Anonymous wrote:You didn't say which sport your children play now. Here is the parent contract by MoCo Little league for basebal and softball: https://www.mclittleleague.org/parents/contract
I think you can find the same for other sports. Your DH would probably benefit from taking a training class for being a coach.

I used to think like your DH. I have to push and continue to push, never I feel perfect. My mom pushed me when I was a kid. My husband is the one that helps me to understand that I don't have to do that anymore, and my children should not have to feel how I had felt when I was a kid. Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:What are your Dh's goals for the kids? College sports? Pros? What is the end game?

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Your husband is HORRIBLE, not for expecting progress, but for criticizing instead of coaching, or paying for a coach. He cannot expect a child to magically divine how to get better. Certain kids need very specific and hands-on instruction and more practice than other kids.

He needs to accept who his child is and understand how to work with him constructively, otherwise he's just going to be one of these abusive and detested parents who never get visited in nursing homes.

My husband used to be this way, over academics, and I told him EXACTLY that. He backed off.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe telling your husband what your son wanted to say would scare him straight?

He is doing serious damage to his relationship with his kids. I’d either require therapy or pull the kids from sports for a while.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH used to remind me about let our kids have fun. Sometimes I forgot that kids play for fun, and I am for competitions. But I am not the one who plays. Your DH isn't the one that play on the field either. He needs to be reminded that.

Here is 3 images that for parents of hockey players: https://cdn4.sportngin.com/attachments/photo/3747/5818/justagame.jpg

I was shocked the first time I went to see a mite game (8U ice hockey game). Some parents of little 6U were nuts, they shouted eff and bees at each other just for watching kids playing.

DH doesn't act like that, he's not one of the crazy parents on the sidelines. It's the after practice/game talk that is bad. DH would say, "I know I'm not the one playing, I'm trying to get DS/DD to be better for themselves." Something along those lines.

In each of the image, there is a line "Relax, it's just a game." I think you could print the images out and stick them around the house or in the car to remind your DH that all of these after school activities are for fun, definitely not for more stressful moments after school. Your DH needs to relax. Maybe he should not take the kids to practices or games for awhile. Talk to him, it's easy to be outside of the fence and scream the head off than actually being on the field and playing the game.

Two of ours are playing ice sports, and none of us - the parents - can't skate lol so the kids really have fun.

Anonymous wrote:Eh, it's not going to hurt DS if DH pushes him to excel. He does not "need" to back off just because you want him to.

Do you even watch the practice? Is DS not trying as hard as he can? What if DH is (gasp) actually correct that there is an effort problem.

I try to be a safe place for my kids and let them vent about DH.

Yeah, that's nice. Alienate your kids from their dad. You actually do need to stop that shit.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH used to remind me about let our kids have fun. Sometimes I forgot that kids play for fun, and I am for competitions. But I am not the one who plays. Your DH isn't the one that play on the field either. He needs to be reminded that.

Here is 3 images that for parents of hockey players: https://cdn4.sportngin.com/attachments/photo/3747/5818/justagame.jpg

I was shocked the first time I went to see a mite game (8U ice hockey game). Some parents of little 6U were nuts, they shouted eff and bees at each other just for watching kids playing.

DH doesn't act like that, he's not one of the crazy parents on the sidelines. It's the after practice/game talk that is bad. DH would say, "I know I'm not the one playing, I'm trying to get DS/DD to be better for themselves." Something along those lines.

In each of the image, there is a line "Relax, it's just a game." I think you could print the images out and stick them around the house or in the car to remind your DH that all of these after school activities are for fun, definitely not for more stressful moments after school. Your DH needs to relax. Maybe he should not take the kids to practices or games for awhile. Talk to him, it's easy to be outside of the fence and scream the head off than actually being on the field and playing the game.

Two of ours are playing ice sports, and none of us - the parents - can skate lol so the kids really have fun.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH used to remind me about let our kids have fun. Sometimes I forgot that kids play for fun, and I am for competitions. But I am not the one who plays. Your DH isn't the one that play on the field either. He needs to be reminded that.

Here is 3 images that for parents of hockey players: https://cdn4.sportngin.com/attachments/photo/3747/5818/justagame.jpg

I was shocked the first time I went to see a mite game (8U ice hockey game). Some parents of little 6U were nuts, they shouted eff and bees at each other just for watching kids playing.

DH doesn't act like that, he's not one of the crazy parents on the sidelines. It's the after practice/game talk that is bad. DH would say, "I know I'm not the one playing, I'm trying to get DS/DD to be better for themselves." Something along those lines.

Anonymous wrote:As a PP mentioned - most kids quit sports because of the car ride home.

Google it.

Here's one link:

https://www.todaysparent.com/blogs/keeping-your-kid-in-sports-begins-with-the-car-ride-home/

Your husband is ruining the experience of sports for them, period. You need to tell him and the kids need to tell him.