Anonymous
Post 04/13/2019 15:51     Subject: Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The answer is obvious. The two girls share the big room and each boy gets his own, due to the age difference.

What else could it possibly be? Would you really separate two close, same sex siblings and put a 9 year old in with a 2 year old?
Or did you want to give one girl her own room, the two year old his own room, and put the 9 year old boy in with his sister?


OP - it seems obvious to me but I’m worried one day they’ll say I was sexist for giving the boys their own rooms


When the oldest goes to college, the younger sister gets his room (older sister keeps the big room).
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2019 22:31     Subject: Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your two year needs his own room now because he is right at the age for choking on stuff. He needs his own space and choking hazard toys need to be kept outside of there. I would let the three older kids decide among themselves who gets the single room that is small and who shares the bigger one. Don't buy furniture that is clearly gendered so that they can switch around if they need to later. By letting them choose, they have more ownership in it. I have a friend who let her kids choose and they often chose to be 3 kids in one room and have the other room for an extra kid playroom. Just trust them to figure it out. They are old enough to work it. By the time your oldest is 13 he will want his own room for sure - that is when my oldest (ds) was done with sharing with her brother.


oops HIS brother


I missed that you will be adopting your 2 yr old. He may be afraid to be in a room alone. I would wait until he is home with you to figure out what his needs are at the time. Good luck to you and your family!
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2019 12:18     Subject: Re:Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:Good idea. But stop leaning or you may get pregnant again.


You aren’t supporting her family so STFU
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2019 12:03     Subject: Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:Your two year needs his own room now because he is right at the age for choking on stuff. He needs his own space and choking hazard toys need to be kept outside of there. I would let the three older kids decide among themselves who gets the single room that is small and who shares the bigger one. Don't buy furniture that is clearly gendered so that they can switch around if they need to later. By letting them choose, they have more ownership in it. I have a friend who let her kids choose and they often chose to be 3 kids in one room and have the other room for an extra kid playroom. Just trust them to figure it out. They are old enough to work it. By the time your oldest is 13 he will want his own room for sure - that is when my oldest (ds) was done with sharing with her brother.


oops HIS brother
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2019 12:02     Subject: Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Your two year needs his own room now because he is right at the age for choking on stuff. He needs his own space and choking hazard toys need to be kept outside of there. I would let the three older kids decide among themselves who gets the single room that is small and who shares the bigger one. Don't buy furniture that is clearly gendered so that they can switch around if they need to later. By letting them choose, they have more ownership in it. I have a friend who let her kids choose and they often chose to be 3 kids in one room and have the other room for an extra kid playroom. Just trust them to figure it out. They are old enough to work it. By the time your oldest is 13 he will want his own room for sure - that is when my oldest (ds) was done with sharing with her brother.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2019 10:19     Subject: Re:Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
I think the obvious choice is for the girls to share.

If they complain I would say the toddler needs own room to settle in and that you all can reassess as time goes on.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2019 10:14     Subject: Re:Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good idea. But stop leaning or you may get pregnant again.


OP - thanks for judging but they are all planned and don’t want any more.


Have the amount of kids you can afford in the house you can afford. I would hate sharing a bedroom for my whole childhood.


You sound completely unpleasant. Obviously, you could have used some good old fashioned sharing a room so you wouldn’t have grown up to be so entitled.


I grew up solidly UUMC and shared a bedroom my whole life. In fact, since I was in the NYC area, I knew basically no one who had their own room except for onlies.

FWIW, our kids asked to share and want the baby to move into the adjoining tiny room when he's ready (w/ their big room having a combined play/desk area for all 3) rather than the separate bigger now-guest room that we planned on. I have no doubt that some day our kids may want their own rooms, but at ES age (like OP's kids) many kids like sharing.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2019 09:31     Subject: Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would give the older kids their own rooms.


OP - thanks for an alternative to think about. Since they’re all so young I need ideas.


Just my two cents but I wouldn't do this. I think a 7-year old and 5-year old girl have way more in common than a 5-year old girl and a 2-year old boy.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2019 22:39     Subject: Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:7 and 5 year olds share a room. Unless the older kids want to, you can always switch down the line and then put the two girls together. I wouldn’t overthink it!

I came from a big family and shared a room throughout childhood. Some of my best memories!

My neighbors have 5 girls and did a huge home renovation so they could have their own rooms. And then after the renovation, the girls wanted to sleep in the same room anyway.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2019 22:30     Subject: Re:Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What's your current room setup?


OP - currently DS has his own room and DDs share. DS and 1st DD used to share until we moved him to his own room and moved the DDs together. We don’t have our youngest yet - we are planning on adopting but I need to figure out the room situation now.


You need a bigger house to adopt and that child should get their own room, especially an older child as you don't know what kind of baggage they come with. There are specific rules on space depending on the agency.


OP - you are incorrect. Believe me I have been working with an agency and the youngest is allowed to share a room though unlikely. Thanks for you rude comment though.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2019 22:29     Subject: Re:Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good idea. But stop leaning or you may get pregnant again.


OP - thanks for judging but they are all planned and don’t want any more.


Have the amount of kids you can afford in the house you can afford. I would hate sharing a bedroom for my whole childhood.


You sound completely unpleasant. Obviously, you could have used some good old fashioned sharing a room so you wouldn’t have grown up to be so entitled.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2019 22:28     Subject: Re:Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What's your current room setup?


OP - currently DS has his own room and DDs share. DS and 1st DD used to share until we moved him to his own room and moved the DDs together. We don’t have our youngest yet - we are planning on adopting but I need to figure out the room situation now.


You need a bigger house to adopt and that child should get their own room, especially an older child as you don't know what kind of baggage they come with. There are specific rules on space depending on the agency.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2019 22:26     Subject: Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:I would give the older kids their own rooms.


OP - thanks for an alternative to think about. Since they’re all so young I need ideas.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2019 22:24     Subject: Re:Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
Anonymous wrote:What's your current room setup?


OP - currently DS has his own room and DDs share. DS and 1st DD used to share until we moved him to his own room and moved the DDs together. We don’t have our youngest yet - we are planning on adopting but I need to figure out the room situation now.
Anonymous
Post 04/09/2019 22:16     Subject: Re:Bedroom arrangements for 4 kids
What's your current room setup?