Anonymous
02/23/2019 01:37
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:None as we do not carpool. I don’t need others to do my job for me.
This may be the most bizarre take on carpooling I've ever heard. Bumming rides for your kid is having other people do your job for you. Driving someone else's kid on Tuesday when they took yours on Monday is being efficient.
No, we drive our own kids.
What is super weird thing to feel superior about
Right? My kid swims five nights a week, 1/2 hr from home. DH and I both work FT. Can I drive her? yes...
Is it nice to split the duty with another family? Yes!
We like to go out to eat before or after swim. We like to run errands if we are out. We like to visit a grandparent in a nursing home. I don't want to be dragging/paying for another child constantly nor do I want to have to swing back, which isn't anywhere close to get someone else child because its my day. Its really not a big deal to drive them every day.
Anonymous
02/23/2019 01:23
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
By the time your kids are in more activities and you are driving friends, the kids will not be as distracting. 11/12 year olds just talk in the car. It’s actually fun because they talk with each other about stuff they don’t think to mention normally. I learn a lot about my kids from their conversations with friends in the car!
I agree about the Toyota. It doesn’t have as much of the complicated technology. However, I heard that they are redoing some of this in 2020. I also have heard that the new VW Atlas is good.
I agree about the Toyota. It doesn’t have as much of the complicated technology. However, I heard that they are redoing some of this in 2020. I also have heard that the new VW Atlas is good.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here,
It has just worked out that my kids have not had playdates at the same where both friends needed me to drive them. They either come home on the bus with my kids or the individual friends' parents drop them off. I occasionally bring one friend with us somewhere but that automatically means the other doesn't have a friend (or at least not one riding with us.) Most often, one has a friend come over and the other goes somewhere else. The friend at our house gets picked up first and then I go get the other child. None of this has been a hardship. But I would like to offer to be able to cart around more kids at times--not necessarily a regular carpool. My kids' activities are not intense (yet.) I am less concerned about the safety of the actual 3rd row vehicles and more so about my own ability to drive without distraction with that many kids in the car. I have test drive the Buick Enclave and GMC Acadia thinking I would easily like one of them--but the technology was very distracting. I felt overwhelmed by it. There were too many things to look at and I felt like it actually made me a worse driver.
American cars are full of annoying gadgets that break. Why are you not looking at a Honda or Toyota, easy to drive and very little tech outside cameras.
Anonymous
02/22/2019 23:35
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Baseball is the same. It's 4-6 days a week by the time they are 10-12. My kids often have games/practices on completely different fields at the same time. In this area, sports become intense at a young age.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For those who never carpool, how old are your kids? And, how many kids do you have. I can understand not needing to carpool if you have only one child or very young kids. But, when you have 2-3 kids doing sports multiple times/week, it becomes a necessity. My two oldest are playing only one sport each. One has four practices and two games/week and the other has two practices and one game/week. Soon, my youngest will be doing a sport too. Kids who do travel teams have even more than this. It is unavoidable to have some overlap with games/practices. When your kid is on a team, you cannot choose practice/game times.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:None as we do not carpool. I don’t need others to do my job for me.
This may be the most bizarre take on carpooling I've ever heard. Bumming rides for your kid is having other people do your job for you. Driving someone else's kid on Tuesday when they took yours on Monday is being efficient.
No, we drive our own kids.
Wait, what rec sport practices 4x week!!!
Swim is 4 days a week for younger kids plus if your child is in a private lesson so we go 5 days a week, more in the summer - 5 days a week plus private lesson plus weekly or twice weekly meets. Not that poster, but we also do other activities so its basically every day.
Anonymous
02/22/2019 23:32
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Anonymous wrote:OP here,
It has just worked out that my kids have not had playdates at the same where both friends needed me to drive them. They either come home on the bus with my kids or the individual friends' parents drop them off. I occasionally bring one friend with us somewhere but that automatically means the other doesn't have a friend (or at least not one riding with us.) Most often, one has a friend come over and the other goes somewhere else. The friend at our house gets picked up first and then I go get the other child. None of this has been a hardship. But I would like to offer to be able to cart around more kids at times--not necessarily a regular carpool. My kids' activities are not intense (yet.) I am less concerned about the safety of the actual 3rd row vehicles and more so about my own ability to drive without distraction with that many kids in the car. I have test drive the Buick Enclave and GMC Acadia thinking I would easily like one of them--but the technology was very distracting. I felt overwhelmed by it. There were too many things to look at and I felt like it actually made me a worse driver.
Look at a 2017 or so model and they will have less technology.
Anonymous
02/22/2019 23:23
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:None as we do not carpool. I don’t need others to do my job for me.
This may be the most bizarre take on carpooling I've ever heard. Bumming rides for your kid is having other people do your job for you. Driving someone else's kid on Tuesday when they took yours on Monday is being efficient.
No, we drive our own kids.
What is super weird thing to feel superior about
Right? My kid swims five nights a week, 1/2 hr from home. DH and I both work FT. Can I drive her? yes...
Is it nice to split the duty with another family? Yes!
Anonymous
02/22/2019 23:10
Subject: Re:If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Most cars have 3 seats in the back. We have no problem taking 1-2 extra kids, no real need for more seats.
Anonymous
02/22/2019 22:24
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Anonymous wrote:OP here,
It has just worked out that my kids have not had playdates at the same where both friends needed me to drive them. They either come home on the bus with my kids or the individual friends' parents drop them off. I occasionally bring one friend with us somewhere but that automatically means the other doesn't have a friend (or at least not one riding with us.) Most often, one has a friend come over and the other goes somewhere else. The friend at our house gets picked up first and then I go get the other child. None of this has been a hardship. But I would like to offer to be able to cart around more kids at times--not necessarily a regular carpool. My kids' activities are not intense (yet.) I am less concerned about the safety of the actual 3rd row vehicles and more so about my own ability to drive without distraction with that many kids in the car. I have test drive the Buick Enclave and GMC Acadia thinking I would easily like one of them--but the technology was very distracting. I felt overwhelmed by it. There were too many things to look at and I felt like it actually made me a worse driver.
American cars are full of annoying gadgets that break. Why are you not looking at a Honda or Toyota, easy to drive and very little tech outside cameras.
Anonymous
02/22/2019 22:22
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
OP here,
It has just worked out that my kids have not had playdates at the same where both friends needed me to drive them. They either come home on the bus with my kids or the individual friends' parents drop them off. I occasionally bring one friend with us somewhere but that automatically means the other doesn't have a friend (or at least not one riding with us.) Most often, one has a friend come over and the other goes somewhere else. The friend at our house gets picked up first and then I go get the other child. None of this has been a hardship. But I would like to offer to be able to cart around more kids at times--not necessarily a regular carpool. My kids' activities are not intense (yet.) I am less concerned about the safety of the actual 3rd row vehicles and more so about my own ability to drive without distraction with that many kids in the car. I have test drive the Buick Enclave and GMC Acadia thinking I would easily like one of them--but the technology was very distracting. I felt overwhelmed by it. There were too many things to look at and I felt like it actually made me a worse driver.
It has just worked out that my kids have not had playdates at the same where both friends needed me to drive them. They either come home on the bus with my kids or the individual friends' parents drop them off. I occasionally bring one friend with us somewhere but that automatically means the other doesn't have a friend (or at least not one riding with us.) Most often, one has a friend come over and the other goes somewhere else. The friend at our house gets picked up first and then I go get the other child. None of this has been a hardship. But I would like to offer to be able to cart around more kids at times--not necessarily a regular carpool. My kids' activities are not intense (yet.) I am less concerned about the safety of the actual 3rd row vehicles and more so about my own ability to drive without distraction with that many kids in the car. I have test drive the Buick Enclave and GMC Acadia thinking I would easily like one of them--but the technology was very distracting. I felt overwhelmed by it. There were too many things to look at and I felt like it actually made me a worse driver.
Anonymous
02/22/2019 21:36
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Third row of seats is a deathtrap. Just suck it up and get a minivan and not be cool.
Minivans are safer, but 3rd SUV is fine. Doubt Op would consider minivan.
https://www.thecarcrashdetective.com/is-the-3rd-row-safe-for-children/
This guy is not a licensed tech or has professional training - he's a blogger. Both 3rd rows are not that great or safe as they don't really have a trunk.
Anonymous
02/22/2019 21:34
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:For those who never carpool, how old are your kids? And, how many kids do you have. I can understand not needing to carpool if you have only one child or very young kids. But, when you have 2-3 kids doing sports multiple times/week, it becomes a necessity. My two oldest are playing only one sport each. One has four practices and two games/week and the other has two practices and one game/week. Soon, my youngest will be doing a sport too. Kids who do travel teams have even more than this. It is unavoidable to have some overlap with games/practices. When your kid is on a team, you cannot choose practice/game times.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:None as we do not carpool. I don’t need others to do my job for me.
This may be the most bizarre take on carpooling I've ever heard. Bumming rides for your kid is having other people do your job for you. Driving someone else's kid on Tuesday when they took yours on Monday is being efficient.
No, we drive our own kids.
Wait, what rec sport practices 4x week!!!
Swim is 4 days a week for younger kids plus if your child is in a private lesson so we go 5 days a week, more in the summer - 5 days a week plus private lesson plus weekly or twice weekly meets. Not that poster, but we also do other activities so its basically every day.
Anonymous
02/22/2019 21:34
Subject: Re:If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
We bought a compact SUV and no one ever spoke to us again. 
Anonymous
02/22/2019 21:24
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Anonymous wrote:For those who never carpool, how old are your kids? And, how many kids do you have. I can understand not needing to carpool if you have only one child or very young kids. But, when you have 2-3 kids doing sports multiple times/week, it becomes a necessity. My two oldest are playing only one sport each. One has four practices and two games/week and the other has two practices and one game/week. Soon, my youngest will be doing a sport too. Kids who do travel teams have even more than this. It is unavoidable to have some overlap with games/practices. When your kid is on a team, you cannot choose practice/game times.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:None as we do not carpool. I don’t need others to do my job for me.
This may be the most bizarre take on carpooling I've ever heard. Bumming rides for your kid is having other people do your job for you. Driving someone else's kid on Tuesday when they took yours on Monday is being efficient.
No, we drive our own kids.
Wait, what rec sport practices 4x week!!!
Anonymous
02/22/2019 20:14
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Anonymous wrote:As long as you don’t want others to drive your child to activities, it’s fine. But I do get peeved by a friend who always asks to carpool with our large group knowing she can’t reciprocate.
That’s not carpooling - that’s asking for a ride or chauffeur. You can say no.
Anonymous
02/22/2019 19:59
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
For those who never carpool, how old are your kids? And, how many kids do you have. I can understand not needing to carpool if you have only one child or very young kids. But, when you have 2-3 kids doing sports multiple times/week, it becomes a necessity. My two oldest are playing only one sport each. One has four practices and two games/week and the other has two practices and one game/week. Soon, my youngest will be doing a sport too. Kids who do travel teams have even more than this. It is unavoidable to have some overlap with games/practices. When your kid is on a team, you cannot choose practice/game times.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:None as we do not carpool. I don’t need others to do my job for me.
This may be the most bizarre take on carpooling I've ever heard. Bumming rides for your kid is having other people do your job for you. Driving someone else's kid on Tuesday when they took yours on Monday is being efficient.
No, we drive our own kids.
Anonymous
02/22/2019 17:16
Subject: If you chose a regular SUV over 3rd row were there social consequences?
Anonymous wrote:Third row of seats is a deathtrap. Just suck it up and get a minivan and not be cool.
Minivans are safer, but 3rd SUV is fine. Doubt Op would consider minivan.
https://www.thecarcrashdetective.com/is-the-3rd-row-safe-for-children/