Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:16     Subject: Meals when a guest
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


YOU cook dinner for your family every night? I'd like to know how your partners/spouse helps out.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:13     Subject: Meals when a guest
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


Well this family usually has the nanny cook on weeknights. Sounds like OP doesn't think that's good enough.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:09     Subject: Meals when a guest
OP, I sounds like this would work better for the situation: YOU buy a few things, do it right away, and keep in their frig. Yogurt, fruit, that type of thing.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:07     Subject: Meals when a guest
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.


Sorry, I don't believe you. Or if you do really cook dinner every night for weeks on end for your family plus guests then you don't work a regular 8-5 job inclusive of child pick up and commuting. Sorry.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 12:03     Subject: Meals when a guest
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When we have family guests and I am working, I feel responsible for feeding them a decent dinner. I have breakfast, lunch and snack items on hand that they can feed themselves. They are also more than welcome to go to the grocery store to get any preferred items. It's nice if they cook a meal but I certainly don't expect it UNLESS the visit is billed as a "helping" visit, where they are there specifically to help out vs be a guest.


And how often have you had family guests stay with you for 2+ weeks when you aren't on vacation/off from work yourself?


With one side of the family living outside of the US and the other out west, several times a year. I cook dinner for my family every night-why wouldn't I cook for guests? That's not to say that the majority of our visitors just sit around waiting to be fed. Many times they'll let us know that they are going to be out for the day and will not return in time for dinner.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 11:59     Subject: Re:Meals when a guest
you guys this isn't real
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 11:58     Subject: Meals when a guest
This has to be a troll. Visiting for WEEKS, no rental car. Ability to find and navigate DCUM but not order delivery or instacart?? When my parents or in laws visit they help a ton, including shopping and cooking. No way anyone is that clueless.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 11:56     Subject: Meals when a guest
Ahh this is how I want to spend my retirement. Being a mooch on my working children and not helping with grandchildren.

Get a rental car
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 11:54     Subject: Meals when a guest
Get.A.Rental.Car.And.Go.Get.Your.Food.

Who the heck plans to vacation in someone else's home when the parents are working and the kids are at school/daycare?

It's terrible of your son to be telling you to ask the nanny to drive you places. That is not her job.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 11:49     Subject: Re:Meals when a guest
I want to send a link to this thread to my MIL. She needs to read these comments before her April visit.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 11:49     Subject: Re:Meals when a guest
Yay for the rules about no snacking before dinner! Good for the parents.

(And I’m thinking, too, that this must be a troll. Who could be this dense?)

Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 11:42     Subject: Meals when a guest
Have you offered to make meals or order in a nice meal over these last two weeks? And why the hell aren't your responding to your own post?
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 11:40     Subject: Meals when a guest
Anonymous wrote:I’m concerned for my son and his family, they seem very stretched time-wise.

We flew in a couple weeks ago and landed late on a weekday at 4pm We had a small dinner at their house that their nanny made, but everyone was hungry afterwards, including their kids! Their kids, 4 and 6, ate some additional frozen food cooked up. They have strict rules against snacking before dinner or not eating all your dinner foods. We love to snack while on vacation!

Then in the mornings they scuttle off to work and one kid goes to preschool and the other to elementary. They were fed and had lunchboxes but we weren’t told nor given much for breakfast or lunch at their house. In fact my son told us to have the nanny take us grocery shopping when she comes!

The nanny comes in the afternoon to do pickups and cook dinner for the kids by 5pm and everyone else eats again later when the parents get home at 6. I don’t know if we need to help more or give advice on meals— or to whom, the nanny, my son or his wife!?


Where are you located? I can recommend some good breakfast and lunch restaurants. You can go shopping during the day and pick up what you want for the rest of your stay.

It is not a vacation if you are visiting family that is still working and in school. Offer to make a few dinners or take them out. Pick up the kids and take them on a fun outing too.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 11:40     Subject: Meals when a guest
If your son and his wife like their nanny and you are putting that at risk (because she's getting frustrated by the grandparents who never leave and are always under foot) I would be so angry.
Anonymous
Post 03/21/2019 11:36     Subject: Meals when a guest
I can't believe you're visiting and not even taking the kids out of daycare to play or cooking meals. I feel bad for the nanny who has more work now