Anonymous wrote:You again? We get it, your wife is a horrid shrew and you’re a terribly put-upon victim.

He is, and you’re right.

You’re a martyr.

Grow a pair and divorce

OR start sleeping around

Do you really enjoy not getting any?

You again? We get it, your wife is a horrid shrew and you’re a terribly put-upon victim.

Have you been faithful? I can't imagine most people would be. Don't blame you for rejecting her, but the race to the bottom isn't healthy. Either go to counselling to give it a last shot or move on.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - a courageous move on your part to post this given that 90%+ of respondents will be women most of whom will blame or find fault with you.

90% of respondents have told OP that is wife is awful and he should insist on couples counseling. If she won't go, divorce or insist on an open marriage. I'm a woman, and that's my advice. OP has done nothing wrong.

Hmmm, so you have one side of a story, and you know OP has done nothing wrong? How about staying in a sexless marriage for 10 years and then complaining about it at 15 years when now there’s a kid involved? But maybe you’re right: OP is just a sad victim here who has been manipulated and tortured by the wife. Yeah, that’s probably it.

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Anonymous wrote:She’s asexual or closet lesbo. Which is it? Then move on.

Or OP is terrible in bed. This was the case with my ex. Not a problem with my second DH.

Same with my ex wife. She was terrible in bed and the bar for women is extremely low.

Why did you have a kid with someone who had been withholding sex from you for 10 years?

Anonymous wrote:OP - a courageous move on your part to post this given that 90%+ of respondents will be women most of whom will blame or find fault with you.

90% of respondents have told OP that is wife is awful and he should insist on couples counseling. If she won't go, divorce or insist on an open marriage. I'm a woman, and that's my advice. OP has done nothing wrong.

Please explain why you had a child with someone who doesn’t want to sleep with you except to procreate ...

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s asexual or closet lesbo. Which is it? Then move on.

Or OP is terrible in bed. This was the case with my ex. Not a problem with my second DH.

If he was terrible in bed, she shoudln't have married him if she felt he was so bad in bed that she didn't want to have sex with him. Sorry, you cna't just blame the other person.

He may have been average before, but then gave up any effort to please her once they got married.

OP - a courageous move on your part to post this given that 90%+ of respondents will be women most of whom will blame or find fault with you.

Anonymous wrote:I hate to say it op but you sound weak. Who puts up with this for so long? Do you have the courage to divorce and date?

Yup.
Whether male or female, a martyr is never attractive.

Have you tried counseling? Is there a possible trauma attached to her sexuality ( abuse or rape prior to your relationship)?

Have you ever had explicit conversations about body parts and what you like/what she likes?

I know its comfortable to just go with the norm.. My spider sense tells me that there may be some cheating on your side or hers...

...good luck with all that

I hate to say it op but you sound weak. Who puts up with this for so long? Do you have the courage to divorce and date?

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Anonymous wrote:She’s asexual or closet lesbo. Which is it? Then move on.

Or OP is terrible in bed. This was the case with my ex. Not a problem with my second DH.

If he was terrible in bed, she shoudln't have married him if she felt he was so bad in bed that she didn't want to have sex with him. Sorry, you cna't just blame the other person.