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Anonymous wrote:Recently I read a very interesting perspective from a 24 year old “cis-het” white woman. She explained that this “identity” was considered “the worst” and privileged and uncool especially in online communities she visited as a teen. She went searching for a new identity on the LBGT spectrum so she wouldn’t be the dreaded white cis-het identity. Granted this is a bit of an extreme, but I think it is an illustrative example of how teens feel about being cis-het, particularly when they are also white.

won't anyone think of the straight white cis-het people's suffering

Eh, there's some truth to it. We live in a time of the cult of the oppressed identities and todays' teens are bombarded with strong messages everywhere and see cultural power in not being conventionally white and straight. The closest most of them will ever get to any kind of "oppressed" status is to claim some kind of non conforming gender or sexual identity and hence these polls showing 20% or whatever of teens identifying as non straight. We all know it's primarily a figment of their imaginations and most are just boring straight people but they get to play the bisexual/nonbinary/trans game for a few years because 1) no one will challenge them on it, and 2) they never have to act out on it either. And adults are guilty of coddling them.

Just as most of the "bi" girls I knew 20 years ago never did anything more than perhaps, and it is even just a perhaps, daringly kiss another girl, the same is true for most of today's "bisexual" teens.

I would not pay much attention to any kid claiming any kind of sexual or non conforming gender identity until they sincerely acted out on it. A pattern of dates, for example. Till it's clear they engaged in some form of physical activity. Frankly, I'd sit them down and ask them if they genuinely feel a sexual attraction and a desire to perform sexual actions in all its glory on someone of the same gender. Their responses should be telling and give you a good idea of whether it's sincere or just a phase.

Speaking of attention-seeking, I saw a boy in the neighborhood a few weeks ago walking around with both the rainbow flag and a BLM patch sown to his trousers. Definitely attention seeking and proclaiming to the world everything he knows to be true and righteous I suppose there wasn't room for a "we believe in science" patch too.

--bored gay person amused at today's kids

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Anonymous wrote:This is more about the attention that this generation craves, not sure it's a bi/straight/gay thing at all. Girls especially seem to be constantly snap chatting, selfifying and whatever. That is what needs addressing here.

Are you a baby boomer?

If so, let's talk about the attention your generation demanded. You protested all sorts of things (and not just the war -- you demanded everyone learn all about "free love" and sat around on the street displaying your hippie credentials).

You made hits out of songs like My Generation and The Times They Are A-Changin', which are all about saying "look how awesome we are and how out of touch everyone else is."

I like 60s/70s music, but god I hate how entitled and myopic so many of you are.

This is her mother, not her grandmother.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Recently I read a very interesting perspective from a 24 year old “cis-het” white woman. She explained that this “identity” was considered “the worst” and privileged and uncool especially in online communities she visited as a teen. She went searching for a new identity on the LBGT spectrum so she wouldn’t be the dreaded white cis-het identity. Granted this is a bit of an extreme, but I think it is an illustrative example of how teens feel about being cis-het, particularly when they are also white.

won't anyone think of the straight white cis-het people's suffering

Well she read it online about a single white cishet woman so it obviously applies to all! We should just closer all LGBTQ people so some random possibly made up teen online doesn’t have to feel like she isn’t unique.

Closet all not closer all

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Recently I read a very interesting perspective from a 24 year old “cis-het” white woman. She explained that this “identity” was considered “the worst” and privileged and uncool especially in online communities she visited as a teen. She went searching for a new identity on the LBGT spectrum so she wouldn’t be the dreaded white cis-het identity. Granted this is a bit of an extreme, but I think it is an illustrative example of how teens feel about being cis-het, particularly when they are also white.

won't anyone think of the straight white cis-het people's suffering

Well she read it online about a single white cishet woman so it obviously applies to all! We should just closer all LGBTQ people so some random possibly made up teen online doesn’t have to feel like she isn’t unique.

Anonymous wrote:This generation is addicted to attention.

Oh my god this is just so stupid.

Jocks in letterman jackets, goths in black, fraternity and sorority members in Greek letter apparel, jewelry with religious symbols: this is what people do to signal their identity and sense of belonging. It’s not new. It’s not generational. It’s just people being human.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the bi girls I knew from school are now happily straight adults.

Let her go through this phase. If it turns out to be more serious, there's nothing wrong with it either.

And yes, this generation is the most attention demanding, attention seeking, self-centered and self-absorbed generation ever. Which is saying a lot. They have no clue. I suppose we adults are to blame to some extent.

Just a quick note that being married to or serially dating someone of the opposite gender doesn’t make a “formerly bi” person straight, nor does being married to or serially dating someone of the same gender make them gay.

Carry on.

I agree with all of this, but identifying as bi and being in a "straight presenting" marriage affords you a world of privilege, which even included marriage itself until 7 years ago.

Anonymous wrote:Recently I read a very interesting perspective from a 24 year old “cis-het” white woman. She explained that this “identity” was considered “the worst” and privileged and uncool especially in online communities she visited as a teen. She went searching for a new identity on the LBGT spectrum so she wouldn’t be the dreaded white cis-het identity. Granted this is a bit of an extreme, but I think it is an illustrative example of how teens feel about being cis-het, particularly when they are also white.

won't anyone think of the straight white cis-het people's suffering

Recently I read a very interesting perspective from a 24 year old “cis-het” white woman. She explained that this “identity” was considered “the worst” and privileged and uncool especially in online communities she visited as a teen. She went searching for a new identity on the LBGT spectrum so she wouldn’t be the dreaded white cis-het identity. Granted this is a bit of an extreme, but I think it is an illustrative example of how teens feel about being cis-het, particularly when they are also white.

PP about the Boomers and their attention seeking/protesting behavior. Yes, I agree, if there had been Instagram, etc, they would have been seeking attention that way. It is the age of the person--transitioning from a child to adult, and the sexuality that develops with it. That age just screams look at me, the rest of you old people (over 30s) don't know jack!!