Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cant you just wear her out and then put her down for a nap early? Nap at 12 instead of 1?

She is too old to be worn. Every time we try to put her down early, it backfires on us.

She does fall asleep in the car. Think she will have a car nap that day.

How old is she? My friend wears her smaller 3 year old on a regular basis,

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Healthy sleep habits happy child says routines are important but you can also occasionally break the routine.

If I’m new to the area and like the person this might be an occasion I would try to break the routine but only you know how that would go.

I’m generally a social, outgoing person - idk what you are like.

She is our first party invitation for this child. I like the mom very much. We attended a morning class together that is ending next week.

I’m the PP you’re quoting here. Does she live in your neighborhood? Will the kids go to school together later or will you otherwise see each around after this class? If not, I may change my mind on whether it is “worth it” but of course up to you!

I wouldn’t. Partly bc my daughter would be cranky, and partly bc nap is my downtime and I’m not spending it at a kids party. It might actually work out nicely if you tell the mom you can’t go (either be honest about nap or make up another reason) but suggest a play date some other time and bring a bday present. The mom will prob be too busy at the party for you guys to even chat much anyway.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on age of kid. At 18 mos-2 probably not. Age 2.5-4 then yes I would skip nap.

This.

Same. Around age 3 we started making exceptions to nap time for special events, especially when we knew the kids would fall asleep on the drive home.

You can't say "maybe" as an RSVP. That's really rude.

I was never super rigid with my kids naps, so I would go. But you know your child best.

It sounds like you are hesitant to skip the nap but also want to solidify a friendship with this family. Can you decline but immediate make plans for a play date at a mutually convenient time?

Anonymous wrote:Depends on age of kid. At 18 mos-2 probably not. Age 2.5-4 then yes I would skip nap.

Same. I assume if they are having a party at that time that your kid is on the older side. You know your kid though. If you think a meltdown will happen, then I wouldn’t.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cant you just wear her out and then put her down for a nap early? Nap at 12 instead of 1?

She is too old to be worn. Every time we try to put her down early, it backfires on us.

She does fall asleep in the car. Think she will have a car nap that day.

What? Wear her out means to take her to the park and have her run for an hour or take her swimming. Wear her out = tire her out.

Anonymous wrote:Cant you just wear her out and then put her down for a nap early? Nap at 12 instead of 1?

She is too old to be worn. Every time we try to put her down early, it backfires on us.

She does fall asleep in the car. Think she will have a car nap that day.

Cant you just wear her out and then put her down for a nap early? Nap at 12 instead of 1?

Anonymous wrote:Healthy sleep habits happy child says routines are important but you can also occasionally break the routine.

If I’m new to the area and like the person this might be an occasion I would try to break the routine but only you know how that would go.

I’m generally a social, outgoing person - idk what you are like.

She is our first party invitation for this child. I like the mom very much. We attended a morning class together that is ending next week.

Healthy sleep habits happy child says routines are important but you can also occasionally break the routine.

If I’m new to the area and like the person this might be an occasion I would try to break the routine but only you know how that would go.

I’m generally a social, outgoing person - idk what you are like.

I would, but DD is super flexible, even though she’s on a fairly consistent schedule, and would do fine with the missed nap. She’s also not usually melt- downy if she’s tired.. she just gets snuggly and quiet.

Mine would probably succumb to the car nap on the way home, and be fine for the evening, although we might have to adjust bedtime a little.

Some other kids, nope, no way would I go. Yours sounds like she might be one of them, OP.

After age 3, for a very close friend, yes I'd consider it. But for age 1 or 2, definitely not. My youngest is 2.5 and he could not do it. Maybe in 6 months he'd be able to make it.

My issue wouldn't really be about making it through the party, it'd be how terrible my evening would be from 4pm-7pm. It's not fun to have an over tired, over sitmulated crying mess of a child. Again, some kids handle it ok, mine did not.

Anonymous wrote:With my first: no. I wouldn’t go, or I would have done something crazy like trying to shift his nap schedule.
With my fourth: yes. And he would fall asleep in the car on the way home or just skip the nap that day and go to bed early, and it would be fine.

This is my third child and she has never missed a nap.

My older kids never attended afternoon activities but they also never got invited to parties at that time because everyone else napped at that time as well.