty so important. I was thinking they would find youth and fertility also important on a similar level.

So if men are presented with an average looking woman in her 20s and another woman in her mid 30s who is a stunning 10/10, who would they most likely date?

Youth, beauty, and fertility generally go together.

And it depends what the guy wants. If he wants someone to have babies with, it'll be the 20-something every time.