Op resurrecting this for anyone interested. My kid apologized but has been being called names and treated poorly ever since then. Things were said to my kid about how they should have never been born and everything came to a head. Neighbor has called my kid a straight up liar, denied umbrella tag was ever being played and said my kid was just being mean and trying to intentionally hurt their child. my kid is clumsy and impulsive and definitely far from perfect but evil to the point of physical harm? Um no. Sadly my child has now been pegged as the bad one and they deny that Larla would ever say something like that or they would have heard complaints from other parents. I’m not so sure....maybe Larla now knows how her parents feel so has a free pass to be mean to my child.

This is such a mess - now I feel like neighbor relations are awful and my kid will be harassed and judged constantly. Anyone ver go through this? Words of advice are more than welcome.

They could have supervised better. Not sure how old the kids are, but blaming them seems over the top.

Anonymous wrote:OP: Your text to Larla’s mother should have read:

“I can’t believe you allowed the girls to play umbrella tag. That is so unsafe, someone could have gotten hurt! Please try to be more thoughtful - especially when Larla is playing with DD.”

Hahaha! Best response!

Anonymous wrote:Umbrella tag, no parental supervision. Of course this happened. I would agree given they didn't supervise the girls and umbrellas are not toys.

Sounds like the other parents should have been supervising then.

Anonymous wrote:They panicked. Have your daughter write the other girl an apology note and give them space otherwise.

WAY too much.

She can verbally apologize.

A written note for something as minor as this is just weird, and escalates the drama.

You don't want to support the other parents idea that such an innocent accident is so serious as to warrant cutting off someone.

Anonymous wrote:How old are they? Young enough to make such a bad choice means maybe too young not to be supervised?

Whatever...their parents get to decide who their kid plays with. I probably would not announce what they said to your kid in case it changes. Just play it by ear when you get back but otherwise don’t worry about it. Don’t let it ruin a good time - really, it’s a minor thing.

If that is the standard then we woulnd't let our high schoolers or college kids out of our sight.

Kids make stupid choices at all ages. It is part of the process of learning how NOT to make stupid choices.

You do your kid a huge disservice if you helicopter them to the point of never allowing them to make bad decisions, and are handicapping them for the future.

The other parents are crazy. There is nothing in your account that couldn’t have waited until you were home. It sounds like your neighbor is jealous you had the opportunity to go away without kids and wanted to spoilt it for you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - wow sounds like a consensus....I guess I was expecting at least some people to disagree. I also appreciate the various perspectives, this is hard considering they are neighbors and as a result difficult to avoid. Also love the poster who said believe folks when they show you who they are - I will take that one to heart. It’s just sad as well t seems the kids are already past it. ?. Fingers crossed it is never mentioned again and we can move on.

Why weren't they supervising the kids? Why DID THEY allow them to play with umbrellas and hit each other?

This x100

OP, I wonder if they mean the kids can’t play while you are gone. If your parents/in-laws were watching the kids, the neighbors may blame them for Larla’s near-miss and not want the kids to play until you’re back. Of course, they aren’t going to offer to host or watch the kids, since they never do.

Get off DCUM and enjoy your vacation!!

OP, now you know. Tread carefully with your neighbors in the future. Guaranteed their child will blame yours for many other things that she did not do. You’ve already seen how the parents will react. I would start having play dates with other children and leave this neighbor completely out of it.

OP: Your text to Larla’s mother should have read:

“I can’t believe you allowed the girls to play umbrella tag. That is so unsafe, someone could have gotten hurt! Please try to be more thoughtful - especially when Larla is playing with DD.”

Anonymous wrote:OP here - wow sounds like a consensus....I guess I was expecting at least some people to disagree. I also appreciate the various perspectives, this is hard considering they are neighbors and as a result difficult to avoid. Also love the poster who said believe folks when they show you who they are - I will take that one to heart. It’s just sad as well t seems the kids are already past it. ?. Fingers crossed it is never mentioned again and we can move on.

Why weren't they supervising the kids? Why DID THEY allow them to play with umbrellas and hit each other?

Uhm. Kids play and sometimes they get hurt. If that bothers larla's parents, she's going to have a rough childhood.

OP here - wow sounds like a consensus....I guess I was expecting at least some people to disagree. I also appreciate the various perspectives, this is hard considering they are neighbors and as a result difficult to avoid. Also love the poster who said believe folks when they show you who they are - I will take that one to heart. It’s just sad as well t seems the kids are already past it. ?. Fingers crossed it is never mentioned again and we can move on.

Please don't let that other family give your poor kid a complex over this. Your kid made an innocent mistake, screw Larla and her family for turning this into a huge conflict.