Anonymous wrote:When you start getting sleep, your outlook should improve!
We had four under two, still happily married. Lower your standards and get through days and get your kids on a good schedule. It will be Ok! Be patient with yourself. You are six weeks out. Your body is still healing!

How is this possible? Two sets of twins?

When you start getting sleep, your outlook should improve!
We had four under two, still happily married. Lower your standards and get through days and get your kids on a good schedule. It will be Ok! Be patient with yourself. You are six weeks out. Your body is still healing!

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Anonymous wrote:You should have given your older one at least two years of attention.

Yes. Op what did you expect?

You are in for a long haul. Probably divorce, too.

What a ray of sunshine.

+1. Both comments probably posted by same person. Useless nasty responses by someone who is bitter.

So, If you follow the “two year” rule, what do you do with your first or second child when a second or third baby comes along? Boarding daycare? The sentiment works for kid #1, but no additional kid is going to get two years of undivided attention, no matter the spacing. Most parents work anyway, so the kid gets three months of maternity leave, that’s it! Ridiculous. Not to mention multiple births. My kids are so close in age, they are more like twins than anything else.

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Anonymous wrote:You should have given your older one at least two years of attention.

Yes. Op what did you expect?

You are in for a long haul. Probably divorce, too.

What a ray of sunshine.

+1. Both comments probably posted by same person. Useless nasty responses by someone who is bitter.

Anonymous wrote:You should have given your older one at least two years of attention.

Bad planning!

Ours are 19 months apart - currently 2.5 and 4 and we have fun but it’s still pretty tough. DS1 was a dream and DS2 is a very strong willed kid with lots of tantrums and DS1 has recently been acting out. DS1 simply cannot do anything “alone” and DS2 can’t really play with him yet. With DS2 it was tough in the newborn stage with DH figuring out he actually had to help parent, then it was good until DS2 was mobile, then it sucked until he was steady on his feet and I didn’t have to hover. Now we can go to most places but we’re not to the point of going to restaurants or anywhere that requires us around nap time.

I really struggle with being home, I have to constantly be out doing something with the kids or else I go crazy. Bounce houses, the park, soccer class, the mall, anywhere other than within the walls of our house. Even when DS2 was a newborn, we were out!

We kept DS1 with his schedule when DS2 came along. I don’t SAH so he still went to his daycare while I was on maternity.

My second and third are 18 months apart and honestly I don’t even remember the first year enough to talk about specifics of when it got easier, it’s all a blur now! It was def hard though.

However, they’re 2.5 and 4 now and it’s awesome! They play together all day and I don’t need to do a ton anymore.

It didn’t traumatize us. We’re having baby 4 in July!

Anonymous wrote:18 months apart. Got better at 8 months. I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.....

This. Mine are 20 months apart. At 8 months they were finally on the sale afternoon nap schedule and the same evening schedule.

Around 8 weeks it started getting better for me. We started wearing the baby a lot, allowing him to go along for the ride more. We ended up loving the 21-month age Gap we did it again, and we are now 3 weeks into 3 under 4! You can do this!

PP here....OP, as soon as you are able, plan a simple outing with you and DS1. Even if it is just a trip for a cookie at a bakery. Those early alone outing helped me feel like I could someday get my Mom-groove back

My kids are 21 months apart. At about 6 months I had moments of fun again. By 18 months I feel like our family gelled, things calmed down a bit, and my H and I spent more time as a couple and less time figuring out how all the laundry was getting put away and meals made. My youngest just turned 2 and now the age gap is totally awesome and they play together.

We had kids 22 months apart and loved it. Dd was old enough to be helpful but not in the tantruming stage. Things got sooo much easier when the baby was 6 months old, sttn and going to bed at 6:30.

In fact, my age gap was way preferable to my friends who have kids 2.5-3 years apart. Because 2.5-3 is a really hard age for toddlers. They were throwing massive tantrums and are more vocal and emotional. It just seems harder than 2 under 2. My baby is 10 months now and they play together and do entertain each other

The first year was toughest for us. But my second kid was a terrible sleeper so most of that was due to lack of sleep. It got much, much better once DC2 was STTN.

My first two kids were 2 under 2. Yes, we stayed married and even went on to have a third child!

20 months apart. Things were really hard until around 6 months when baby started sleeping longer stretches. Then things were pretty good until they got really, really hard when the younger one was around 15-18 months and running. Two kids running in opposite directions. Then when youngest was around two, things became amazing because they started playing together. My first two are best friends and keep each other entertained for hours.

Anonymous wrote:Whoa.

My boys are 18 months apart, I’m a SAHM, we don’t have a nanny, and we LOVE the age gap.

My first was only 18 months old when the baby came home, so he didn’t know any better. We kept his day the same, and the newborn just slept and went along for the ride.

I got them on the same schedule ASAP, so we all napped from 12-2, including me.

My oldest doesn’t remember life without his brother.

My friends all did the 2 year age gap and they STRUGGLED. We didn’t because DS1 was too little to care.

They’re 3.5 and 2 now and it’s fine.

Go away sanctimommy. You know that people who are happy in their own lives don’t feel the need to tear other people down? Did you honestly think this was contributing anything to the discussion?