Anonymous wrote:I was on the older side. My mother purposefully delayed my entry to school because she had been on the younger side and hated it.
I hated it. No, it did not give me leadership skills. Yes, I physically matured before the other girls and it was awful. I did not like always being the oldest and found school boring and was not given enough challenges and opportunities to fail and build resilience. I would not purposefully do the same to my children, although they just missed the cutoff date so I don't really have a choice.
Anonymous wrote:I was one of the youngest in my class - equivalent of a September 25th BD in Virginia. I held multiple leadership positions in junior high and high school - clubs, varsity sports captain, band. I never thought about my age except when everyone else could drive except me.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you were one of the girls who were on the "older" side compared to your peers, how did you like the experience? Did it help with your self-confidence or leadership skills? Or did it make you more self conscious? If you could choose for your daughter, would you make her the younger one or the older one?
I'm asking because I was one of the younger ones in the class, and I did fine, especially academically, but socially, I never got the chance to develop the "leader" side of me. Now we have the option to make DD either one of the youngest or one of the oldest in her class (birthday falls around the cut-off date). I'm leaning towards making her the oldest, but a friend said she was one of the older ones growing up, and was not very happy about it either. Especially around the time girls' body develop, those older girls are a lot more uncomfortable because few others around have experienced it and they become very self conscious and less confident. Is this common observation? DD has a strong personality, and doesn't like others telling her what to do/expect. Should I red shirt her or send her early?
Should I red shirt her or send her ON TIME?
On time, OP.
Fixed that for you.
I would not want my child to stand out as the tallest, biggest, one who has grown/experienced puberty first - it is too difficult for both girls and boys. Think about it. If anything, send her ON TIME. If your daughter had developmental problems, I could see holding her back.
OP here. DD has an October birthday. ON TIME would mean she's on the older side.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you were one of the girls who were on the "older" side compared to your peers, how did you like the experience? Did it help with your self-confidence or leadership skills? Or did it make you more self conscious? If you could choose for your daughter, would you make her the younger one or the older one?
I'm asking because I was one of the younger ones in the class, and I did fine, especially academically, but socially, I never got the chance to develop the "leader" side of me. Now we have the option to make DD either one of the youngest or one of the oldest in her class (birthday falls around the cut-off date). I'm leaning towards making her the oldest, but a friend said she was one of the older ones growing up, and was not very happy about it either. Especially around the time girls' body develop, those older girls are a lot more uncomfortable because few others around have experienced it and they become very self conscious and less confident. Is this common observation? DD has a strong personality, and doesn't like others telling her what to do/expect. Should I red shirt her or send her early?
Should I red shirt her or send her ON TIME?
On time, OP.
Fixed that for you.
I would not want my child to stand out as the tallest, biggest, one who has grown/experienced puberty first - it is too difficult for both girls and boys. Think about it. If anything, send her ON TIME. If your daughter had developmental problems, I could see holding her back.