Anonymous wrote:Not OP, but I feel the same way. Part of it is my job is killing me. I often think about how if I were a man it would not be a problem. That said, I was planning on finding a therapist but now I really am from seeing everyone talking about depression. I would totally believe I am depreased.

Still playing the "if I were a man card . . . . " Get with it. You're projecting.

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Anonymous wrote:You prioritize your job over your children. Get counseling please before you screw them up forever.

Not OP but men do this all the time and they don't get grief over it.

If you and your dh are ok with your roles, then it's fine.

Wish my mom had taken Zoloft. Your oldest kid probably knows or will shortly figure out you don't like them. I know from experience.

For one, you probably read "Lean In" and failed to recognize Sheryl Sanders for the trash she is, and as a result, you thought it was awesome. You've now convinced yourself that your career is the most important thing in your life. What you don't realize is that, for generations, men have worked hard to build their careers primarily so that they could earn more money for their families. You're just pursuing a meaningless, narcissistic agenda that causes you to dislike anything good.

Not OP, but I feel the same way. Part of it is my job is killing me. I often think about how if I were a man it would not be a problem. That said, I was planning on finding a therapist but now I really am from seeing everyone talking about depression. I would totally believe I am depreased.

I think you should see a doctor and/or therapist. I’ve felt like that before and, for me, it’s depression. It is absolutely nothing to be ashamed about and things can get better.

This may not be news to you, but your kids hate you too. Send them to a good boarding school. I say this as a boarding school grad myself.

Did you ever like your kids?
If so, I agree with other posters, get checked out for depression.

I feel sad for your kids that you are so checked out.

Not an excuse, but are you an introvert? Cant you take like 30 min to decompress once your home to change modes and recharge?

You're at work and your kids are in school. You only see them for like, what, 4 hours total a day? And you csnt even muster the energy to engage and be present with them?

Please people, this describes every other guy, but a woman can’t feel this way? C’mon I am sure this is common but most won’t admit to it.

Anonymous wrote:I grew up with a mom who needed professional mental health help. It still impacts me to this day. She had no interest in us. I started doing my own laundry in 1st grade. I agree with PP. This is a CPS case.

Dad cares for the kids. There is no abuse or neglect. This is not a CPS case by any means.

So you want to decompress and veg out after a long day of work, but you are forced to parent instead?

Get Help

Do you like your job better than your kids? Or your job is depleting you so much you have nothing left to give your kids?

Anonymous wrote:You prioritize your job over your children. Get counseling please before you screw them up forever.

Not OP but men do this all the time and they don't get grief over it.