I don't know anyone with an only on purpose. Zero on purpose, yes. But not one. Wow, that is surprising.

Yes, quite a few, me included. We were very clear that one was all we wanted.

Me. I was an only child and always wanted only one child. DH has a brother who never caused the family anything but heartache so he was on board.

We are a perfect family! DD is 13 now and beautiful, brilliant and confident.

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Me! I was 34 when she was born.

Also, a friend who had her son at 40. She is vocally one and done.

Me!! We are happy with our family of 3 and decided we didn't want to have another. I feel like our life is much less stressful than our friends with 2 or 3 kids and we are able to travel much more (which was always a goal). I am also an only but my parents had fertility issues for a long time and call me their miracle baby. I never specifically asked how many kids they would have had without fertility problems but I'm guessing it would have been more than one. I was a happy only child and that played into my decision to have an only.

I know many. We're in nyc and only children seem to be as common as bigger families. I'm guessing it's due to average older parents (perhaps secondary infertility, perhaps people deciding to have a kid later and being happily one and done by choice), higher cost of living, and the total lack of stigma around onlies. I almost never get asked if we're thinking about having another. We may end up having a second, but I feel zero social pressure and also zero concerns that my kid would grow up feeling "left out" or incomplete or whatever.

Anonymous wrote:My parents. They had a late 2nd trimester miscarriage before me though.

My 4yr old son has several only children friends. Two families the dad has an adult child from a prior relationship, one family didn’t have fertility issues but is open about having a horrific birth injury, one family is Chinese and both parents are also only children.

My parents. They had a late 2nd trimester miscarriage before me though.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, a woman in my pace group was proudly one and done. Husband and wife were both only children themselves, so I guess that played into it? Child is 4 now.

I’m a PP. DH and I both have siblings.

Are you trying to diagnose why we would want to have 1 kid?

Yes, a woman in my pace group was proudly one and done. Husband and wife were both only children themselves, so I guess that played into it? Child is 4 now.

Ugh. Really?

We have one kid and have no intentions to have another. I got pregnant with our daughter easily and am 32, so I have no reason to believe I wouldn’t be able to have another kid.

I have one son by choice. No idea if I would have faced secondary infertility or not. I never felt the pull or urge to have another one, and neither did DH, so we didn't. People ask why we didn't go for a second, and we just tell the truth--that we're happy with one and don't feel the need for a second. Some people react like that's blasphemy, but that's their issue, not mine.

Before having kids I wouldn't have admitted to only wanting 1. But then I had one, and very quickly realized that was it for us. He's 5 now, and we are very happy.

No, not one. But that’s doesn’t mean they don’t exist.