Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

how old are you? i am eastern european, too, and all women i know want(ed) girls.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

That’s because you grew up poor. When you have more money, you want girls.

Also men are responsible for most of the violence in this world. This about the school shootings. People are no aware of how dangerous men are. I don’t want a boy for this reason.

Why do people with money want girls?

They are less likely to have traditional gender norms.

Don’t be dumb.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

That’s because you grew up poor. When you have more money, you want girls.

Also men are responsible for most of the violence in this world. This about the school shootings. People are no aware of how dangerous men are. I don’t want a boy for this reason.

Except, I didn’t grow up poor. Why would you think that?

You don’t want a boy becaus men are dangerous?You need therapy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

That’s because you grew up poor. When you have more money, you want girls.

Also men are responsible for most of the violence in this world. This about the school shootings. People are no aware of how dangerous men are. I don’t want a boy for this reason.

San Diego School shooting, female shooter.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cleveland_Elementary_School_shooting_(San_Diego)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

The perspective is very different in the coastal U.S.. Girls do better in school, behave better, and are less likely to have ADHD or autism.

then they grow up and throw it all away on some man to be a sahm.

so no big win there.

Anonymous wrote:When my son was born people said stuff like, "little boys love their moms". Which is sweet, but obviously girls do too! I just thought it was an interesting thing to say, and like someone mentioned, people just making small talk.

Now I have a girl and I do get a lot of the "one of each" stuff.

I have a boy and I've heard that a lot! Always seemed weird to me too,

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

The perspective is very different in the coastal U.S.. Girls do better in school, behave better, and are less likely to have ADHD or autism.

Statistically you are right. Individual results may vary. Also, one has to put up with their occasional hysterical nonsense.

-signed, father of 3 girls; the oldest of whom has high-functioning-autism (and it took until age 9 to properly Dx!)

When my son was born people said stuff like, "little boys love their moms". Which is sweet, but obviously girls do too! I just thought it was an interesting thing to say, and like someone mentioned, people just making small talk.

Now I have a girl and I do get a lot of the "one of each" stuff.

Most people I know are happy to have a healthy baby. Boy or girl is much less important than being on good health.

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

how old are you? i am eastern european, too, and all women i know want(ed) girls.

I think it’s more that you now have “one of each.” If you had 2 of the same sex (no matter if it was boys or girls), people would be asking if you want a 3rd so you can “try for” a (boy/girl).

I think there’s just as many people who prefer girls (do better in school, less risk of autism/developmental delays, cuter clothes, the whole “mini-me” thing) vs. boys (carry on the family name, less risk of them being abuse victims, “easier”). But that’s a change from even maybe 2 generations ago when boys were strongly preferred.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

The perspective is very different in the coastal U.S.. Girls do better in school, behave better, and are less likely to have ADHD or autism.

ADHD and schizophrenia run in my family. While females in my family are sometimes very mildly affected, the worst cases are the males. Uncles, brothers, and male cousins. My mother used to say it was a family curse. I was on the fence about having kids because I was terrified of having boys.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

That’s because you grew up poor. When you have more money, you want girls.

Also men are responsible for most of the violence in this world. This about the school shootings. People are no aware of how dangerous men are. I don’t want a boy for this reason.

But a boy you'd be raising is one you could teach that might isn't right, men can have and express valid emotions beyond anger, how to treat women like humans, etc. Parental influence isn't everything, but I think raising boys is a great opportunity and privilege.

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

I am Eastern European too, we put the first woman in space and proud of it. I think in places that were formerly subjugated (esp. by Ottomans) some of the cultures put a huge premium on having boys.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought everyone wanted all boys, myself included.

I thought girls were a liability you had to marry off. I’m Eastern European and don’t know anyone who wanted girls.

That’s because you grew up poor. When you have more money, you want girls.

Also men are responsible for most of the violence in this world. This about the school shootings. People are no aware of how dangerous men are. I don’t want a boy for this reason.

Why do people with money want girls?

They are less likely to have traditional gender norms.