Why do you even assume they were dating? Can't they be friends without you assuming a bunch of things?

Creep.

I was close friends with a boy in high school and the beginning of college until we naturally grew apart. We hung out all of the time. I found out in the past few years that he’s gay. It came up in passing to my mother recently. She asked me how I felt about that since he’s someone I used to date. I was shocked she thought that since we were truly just close friends. She was shocked we never dated since we were so close for so long. You really have no idea if you daughter dates this person and broke up or if it was a close friendship and they drifted apart.

Anonymous wrote:Well maybe you have it all wrong and they weren’t even dating. Did you want them to be and now you’re sad? Mostly it seems like you’re projecting your own feelings onto her which is awkward at best and unhealthy at worst.

No, I definitely didn't want them dating. I think it's hard enough to date as a teen, let alone dating someone who is trans. Maybe I've got it wrong. Or maybe they just didn't define it as dating. We were together yesterday for 4.5 hours straight and I never brought him up.

Anonymous wrote:Hello! Who doesn't help their kids during a break up.

My son was so sad, it was adorable.

We went to the movies, ate popcorn, joked at how bad he was at being a boyfriend.

Her child is not sad, is not complaining and never even acknowledged the relationship.

Well maybe you have it all wrong and they weren’t even dating. Did you want them to be and now you’re sad? Mostly it seems like you’re projecting your own feelings onto her which is awkward at best and unhealthy at worst.

You need to ask yourself why is your child not comfortable talking to you and about boyfriends and everything. Much larger problem here and that is that you don't have a good relationship with your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have been mortified for my mom to discuss my breakups with me. Just stop

Really? When I was 16 and my BF broke up with me I was so heartbroken and was grateful for my mother’s support; I really needed to talk it through. But it’s different if OP’s DD never told her they were dating and doesn’t seem upset. I’m not getting the issue.

My mom and I have always had a good relationship but I would have never discussed break ups with her. I would not have wanted her advice and she would not have been the one I confided in for comfort during a breakup. That’s what my friends were for.

Just ask her out for lunch or donuts etc on Saturday. Bring a magazine in case the talk is small. Don’t bring it up. If she wants, she’ll bring it up to you.