Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 14:09     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
OP here. Interesting that people get notified some places; I’ve never been notified of such things at either daycares we’ve used. Hmm

Also, to clarify, I said “new mom” to indicate in title that this is related to a very young baby, but was trying to keep it concise.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 14:03     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, tell. We are notified if a child at our daycare or church childcare ends up with the flu after being cared for in a classroom with our child. Why wouldn't you notify a friend directly in the same circumstance?

I'm not sure that sort of notification is common. I've never seen that, and have used a variety of places for childcare, though never a church. We should all assume flu exposure during flu season and act accordingly.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 14:01     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
I would let her know even if there was no baby. I mean, you don't have to be hysterical about it but a text letting her know he developed a fever on Sunday and it was confirmed as flu is helpful. She can let other parents know, too. Presumably your kids had contact with them.

This is why notes go home from school when a kid tests positive for the flu. So parents who normally might dismiss the first signs as a cold have it in their heads that there has been a recent exposure and act accordingly. Which doesn't mean freak out, but perhaps keep a closer eye on the kid over the next few hours and/or call your pediatrician office and ask if they recommend you come in for a test.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:47     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, tell her so she knows what to do if her baby gets sick. It's good of you to ask.


She's going to know what to do anyway. I advocate for telling, but any illness in a young baby is going to treated seriously. if the baby starts showing symptoms, the plan of action treatment isn't going to change if she knows or doesn't know that the baby may have been exposed. At this time of year, doesn't everybody assume, especially people with older kids, that exposure is always on the table? And certainly the doctor would assume it.

the only reason I bring this up is that I think it is crazy town that anybody would do anything differently for a sick baby whether or not they knew the baby was exposed. If my 2 month is ill or showing signs of illness, she's going in and getting tested regardless of what I know. I think that should be the de facto for everyone


Not necessarily. I knew my baby had been exposed to the flu, we’d be at the pediatrician’s office or urgent care at the first sign of fever. Otherwise, I might wait and see for 12-24 hours, especially if fever appeared outside of office hours. That could make a critical difference.

Maybe I’m an outlier, but I didn’t rush my children to the doctor at the first sign of fever or other symptoms when they were little.


Generally, the flu does not come on with just a fever and then linger for 24 hours without other symptoms. I know flu a has been rather mild this season, but in general the flu hits you like a ton of bricks. And a baby that age should always be seen with a fever.


PP here. I think you’re right, but that also kind of reinforces the need to tell. It gets serious really fast. A few hours might make a difference. If baby starts fussing at 1 or 2 a.m., do you go to urgent care or wait until the pedi office opens at 8? I think responsible parents could make either choice.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:45     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Yes, tell. We are notified if a child at our daycare or church childcare ends up with the flu after being cared for in a classroom with our child. Why wouldn't you notify a friend directly in the same circumstance?
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:42     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, tell her so she knows what to do if her baby gets sick. It's good of you to ask.


She's going to know what to do anyway. I advocate for telling, but any illness in a young baby is going to treated seriously. if the baby starts showing symptoms, the plan of action treatment isn't going to change if she knows or doesn't know that the baby may have been exposed. At this time of year, doesn't everybody assume, especially people with older kids, that exposure is always on the table? And certainly the doctor would assume it.

the only reason I bring this up is that I think it is crazy town that anybody would do anything differently for a sick baby whether or not they knew the baby was exposed. If my 2 month is ill or showing signs of illness, she's going in and getting tested regardless of what I know. I think that should be the de facto for everyone


Not necessarily. I knew my baby had been exposed to the flu, we’d be at the pediatrician’s office or urgent care at the first sign of fever. Otherwise, I might wait and see for 12-24 hours, especially if fever appeared outside of office hours. That could make a critical difference.

Maybe I’m an outlier, but I didn’t rush my children to the doctor at the first sign of fever or other symptoms when they were little.


Generally, the flu does not come on with just a fever and then linger for 24 hours without other symptoms. I know flu a has been rather mild this season, but in general the flu hits you like a ton of bricks. And a baby that age should always be seen with a fever.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:41     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Of course you should tell her. But she’s a new friend or she’s your best friend?

Confused me too. She's a best friend but also a new mom with 2 month old baby. I probably wouldn't tell her. People take babies that little in to a doc if they get a fever, especially during flu season.


I think of meant the new to modify mom.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:37     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Anonymous wrote:Of course you should tell her. But she’s a new friend or she’s your best friend?

Confused me too. She's a best friend but also a new mom with 2 month old baby. I probably wouldn't tell her. People take babies that little in to a doc if they get a fever, especially during flu season.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:36     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
I don't rush my child now to the doctor for anything. But a two month old baby? Yeah. A fever in a 2 month old is getting a pediatrician visit
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:35     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Of course you should tell her. But she’s a new friend or she’s your best friend?
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:34     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, tell her so she knows what to do if her baby gets sick. It's good of you to ask.


She's going to know what to do anyway. I advocate for telling, but any illness in a young baby is going to treated seriously. if the baby starts showing symptoms, the plan of action treatment isn't going to change if she knows or doesn't know that the baby may have been exposed. At this time of year, doesn't everybody assume, especially people with older kids, that exposure is always on the table? And certainly the doctor would assume it.

the only reason I bring this up is that I think it is crazy town that anybody would do anything differently for a sick baby whether or not they knew the baby was exposed. If my 2 month is ill or showing signs of illness, she's going in and getting tested regardless of what I know. I think that should be the de facto for everyone


Not necessarily. I knew my baby had been exposed to the flu, we’d be at the pediatrician’s office or urgent care at the first sign of fever. Otherwise, I might wait and see for 12-24 hours, especially if fever appeared outside of office hours. That could make a critical difference.

Maybe I’m an outlier, but I didn’t rush my children to the doctor at the first sign of fever or other symptoms when they were little.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:22     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Your kid could have been exposed at the party.
https://www.cdc.gov/flu/about/disease/spread.htm
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:20     Subject: Re:Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
I think PP's are overreacting here - but yeah, I would let her know so she can take baby in ASAP in the unlikely event he gets sick. Or more likely, take the birthday girl in ASAP if she gets sick which is more likely (but still probably unlikely) and try to contain it before it spreads to the baby.
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:19     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, tell her so she knows what to do if her baby gets sick. It's good of you to ask.


She's going to know what to do anyway. I advocate for telling, but any illness in a young baby is going to treated seriously. if the baby starts showing symptoms, the plan of action treatment isn't going to change if she knows or doesn't know that the baby may have been exposed. At this time of year, doesn't everybody assume, especially people with older kids, that exposure is always on the table? And certainly the doctor would assume it.

the only reason I bring this up is that I think it is crazy town that anybody would do anything differently for a sick baby whether or not they knew the baby was exposed. If my 2 month is ill or showing signs of illness, she's going in and getting tested regardless of what I know. I think that should be the de facto for everyone
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2019 13:15     Subject: Kid has flu; tell new-mom friend we just visited?
Yes, tell her so she knows what to do if her baby gets sick. It's good of you to ask.