Anonymous
Post 03/16/2019 09:02     Subject: Re:Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hell to the no. I’d like a partner for sex and fun but don’t want to live with anyone again. Woman here.


Man here same thing. Spend time with me children find someone to be FWB with that's it


+69
Another man
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2019 08:59     Subject: Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:I daydream about my spouse dying, and frankly my current marriage doesn't make me excited about remarrying.

I get this. Mine is more like he comes to me and wants a divorce. Idk why I don’t want to be the one to ask. My mom has never liked him and I suffer just to make her think she’s wrong about him.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2019 08:35     Subject: Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:Hypothetically: If you're married now, and your spouse were to die relatively young, would you want to remarry? Why or why not?


47. DH is a cancer survivor so we’ve discussed this. Second marriage for us both. I was shocked how much I like being married this time. But I know how awful it can be, so I don’t think I’d risk it a third time. I thought maybe at 70, but then I watched a relative divorce at that age.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2019 08:02     Subject: Re:Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Hell to the no. I’d like a partner for sex and fun but don’t want to live with anyone again. Woman here.


Man here same thing. Spend time with me children find someone to be FWB with that's it


+1 - woman
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2019 07:35     Subject: Re:Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:My husband did die young (46) leaving me and my son (8 at the time) now 10. No, I will probably never remarry but even trying to find someone to date has been hard. Sure, I’ve found plenty to have sex with none to actually go out with. I guess I’ve been looking in the wrong places, Tinder, Bumble, OKC. The men I’ve met aren’t interested in more than something casual and at the time I was not either but but now I’d like sex and something outside of my bedroom. I’m funny, fun, attractive so I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong. I didn’t think I’d be widow with a young child at 45 (47 now) but....


I am sorry for your loss.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2019 07:27     Subject: Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, I cannot. Husband is retired military and I'd lose my health insurance and his pension he worked hard for to provide for us.


Me too.


My friends mom lives in a retirement community and the call it sin city because none of the women marry for this reason.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2019 07:24     Subject: Re:Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I have kids already and don't want more... no.


Also... I have a friend in this situation and my H $$ should go to the children not helping support some dude that took his place. Prenup please.


This is widow not divorce.


The subject says widowed.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2019 07:22     Subject: Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:No, I cannot. Husband is retired military and I'd lose my health insurance and his pension he worked hard for to provide for us.


Me too.
Anonymous
Post 03/16/2019 05:52     Subject: Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
No, I would not remarry. I don't want anymore children (and am prob too old anyhow) and my kids don't need another dad.

I also do not want to blend families-when I die, I want what dh and I worked for to go to OUR kids only.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 23:35     Subject: Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
I would probably remarry. I’ve loved everything about marriage.

Dh is a FSO in a war zone so I do think about it. I know he’d remarry if I died. He’s good looking and an extremely good husband/father. I just hope he’d pick someone who was still a good mother.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 23:21     Subject: Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, I cannot. Husband is retired military and I'd lose my health insurance and his pension he worked hard for to provide for us.


Same. Will date a lot, but would not re-marry unless he is filthy rich.


I wouldn't remarry in less I had an amazing prenup as if you remarry except in a few situations you cannot get tricare back and you cannot get the pension back. Pension isn't much but its the principal of he worked hard to get it for us.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 23:10     Subject: Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:No, I cannot. Husband is retired military and I'd lose my health insurance and his pension he worked hard for to provide for us.


Same. Will date a lot, but would not re-marry unless he is filthy rich.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 23:08     Subject: Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Anonymous wrote:No, I cannot. Husband is retired military and I'd lose my health insurance and his pension he worked hard for to provide for us.


This would be me too, so no.
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 22:57     Subject: Re:Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
My husband did die young (46) leaving me and my son (8 at the time) now 10. No, I will probably never remarry but even trying to find someone to date has been hard. Sure, I’ve found plenty to have sex with none to actually go out with. I guess I’ve been looking in the wrong places, Tinder, Bumble, OKC. The men I’ve met aren’t interested in more than something casual and at the time I was not either but but now I’d like sex and something outside of my bedroom. I’m funny, fun, attractive so I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong. I didn’t think I’d be widow with a young child at 45 (47 now) but....
Anonymous
Post 03/15/2019 15:27     Subject: Hypothetical: widowed and remarriage
Nope. I already have two adorable kids and have no desire for more. I'm financially stable with or without my spouse. Blended families are hard and marriage is hard even without kids in the picture. I love my husband but if he dies or leaves, I'll date but have no interest in marrying again. I might consider cohabiting once the kids have left for college. Maybe.