As someone who has been doing IVF for many years and doesn't have two kids, I don't find this insensitive. She wants to have more kids, and she is clearly worried. This is an infertility message board, and secondary infertility is infertility.
My recommendation would be to calm down, meet with an RE and a urologist, and see what they had to say. These numbers aren't that bad. Wanting to have more than two kids is not terrible. She is very lucky that she has two kids, but that doesn't diminish the longing for more. And I write this as someone with primary infertility who initially dreamed of a big family, but have come to terms that it will not be as big as I dreamed of.

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Anonymous wrote:I can easily count 5 topics that OP has started (2 at expectant moms, two here and 1 at TTC) and lord know how many others.

OP you need to calm down and find something else to occupy your mind. People who face much more challenging situations where they actually need more advice find i way to do other stuff in their lives as well.

I agree. Also- she already has 2 kids! I find it really insensitive to post on this forum in particular.

It’s TTC and ART. Where should she post? You can have secondary infertility. It’d be insensitive for OP to obsess over this with her friend who’s been doing IVF for years to attempt to have a first. This, however, is an Internet message board!

Anonymous wrote:I can easily count 5 topics that OP has started (2 at expectant moms, two here and 1 at TTC) and lord know how many others.

OP you need to calm down and find something else to occupy your mind. People who face much more challenging situations where they actually need more advice find i way to do other stuff in their lives as well.

I agree. Also- she already has 2 kids! I find it really insensitive to post on this forum in particular.

I can easily count 5 topics that OP has started (2 at expectant moms, two here and 1 at TTC) and lord know how many others.

OP you need to calm down and find something else to occupy your mind. People who face much more challenging situations where they actually need more advice find i way to do other stuff in their lives as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Drinking and allergy medicine (especially antihistamines) can definitely negatively effect sperm numbers. Try to get him to change these before spending $$$ on ivf

Op here - do these numbers look like something that could possibly be fixed? DH is worried that this is permanent. He pops sudafed like candy and takes flonase as well.

Tell him to quit it

Do you know what it is like to suffer from allergies?

OP I understand you're worried but how would you like it if it came back that you weren't ovulating regularly and he was here posting about your weight and wine habits? Try not to be accusatory as you navigate this.