I don’t think most people would notice a middle aged woman going from an 8 to a 6, sorry.

Anonymous wrote:Threads like this make me so glad I recovered from my eating disorder. I'm 5'4", weight always around 125, counting calories obsessively and starving to get to 120, then immediately rebounding up to 130. In eating disorder recovery I started eating a normal amount of food every day (between 2000 and 3000 calories depending on how active/hungry I am on any given day-- I don't work out but I walk a lot) and now my weight comfortably sits just below 120. I can't imagine living on 1000 or 1500 calories a day anymore.

This is just to say that the obsessiveness can actually keep you heavier. Getting back in touch with your body's hunger cues can be a really good thing.

Same. I know the feeling OP describes SO well--it consumed me for longer than I would like, and took years and a lot of hard work to get over. I'm finally at a place where I don't count calories or micromanage what I eat and where I'm really happy with how I feel. I still work out hard, because I absolutely love it, but I also don't value skinniness the way I used to.

As a mom of three, it's also VERY important to me that I set a positive example for my kids. For me, that means eating and living in a balanced way. I'll be damned if they learn to obsess about their weight from me, the way I did from my parents. It's hell.

Threads like this make me so glad I recovered from my eating disorder. I'm 5'4", weight always around 125, counting calories obsessively and starving to get to 120, then immediately rebounding up to 130. In eating disorder recovery I started eating a normal amount of food every day (between 2000 and 3000 calories depending on how active/hungry I am on any given day-- I don't work out but I walk a lot) and now my weight comfortably sits just below 120. I can't imagine living on 1000 or 1500 calories a day anymore.

This is just to say that the obsessiveness can actually keep you heavier. Getting back in touch with your body's hunger cues can be a really good thing.

Anonymous wrote:Lolol. In your own mind’s eye, OP. A month of dieting and you think it’s changed how people interact with you? You don’t have that much power or influence over other people, or yourself tbh.

Okay

Lolol. In your own mind’s eye, OP. A month of dieting and you think it’s changed how people interact with you? You don’t have that much power or influence over other people, or yourself tbh.

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Anonymous wrote:Not flaming, just wondering what “reverently” looks like.

Forgive the use of this word! I’m overtired and at a conference.

There’s more immediate respect from women and willingness to go out of their way (helping with things, holding the door) on behalf of men. I went from a chubby eight to a regular size six. Not much, but apparently enough!

A chubby size 8? Delusional.

What makes you say that? Why is 8 not chubby? I mean I went from 1 to 2 and I find that I don't like it. I am 5'4". unless she is very tall, 8 is not just chubby, imo, but overweight. I post only because I am sick of people like you that propagate the idea that overweight is the new normal. I am sorry if you are very overweight and think 8 is not chubby, but your attitude spreads to your kids who then think being chubby is not being overweight. You and your ilk are part of the problem. Size 8 is overweight for an average height woman.

OP here, and I don’t agree with this. While I was a chubby 8, it’s possible to be a fit eight. It’s a musculature, not height, issue.

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Anonymous wrote:Not flaming, just wondering what “reverently” looks like.

Forgive the use of this word! I’m overtired and at a conference.

There’s more immediate respect from women and willingness to go out of their way (helping with things, holding the door) on behalf of men. I went from a chubby eight to a regular size six. Not much, but apparently enough!

A chubby size 8? Delusional.

What makes you say that? Why is 8 not chubby? I mean I went from 1 to 2 and I find that I don't like it. I am 5'4". unless she is very tall, 8 is not just chubby, imo, but overweight. I post only because I am sick of people like you that propagate the idea that overweight is the new normal. I am sorry if you are very overweight and think 8 is not chubby, but your attitude spreads to your kids who then think being chubby is not being overweight. You and your ilk are part of the problem. Size 8 is overweight for an average height woman.

Anonymous wrote:I am the same way. When I eat very clean and light I enjoy what I call - “ feeling empty”. I don’t like feeling full or the feeling the morning after a big restaurant meal. I dread restaurants for that reason. I Ike to eat the same thing every day. As few ounces as possible. I eat about 1400 calories a day. 5’4” and 120 lbs but I’ve gone as low as 112.

I’m the poster who is 5’4’’ 126. I’ve been as low as 105. I'd like to be 120, but don’t have the energy to exercise. I eat 1500 calories a day. I also love that empty feeling.

I am the same way. When I eat very clean and light I enjoy what I call - “ feeling empty”. I don’t like feeling full or the feeling the morning after a big restaurant meal. I dread restaurants for that reason. I Ike to eat the same thing every day. As few ounces as possible. I eat about 1400 calories a day. 5’4” and 120 lbs but I’ve gone as low as 112.

OP, I would relax. People here become overwrought about the positive aspects of dieting and restriction for the already-thin. Yes, those positive experiences can lead to anorexia in a tiny portion of people. But overeating leads to obesity at much, much higher rates and I don't see much concern when people order value meals at McDonald's, etc.

My weight/height ratio is smaller than yours, and I still put a lot of effort into weight control and working out. And I also want to lose 5 pounds, but not enough to put forth the extreme level of effort it would take me to get there (since I am already slim). So, enjoy the feelings of control and accomplishment. If you become obsessed or become underweight, then you have a problem. But not until then.

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Anonymous wrote:Not flaming, just wondering what “reverently” looks like.

Forgive the use of this word! I’m overtired and at a conference.

There’s more immediate respect from women and willingness to go out of their way (helping with things, holding the door) on behalf of men. I went from a chubby eight to a regular size six. Not much, but apparently enough!

A chubby size 8? Delusional.

Okay - not toned/flabby.

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Anonymous wrote:Not flaming, just wondering what “reverently” looks like.

Forgive the use of this word! I’m overtired and at a conference.

There’s more immediate respect from women and willingness to go out of their way (helping with things, holding the door) on behalf of men. I went from a chubby eight to a regular size six. Not much, but apparently enough!

A chubby size 8? Delusional.

Reading your subject all I could think of is, I want some sugar/bread, sounds good!

Anonymous wrote:Not flaming, just wondering what “reverently” looks like.

Forgive the use of this word! I’m overtired and at a conference.

There’s more immediate respect from women and willingness to go out of their way (helping with things, holding the door) on behalf of men. I went from a chubby eight to a regular size six. Not much, but apparently enough!

Anonymous wrote:Not flaming, just wondering what “reverently” looks like.

OP needs to get addicted to the dictionary.