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Anonymous wrote:In the Bethesda or Rockville area? Husband hates therapy/counseling and our relationship is pretty awful, so I think we would need someone really good if it’s worth trying at all. Thanks.

https://sequenceservices.com/home/counseling-services/couples/

Thank you! They seem great!

Anonymous wrote:It’s seems that lots of people have been to couples counseling but not many are willing to share their recommendations.

Exactly! It’s weird. Maybe we’d have better luck in the health forum.

Anonymous wrote:It’s seems that lots of people have been to couples counseling but not many are willing to share their recommendations.

Because it often doesn’t work. I did couples counseling 3 times. A bust

Anonymous wrote:In the Bethesda or Rockville area? Husband hates therapy/counseling and our relationship is pretty awful, so I think we would need someone really good if it’s worth trying at all. Thanks.

https://sequenceservices.com/home/counseling-services/couples/

Anonymous wrote:Go to your minister or parish priest instead. Typical couples counselor has a cheap education and reads a lot of easy self-help books in their spare time. They are not in a position to help if you have truly difficult problems.

lol

Go to your minister or parish priest instead. Typical couples counselor has a cheap education and reads a lot of easy self-help books in their spare time. They are not in a position to help if you have truly difficult problems.

It’s seems that lots of people have been to couples counseling but not many are willing to share their recommendations.

Any new recommendations for couples counselors?

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Anonymous wrote:I can tell you who not to go to:

http://www.alexpsychotherapy.net/Sarah_Hedlund.html

I don't know anything about her as a therapist, but I can see from MD court records that she got divorced in 2013.

A couples counselor who is divorced, hmmmmm, they can't solve their own marital problems, how are they going to solve yours?

I don't think that's a reason to avoid this therapist.

You should avoid any couples counselor who is divorced. You're paying them to tell you how to avoid divorce. And they obviously suck at avoiding divorce.

Not true at all. Sometimes divorce is the right decision. A good therapist is someone that can give you the confidence to do what's right for you...sometimes that means divorce. If your spouse is abusive and isn't going to change, then a therapist isn't going to tell you how to sit back and take it.

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Their ability to be objective about your issues doesn't preclude their having issues of their own.

My DH and I were in couples counseling together. Our therapist was divorced. So what? He still saved our marriage.

The concern is not the counselor having "issues of their own" but their ability to do anything about those issues. If they are divorced, that is positive proof that their ability to resolve marital issues and to provide useful advice to prevent divorce is extremely weak.

So you think they cannot provide an objective view? That’s just silly and short-sighted of you.

It doesn't matter how "objective" their views are. What matters is their actual advice. They couldn't provide or implement effective advice in their own lives, it is ridiculous to expect them to be able to help you.

Using a divorced couples counselor is like using a morbidly obese dietitian.

That's idiotic. Not all marriages succeed, despite the best therapy. It's as if you were to say, "don't go to that game oncologist, his mother died of cancer!"

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Their ability to be objective about your issues doesn't preclude their having issues of their own.

My DH and I were in couples counseling together. Our therapist was divorced. So what? He still saved our marriage.

The concern is not the counselor having "issues of their own" but their ability to do anything about those issues. If they are divorced, that is positive proof that their ability to resolve marital issues and to provide useful advice to prevent divorce is extremely weak.

So you think they cannot provide an objective view? That’s just silly and short-sighted of you.

It doesn't matter how "objective" their views are. What matters is their actual advice. They couldn't provide or implement effective advice in their own lives, it is ridiculous to expect them to be able to help you.

Using a divorced couples counselor is like using a morbidly obese dietitian.

Well, you’ll just have to accept my word that Linda was able to help us, divorced or not.

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Their ability to be objective about your issues doesn't preclude their having issues of their own.

My DH and I were in couples counseling together. Our therapist was divorced. So what? He still saved our marriage.

The concern is not the counselor having "issues of their own" but their ability to do anything about those issues. If they are divorced, that is positive proof that their ability to resolve marital issues and to provide useful advice to prevent divorce is extremely weak.

So you think they cannot provide an objective view? That’s just silly and short-sighted of you.

It doesn't matter how "objective" their views are. What matters is their actual advice. They couldn't provide or implement effective advice in their own lives, it is ridiculous to expect them to be able to help you.

Using a divorced couples counselor is like using a morbidly obese dietitian.