Anonymous
04/08/2019 15:40
Subject: And what sports are you in?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why not playing both piano and a sport? Piano teaches the left and right brain to work in harmony. Sport teaches mental toughness, perseverance and never quit attitude. Piano will help your boys pick up sophisticate women when they get older while sport will help your sons improve their dating in high school. It is a win-win combination.
OP here -- I would love him to get into a sport. We've tried many and he just doesn't have the coordination for some reason. Even on rec teams with friends, it becomes quickly obvious that people won't pass to him b/c he can't catch, etc. He's not awkward in general but add in a ball and it's not good. And it becomes self-fufilling b/c the more he thinks he's bad at it, the more he won't try. He has super sporty friends so it's tough.
Please stop. Just let him be. Let him be shitty at sports. There are TONS of people who don't play sports who are fit and happy.
+1
I'd add -- there are many sports that don't involve catching/throwing/hitting/kicking a ball. My kid does not have great hand-eye coordination of that kind, but likes martial arts. Other good activities--swimming, hiking, orienteering, yoga, pilates, cycling, ice skating, running/cross-country, dance, climbing, etc. And they don't have to be done competitively. It's important to have some kind of regular physical activity, but it really, really, really doesn't have to be an organized team sport with a ball.
Anonymous
04/08/2019 15:09
Subject: And what sports are you in?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why not playing both piano and a sport? Piano teaches the left and right brain to work in harmony. Sport teaches mental toughness, perseverance and never quit attitude. Piano will help your boys pick up sophisticate women when they get older while sport will help your sons improve their dating in high school. It is a win-win combination.
OP here -- I would love him to get into a sport. We've tried many and he just doesn't have the coordination for some reason. Even on rec teams with friends, it becomes quickly obvious that people won't pass to him b/c he can't catch, etc. He's not awkward in general but add in a ball and it's not good. And it becomes self-fufilling b/c the more he thinks he's bad at it, the more he won't try. He has super sporty friends so it's tough.
Please stop. Just let him be. Let him be shitty at sports. There are TONS of people who don't play sports who are fit and happy.
Anonymous
04/08/2019 15:01
Subject: And what sports are you in?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why are you so obsessed with sports? People who engage in other activities also experience failure (at competitions or recitals, for example) and have to learn resilience.
Also, if you're really good at an instrument and want to perform at the highest levels, playing a sport that might result in injury to any part of your body required to play that instrument would be stupid.
The difference between a piano/violin recital and sport competition is that at a recital, everyone in the audience is very respectful of the performers. People at the recital do not boos or wish the performers to fail on purpose.
Go to a baseball or basketball game and you will hear people literary want kids on the opposing team to fail on purpose. Lot of nasty stuffs are said in the stand during the games that kids might not be able to handle them. However, as time goes on, it will make them mentally stronger.
Not sure you will get that at music instrument recitals.
This sounds like a stupid argument. Verbally abusing children doesn't make them mentally stronger. There is no doctor or psychologist who would recommend yelling nasty stuff at kids to build character.
Also you clearly have no idea how competitive instruments and theater are. Auditions and competitions are cut throat.
Anonymous
04/08/2019 13:57
Subject: And what sports are you in?
Anonymous wrote:Why are you so obsessed with sports? People who engage in other activities also experience failure (at competitions or recitals, for example) and have to learn resilience.
Also, if you're really good at an instrument and want to perform at the highest levels, playing a sport that might result in injury to any part of your body required to play that instrument would be stupid.
The difference between a piano/violin recital and sport competition is that at a recital, everyone in the audience is very respectful of the performers. People at the recital do not boos or wish the performers to fail on purpose.
Go to a baseball or basketball game and you will hear people literary want kids on the opposing team to fail on purpose. Lot of nasty stuffs are said in the stand during the games that kids might not be able to handle them. However, as time goes on, it will make them mentally stronger.
Not sure you will get that at music instrument recitals.
Anonymous
04/08/2019 13:33
Subject: And what sports are you in?
Anonymous wrote:Many kids do not play a particular sport competitively.
Personally though, everyone should do some forms of physical activity to stay in good condition.
I have a kid in college who switched from high school and club soccer to power lifting in college and he enjoys competing (club level stuff) now. My daughter, currently in grad school played college soccer for 4 years, but now runs and lifts. Swimming, running, lifting, tennis, and many others are all good. I would add golf, but I am proof that it alone is not great for keeping you in good shape.
+1. What does your kid do to stay fit? He should answer with that. If he doesn't do anything active, you need to try to change that.