Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 22:56     Subject: Re:4 yo fat shaming

Change the language/use more discretion with at home conversations when your child is around. Obviously, he's repeating what he hears frequently.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 22:07     Subject: 4 yo fat shaming

I've told my 5yo that the word fat isn't a nice way to describe someone, and that it's not kind to talk about other people's bodies. My 5yo still sometimes points stuff out to me/tests boundaries but he does know better than to say these things to others/in public.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 20:12     Subject: 4 yo fat shaming

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:4 year olds are very factual and report observations.

I would just tell him that he needs to keep those observations to himself as we don't talk about other people in public.


I highly doubt this kid saw Sally's Mom eat too much at every meal. If he just said she was fat, that would (presumably) be a fact. He has no idea why she, specifically, is fat, but he has heard from someone or some book or some TV show that eating too much can make you fat. This is not about a child simply observing and reporting a fact.


Unless he heard Sally say it. Or Sally's mom had lunch with Sally and brought a sizeable lunch with her.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 19:57     Subject: 4 yo fat shaming

Anonymous wrote:4 year olds are very factual and report observations.

I would just tell him that he needs to keep those observations to himself as we don't talk about other people in public.


I highly doubt this kid saw Sally's Mom eat too much at every meal. If he just said she was fat, that would (presumably) be a fact. He has no idea why she, specifically, is fat, but he has heard from someone or some book or some TV show that eating too much can make you fat. This is not about a child simply observing and reporting a fact.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 19:48     Subject: 4 yo fat shaming

4 year olds are very factual and report observations.

I would just tell him that he needs to keep those observations to himself as we don't talk about other people in public.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 19:45     Subject: 4 yo fat shaming

Squishy =/= “fat”

Your child has heard that fat people eat too much, OP. It’s likely from you.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 19:23     Subject: 4 yo fat shaming

My son’s kindergarten teacher addressed this nicely:

“Some bodies are big. Some are small. We don’t talk about bodies.”
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 19:09     Subject: 4 yo fat shaming

He isn’t fat shaming, kids just don’t have filters. Teach him it’s impolite to say that.
Anonymous
Post 03/13/2019 13:26     Subject: Re:4 yo fat shaming

I tell my kids it’s ok to say whatever they want to me and yes people come in all shapes and sizes and it’s ok to notice that but it’s not nice to comment to other people on their bodies and that in our house we don’t use the word fat to describe a person.