Anonymous
02/16/2019 16:59
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote: So because life isn’t ideal and we can’t all marry the top 10% of high earning men, how is life like? If you’re expected to bring in your fair share or income in addition to raising children, what’s yaour day to day like? Can this ever be considered a preferred life choice even?
In my opinion, you need fairness and balance between the two of you with income, flexibility of job, how many kids you choose to have, division of labor and support network (aka family willing to help out). It can look differently for different people. I don’t know anyone that simply married rich. My aunt choose to live right near my grandma and she had one child. I think that helped out with her career. I know several female lawyers married to teachers. I have friends that are doctors married to SAHD or travel a lot for work with SAHD. Women with intense well paying careers, that live near their parents, and hands on DH with 9-5 type well paying jobs in IT with some flexibility. Some folks have a nanny/au pair and either parent nearby or between the DW and DH there is some flexibility in jobs at different times.
What does not work, IMO, is DH having a low paying, inflexible job with a lot of hours and DW or DH does not have family nearby willing to help and DW is the breadwinner and default parent/everything around the house with multiple kids and there isn’t enough money to outsource. So DH doesn’t need to be rich but if he isn’t pulling his weight and you don’t have the money to outsource or family to help that’s when it’s difficult.
Well put. I’d add that what is most disastrous as far as resentment is the DH who has the lower paying flexible job but uses that flexibility to pursue his hobbies and not helping the family.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 16:56
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
A man is not a plan, OP.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 16:40
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
Anonymous wrote: So because life isn’t ideal and we can’t all marry the top 10% of high earning men, how is life like? If you’re expected to bring in your fair share or income in addition to raising children, what’s yaour day to day like? Can this ever be considered a preferred life choice even?
In my opinion, you need fairness and balance between the two of you with income, flexibility of job, how many kids you choose to have, division of labor and support network (aka family willing to help out). It can look differently for different people. I don’t know anyone that simply married rich. My aunt choose to live right near my grandma and she had one child. I think that helped out with her career. I know several female lawyers married to teachers. I have friends that are doctors married to SAHD or travel a lot for work with SAHD. Women with intense well paying careers, that live near their parents, and hands on DH with 9-5 type well paying jobs in IT with some flexibility. Some folks have a nanny/au pair and either parent nearby or between the DW and DH there is some flexibility in jobs at different times.
What does not work, IMO, is DH having a low paying, inflexible job with a lot of hours and DW or DH does not have family nearby willing to help and DW is the breadwinner and default parent/everything around the house with multiple kids and there isn’t enough money to outsource. So DH doesn’t need to be rich but if he isn’t pulling his weight and you don’t have the money to outsource or family to help that’s when it’s difficult.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 16:40
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
Yes it is difficult. Get ready to work full time but have all children and home duties still fall to you as though you were a housewife. As my grandma used to say “it’s just as easy to love a rich man as it is a poor one”.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 16:32
Subject: Re:If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
A man is not a financial plan.
Life is good.
Life is good.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 16:27
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
Bye, Felicia.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 16:25
Subject: Re:If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
It is common knowledge that smart women pursue marriage with well-to-do men
It is common knowledge that women who pursue men based on money are called hookers. Smart women earn their own money.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 15:55
Subject: Re:If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
Yuck!
Anonymous
02/16/2019 15:50
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you a red pill troll? I am a high earning woman with a husband who is kind, thoughtful, respectful, helpful - and also had a solid full time job that contributes to our household. I am happy. When I married my husband he was looking for a job and I didn’t know if he’d ever make more than $40k. It makes our lives easier that he’s gotten better paying jobs over the years, but I married the person I want to spend my life with and knew I could take care of us if he never got a job at all.
Ha, ha, what a poor life choice! You have failed as a woman! Weren't you paying attention during the "centuries of female wisdom" class in 8th grade? Oh well. Too bad your life probably sucks now because you didn't marry a high value man.
Not the PP but marrying a man I thought would make no money at all is not something I would ever do or ever reccomend my daughters do. It's too far on the other extreme of gold digging and carries a lot of risks.
I would say the same thing to sons and daughters.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 14:39
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you a red pill troll? I am a high earning woman with a husband who is kind, thoughtful, respectful, helpful - and also had a solid full time job that contributes to our household. I am happy. When I married my husband he was looking for a job and I didn’t know if he’d ever make more than $40k. It makes our lives easier that he’s gotten better paying jobs over the years, but I married the person I want to spend my life with and knew I could take care of us if he never got a job at all.
Ha, ha, what a poor life choice! You have failed as a woman! Weren't you paying attention during the "centuries of female wisdom" class in 8th grade? Oh well. Too bad your life probably sucks now because you didn't marry a high value man.
Not the PP but marrying a man I thought would make no money at all is not something I would ever do or ever reccomend my daughters do. It's too far on the other extreme of gold digging and carries a lot of risks.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 14:09
Subject: Re:If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
No, I make my own money. My husband makes less than mex but he has a heart of gold. I am very lucky to have him.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 14:07
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
Female wisdom should dictate taking care of your damn self.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 14:02
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
Anonymous wrote:Are you a red pill troll? I am a high earning woman with a husband who is kind, thoughtful, respectful, helpful - and also had a solid full time job that contributes to our household. I am happy. When I married my husband he was looking for a job and I didn’t know if he’d ever make more than $40k. It makes our lives easier that he’s gotten better paying jobs over the years, but I married the person I want to spend my life with and knew I could take care of us if he never got a job at all.
Ha, ha, what a poor life choice! You have failed as a woman! Weren't you paying attention during the "centuries of female wisdom" class in 8th grade? Oh well. Too bad your life probably sucks now because you didn't marry a high value man.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 13:58
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
OP, DO YOU POST EVERY DUCKING WEEK?
Agree. Slightly different twist but same boring thing every time. Can’t decide if OP is a low earning guy with a chip on his shoulder, a high earning loser who can’t figure out why no one likes him, or a gold digger. In any event as a high earning woman it’s offensive every time.
Just a bored troll imho.
Anonymous
02/16/2019 13:54
Subject: If you didn’t marry a rich man is your life difficult?
:fart noise: