Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d love a hug when I get home from work. It’d just be nice to start to the evening. Currently, just the dogs come to say hello and if I try to hug her I’ll get an elbow.

The other thing is that if our son or I try to talk to her - please listen to what we’re saying instead of just cutting us off and mowing over us with a loud/aggressive/unpleasant opinion. It creates resentment from both of us.

I’m sure I’ve got some things to work on too.

Is it because she's moving around doing house or child care?

Yes, or work email/text, etc. I am too. Last night I got home and immediately started cleaning the kitchen, cooking dinner and helping our teen with math homework. I get it - there’s lots to be done, but the 10 seconds it takes to hug someone won’t take the household schedule off track.

Approaching me to GIVE you something--a hug--while I am busy doing something that benefits you/the household/your children shows that you don't notice or care what I'm doing. How about:

"Thank you for making dinner. Can I help with anything? When you're not busy, I'd love a hug."

breathing

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d love a hug when I get home from work. It’d just be nice to start to the evening. Currently, just the dogs come to say hello and if I try to hug her I’ll get an elbow.

The other thing is that if our son or I try to talk to her - please listen to what we’re saying instead of just cutting us off and mowing over us with a loud/aggressive/unpleasant opinion. It creates resentment from both of us.

I’m sure I’ve got some things to work on too.

Is it because she's moving around doing house or child care?

Yes, or work email/text, etc. I am too. Last night I got home and immediately started cleaning the kitchen, cooking dinner and helping our teen with math homework. I get it - there’s lots to be done, but the 10 seconds it takes to hug someone won’t take the household schedule off track.

My DH reaches his arms out towards me (soliciting a hug) from his recliner (which is centrally located in the house) as I am on my way to put a load of laundry in the wash, bring a glass to the sink, or just enroute somewhere on a mission. I love hugs but there is a time and a place!

Anonymous wrote:I’d love a hug when I get home from work. It’d just be nice to start to the evening. Currently, just the dogs come to say hello and if I try to hug her I’ll get an elbow.

The other thing is that if our son or I try to talk to her - please listen to what we’re saying instead of just cutting us off and mowing over us with a loud/aggressive/unpleasant opinion. It creates resentment from both of us.

I’m sure I’ve got some things to work on too.

Your wife sounds annoying.

Btw, please do something nice for your dogs since they seem to care about you and show you how much they appreciate you. Just aayin,

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d love a hug when I get home from work. It’d just be nice to start to the evening. Currently, just the dogs come to say hello and if I try to hug her I’ll get an elbow.

The other thing is that if our son or I try to talk to her - please listen to what we’re saying instead of just cutting us off and mowing over us with a loud/aggressive/unpleasant opinion. It creates resentment from both of us.

I’m sure I’ve got some things to work on too.

Is it because she's moving around doing house or child care?

Yes, or work email/text, etc. I am too. Last night I got home and immediately started cleaning the kitchen, cooking dinner and helping our teen with math homework. I get it - there’s lots to be done, but the 10 seconds it takes to hug someone won’t take the household schedule off track.

-I wish she would brush her teeth more often

-Actually set aside time for sex, instead of it being the last thing we do if she's still awake

-Stop wasting wine, leaving the cork off the bottle, not putting it away, pouring a whole glass and drinking none of it

-Don't be so self-conscious about receiving oral, or stop telling me "I haven't showered." Shower fresh is good but a a few to even several hours after is just as good, if not better. Don't waive me off unless you really have a good reason. Or...go take a damn shower if you're so concerned.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That she wouldn't use our first moments together when kids are asleep to unload and emotionally vomit on me about her day, what went wrong, etc.

This is a common method of sex-avoidance. That or unleashing a whole list of boner-killing complaints about you.

Really? It seems like the opposite to me. I tell you my problems, the funny things that happened to me, then you tell me your thoughts and feelings and all of the things you did besides telling me how to unload the dishwasher and walking out halfway through putting a preschooler to bed. Then I feel close, remember I love you, and want to have sex.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think I care to know from the men who post on DCUM

Yes...they are not real men anyways...right? Once a mean girl always a mean girl.

Even though this thread is about women, it makes me thankful for my husband who is thoughtful and considerate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She never takes her clean clothes out of the dryer.

Does not rinse coffee or tea cups when done, so they get rings inside them.

Do the rings not come off in the dishwasher? Get new mugs. Problem solved.

Ugh, this is why we have such an over-consumption problem in this country.

Buy nice things, and take care of them--they will last a lifetime, and even beyond.

Don't buy junk, treat it like junk, trash it, and buy new crap. What a horrible way to live.

Anonymous wrote:She never takes her clean clothes out of the dryer.

Does not rinse coffee or tea cups when done, so they get rings inside them.

Do the rings not come off in the dishwasher? Get new mugs. Problem solved.

Anonymous wrote:I’d love a hug when I get home from work. It’d just be nice to start to the evening. Currently, just the dogs come to say hello and if I try to hug her I’ll get an elbow.

The other thing is that if our son or I try to talk to her - please listen to what we’re saying instead of just cutting us off and mowing over us with a loud/aggressive/unpleasant opinion. It creates resentment from both of us.

I’m sure I’ve got some things to work on too.

Is it because she's moving around doing house or child care?

I don't think I care to know from the men who post on DCUM

This is why I will never remarry. I LOVE living alone. I don't have to deal with another persons crap.

She never takes her clean clothes out of the dryer.

Does not rinse coffee or tea cups when done, so they get rings inside them.