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Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

Grow up. This is definitely not what SAHMs do, so you can back up your SAHM hate right now. I was a WOHM for decades and had a coworker who was very similar to the neighbor in this scenario. She would NOT leave me alone - if she wasn't hovering over my workspace, she was asking me to lunch and if I have prior plans, she would demand to know with whom. Needy, needy, needy. Doesn't matter what your work status is, some people just can't stand to be alone with their thoughts.

I get it, I was more referring to the response of “she’ll see you didn’t leave your house.” Honestly asking, do people sit in their bay window seat and stare at your neighbors? I have no idea what my neighbors are up to, even on the weekends.

I SAH and am friends with my neighbor. There’s one exit off our street so I always drive by her house. Yes it’s noticeable whether she’s home or not because she’s the only one with a red SUV and parking is all on the street. No, I’m not sitting by my window all day, but if you tell me you need to be somewhere so you need to say goodbye, and then you go into your house and your car remains in the street... Yeah, I might wonder. Once or twice, fine, but if it kept happening, I’ll just assume you don’t want to be friends. And I’d be completely fine if someone said they just needed to go or had things to do or wanted to be alone or what have you. No need to lie!

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Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you tell her what you tell us, that you really enjoy the walks but you need to wrap it up by x time becuase your day is getting away from you. Make it about how you need to get a hold of your day.

This is a good response. Having been in a similar situation, it really does eat into the day. OP should say just that - so much to take care of at home, I've got to get a move on after our walks!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

Grow up. This is definitely not what SAHMs do, so you can back up your SAHM hate right now. I was a WOHM for decades and had a coworker who was very similar to the neighbor in this scenario. She would NOT leave me alone - if she wasn't hovering over my workspace, she was asking me to lunch and if I have prior plans, she would demand to know with whom. Needy, needy, needy. Doesn't matter what your work status is, some people just can't stand to be alone with their thoughts.

I get it, I was more referring to the response of “she’ll see you didn’t leave your house.” Honestly asking, do people sit in their bay window seat and stare at your neighbors? I have no idea what my neighbors are up to, even on the weekends.

But it’s fair to say you’d see if they were home, right?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

Grow up. This is definitely not what SAHMs do, so you can back up your SAHM hate right now. I was a WOHM for decades and had a coworker who was very similar to the neighbor in this scenario. She would NOT leave me alone - if she wasn't hovering over my workspace, she was asking me to lunch and if I have prior plans, she would demand to know with whom. Needy, needy, needy. Doesn't matter what your work status is, some people just can't stand to be alone with their thoughts.

I get it, I was more referring to the response of “she’ll see you didn’t leave your house.” Honestly asking, do people sit in their bay window seat and stare at your neighbors? I have no idea what my neighbors are up to, even on the weekends.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

Grow up. This is definitely not what SAHMs do, so you can back up your SAHM hate right now. I was a WOHM for decades and had a coworker who was very similar to the neighbor in this scenario. She would NOT leave me alone - if she wasn't hovering over my workspace, she was asking me to lunch and if I have prior plans, she would demand to know with whom. Needy, needy, needy. Doesn't matter what your work status is, some people just can't stand to be alone with their thoughts.

Wow, PP you really are a trip. Someone comes here to post that she can’t figure out how to tell her neighbor that she doesn’t want to take another lap around the block, and you’ve diagnosed the neighbor as some crazy, overbearing lunatic who can’t be alone. Calm down.

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you tell her what you tell us, that you really enjoy the walks but you need to wrap it up by x time becuase your day is getting away from you. Make it about how you need to get a hold of your day.

This is a good response. Having been in a similar situation, it really does eat into the day. OP should say just that - so much to take care of at home, I've got to get a move on after our walks!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

Grow up. This is definitely not what SAHMs do, so you can back up your SAHM hate right now. I was a WOHM for decades and had a coworker who was very similar to the neighbor in this scenario. She would NOT leave me alone - if she wasn't hovering over my workspace, she was asking me to lunch and if I have prior plans, she would demand to know with whom. Needy, needy, needy. Doesn't matter what your work status is, some people just can't stand to be alone with their thoughts.

Just say "Sorry, I can't keep going - got to get to the rest of today's list" or something like that.

She'll get over her disappointment.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

Yup how’d you guess,PP? (Also, how do you manage to hold down a job with this level of reasoning?)

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

No. I’m not saying Op should indulge the neighbor. But I’m saying there no reason to lie, especially when it will be so transparent.

I think you’re missing the point of the PP you’re responding to.

Nope. But thanks for your concern.

Why don’t you tell her what you tell us, that you really enjoy the walks but you need to wrap it up by x time becuase your day is getting away from you. Make it about how you need to get a hold of your day.

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Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Every single day? We’ve been walking 5 days a week, usually.

When you meet up "I need to be home at 9 this morning" . I think you need to get in a headspace where her disappointment belongs to her and it's not yours to feel guilty about.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

No. I’m not saying Op should indulge the neighbor. But I’m saying there no reason to lie, especially when it will be so transparent.

I think you’re missing the point of the PP you’re responding to.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have an appointment at 9. Your appointment can be with your laundry.

Except if they’re neighbors, she may see that OP just went home and nobody has come by.

And you wonder why SAHMs get a bad rep. Is this what you people do all day? Monitor other people’s houses and wring your hands over disappointing someone?

No. I’m not saying Op should indulge the neighbor. But I’m saying there no reason to lie, especially when it will be so transparent.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is this under Parenting?

Why do you care? It involves walking children and playing at a park.

Why do you care that I care? I had a question, so I asked it.

Anyway, it’s about one “adult’s” friendship with another “adult.”

(Real adults don’t worry so much about disappointing others over nothing; real adults also don’t get sad that other people have lives. Hence, the quotation marks.)