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Anonymous wrote:He's controlling and emotionally abusive. Do you have family and/or friends in the area?

No. I have absolutely no one here. It's also not easy to make friends here because the majority of the population where I live isn't American. We live in the US but it feels like another country. It's all immigrants.

DP.. I was with you until this statement. Why can't you make friends with immigrants?

Get a job. Maybe you will get to know more immigrants and become friends with them.

I'm thinking your husband feels that since you aren't working at all, you don't get to have any money spent on non essentials. That's controlling, but, I have to say, your statement above turned me off, and I probably wouldn't be friends with you either.

--signed an immigrant who is "Americanized"

Op here. My husband is an immigrant. I have tons of immigrant friends. You would have to live here to truly understand. They’re nice to me but I will never truly fit in with them/ their culture. They’re not Americanized.

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I think it is better if we don't spend too much time online. People don't even look/talk at each other anymore; they just look at their phone or text Your husband can turn on hotspot on his phone so your computer can connect to it and use the phone for internet connection. With that said, how come you don't have your own phone? It is kind of weird that he has a phone but you don't?

Right, the way her DH does now. But he refuses to even allow her to have minimal access to the internet for tv or job searching.

It's a shame that his real personality is emerging after you already had a kid. That makes you having a normal, decent life a lot more difficult, but not impossible. You can do it!

Get the internet. Go back to work. Don't share your bank account info with him. Protect yourself and your child.

I do have a phone but it's not a smart phone. It doesn't have internet access. Is it kinda of weird that I pay my own cell phone bill?

It's very weird, he's selfish and doesn't care for your well being.
Once you get your own internet, start trying to get a job. Let him figure out what to do about child care.
I hate to say it, it will not stop here. It's a form of abuse.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I think it is better if we don't spend too much time online. People don't even look/talk at each other anymore; they just look at their phone or text Your husband can turn on hotspot on his phone so your computer can connect to it and use the phone for internet connection. With that said, how come you don't have your own phone? It is kind of weird that he has a phone but you don't?

I do have a phone but it's not a smart phone. It doesn't have internet access. Is it kinda of weird that I pay my own cell phone bill?

What money are you using to pay the bill? If you don’t have your own income, aren’t you just paying this out of a joint account?

Anyway sister, I’d advise you to get some cable and internet, buy a tv, and buy an iPhone. Stop being pathetic. What’s he going to do? If he goes ballistic or hits you for wanting to watch tv, then you need to GTFO immediately. Your husband is a major asshole, either lay down the law or leave.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's controlling and emotionally abusive. Do you have family and/or friends in the area?

No. I have absolutely no one here. It's also not easy to make friends here because the majority of the population where I live isn't American. We live in the US but it feels like another country. It's all immigrants.

DP.. I was with you until this statement. Why can't you make friends with immigrants?

Get a job. Maybe you will get to know more immigrants and become friends with them.

I'm thinking your husband feels that since you aren't working at all, you don't get to have any money spent on non essentials. That's controlling, but, I have to say, your statement above turned me off, and I probably wouldn't be friends with you either.

--signed an immigrant who is "Americanized"

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I think it is better if we don't spend too much time online. People don't even look/talk at each other anymore; they just look at their phone or text Your husband can turn on hotspot on his phone so your computer can connect to it and use the phone for internet connection. With that said, how come you don't have your own phone? It is kind of weird that he has a phone but you don't?

I do have a phone but it's not a smart phone. It doesn't have internet access. Is it kinda of weird that I pay my own cell phone bill?

Get yourself internet! It's your place too, and tell him to go to effing lobby himself

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Anonymous wrote:So he has wifi at work and a smartphone to access the internet at home and you don’t because “you are addicted”? Time to make a plan to return to work. This man is trying to control you and it will only get worse.

I used to work from home so I think that's where he got the idea that I am addicted to the internet or I would watch tv at night. I worked mostly at night so we would not have to pay for childcare. I did get the installation set up for my birthday which is next Thursday. It sounds like I need to use the internet to look for a job. It's really not fair he's being controlling about this. His communication style is wrong. Instead of talking though this he immediately rejected my idea.

Yes, you should. Stockpile some money and start thinking about your exit strategy. This is not a healthy or safe relationship for you or your children.

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I think it is better if we don't spend too much time online. People don't even look/talk at each other anymore; they just look at their phone or text Your husband can turn on hotspot on his phone so your computer can connect to it and use the phone for internet connection. With that said, how come you don't have your own phone? It is kind of weird that he has a phone but you don't?

This is NOT the thread for this discussion.

He's controlling and emotionally abusive. Do you have family and/or friends in the area?

Sometimes I think it is better if we don't spend too much time online. People don't even look/talk at each other anymore; they just look at their phone or text Your husband can turn on hotspot on his phone so your computer can connect to it and use the phone for internet connection. With that said, how come you don't have your own phone? It is kind of weird that he has a phone but you don't?

Anonymous wrote:So he has wifi at work and a smartphone to access the internet at home and you don’t because “you are addicted”? Time to make a plan to return to work. This man is trying to control you and it will only get worse.

I used to work from home so I think that's where he got the idea that I am addicted to the internet or I would watch tv at night. I worked mostly at night so we would not have to pay for childcare. I did get the installation set up for my birthday which is next Thursday. It sounds like I need to use the internet to look for a job. It's really not fair he's being controlling about this. His communication style is wrong. Instead of talking though this he immediately rejected my idea.

He sounds like a $hitty human being. You need to start giving serious thought to your exit strategy.

-A husband