Anonymous wrote:Because this is DCUM others will weigh in , but meant for parents of two.

A group of friends is debating a theory. Weigh in?

Parents of tiny children (pregnant; toddler age) want one of each. Parents of older kids (elementary and up) prefer same sex siblings. Same for the siblings - each gender prefers its own.

I wanted two healthy children. If pushed before children, I would have said if they were M/F I would have preferred the girl to be the oldest. We end up with two boys. In the end, it really did not matter.

I never heard of this. I grew up in predominantly female family, have one sister. I always wanted a son, but I do admit at first I was more comfortable with girls(well in my head, before I had kids). I ended up with boy and then girl. I am very happy, and now that they are older, I am still very happy that I have one of each.

My theory is: most people know you can’t pick and are happy with what they have

This theory is stupid because no parent is going to start wishing their kid was a different sex when they get to elementary school.

I had no preference and was happy with what I got. Because what is the alternative?

I have 1 sister and I am thrilled to have 1 of each. They get along well and I think it is good to get to know someone of the opposite gender very well growing up. I grew up in a totally girl world (all female first cousins too). I was excited to raise a boy.

My kids (a boy and a girl) are 4.5 years apart.
I had no preference. Waited to find out what we were having until birth. Just wanted a healthy baby. And really just wanted a baby with number 2 because I had secondary infertility.

Any assumptions are based on our preferences, experiences, and biases. I think future contentment of what we end up with is based more on our kids’ personalities in relation to our own and their siblings.

I have 2 boys. Wanted at least one girl (would have been fine with two girls). Now they are in late elem,love both boys of course, but wish I could have had a girl. A third was not in the cards for us. Same gender leads to more competition and fighting, in my opinion.

I (mom) for sure wanted a girl, tried for and had her first. I would've been happy with either for second child, but wanted, tried for and had a boy. I wanted the experience of raising each gender.

Anonymous wrote:People want what they grew up with (same gender sib, opposite), but get over it fast. Except for # of kids, many only kids purposely had only one kid. Same for large families.

+1

We didn’t find out what we were having with our second and I assumed it was a boy because of how I was carrying and because there are so many boy cousins. I think it would have been great to have 2 boys and also love having one of each.

Zero preference. I think life is harder for girls and I want the easiest possible life for my kids but other than that, I really have no preference whatsoever.

I have two girls but seriously didn't care either way. I see benefits to having one of each and benefits to having two of the same sex. I do think I would have been overwhelmed if I ended up with two high-energy boys instead.

I’m an only child and I was prepared to be completely happy with one when dd was born. Dh is one of two and wanted at least 2. I got pregnant a little by surprise and am happy about it and very happy I’ll be having another girl. I think that bond can be incredible and beautiful. I would have been happy with a son too but somehow it’s easier to wrap my head around this variant.

I had a boy and a girl, my preference, and they are like best friends. They are both grown. I have a sister and a brother....I’m the youngest. Never really close to either until adulthood.