Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:57
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Anonymous wrote:1) I am a nurse, single mom of one. I switched my working hours to 12-hour shifts on Saturdays and Sundays, only. By committing to this I get paid nearly as much as working 8 hours M-F. That way I get 5 days off with my DS! Lots of time to shop, housework, etc. I have an all-day sitter on Saturday for my son, and my mom takes him on Sundays. I only pay for one day of child-care!
2) I also know a personal trainer who switched all her clients and classes to weekends, similar hours to mine. She subs as well and always, alwyas, has more work offers than she can take in her 2 days. Therefore she has her 2 kids during the week with no work interruptions. Ex- husband, parents, and in-laws take the kids on weekends when mom is working, so no one gets burned out with child-caring.
3) real estate agent friend does similar to #2. She shows houses Sat-Sun and does paperwork at home during the week. Lots of time with her kids.
4) Lawyer friend left her large firm and has a few well-paying clients so she works from home about 30 hours a week. No need for commute, work clothes, etc.
So much more time for her 2 kids. Her clients are aware of her intentional situation. She always turns away business.
OP, can you adjust your schedule, to give yourself more time with your kids? It does not happen overnight, but you can work out a time frame to adjust your schedule.
This sounds ok when your kids is preschool age and under but once school starts, I would have hated to have missed the weekend. Too many events are scheduled on weekends -activities, classes, sports, parties, socializing, and I would hate to spend years telling people "sorry I have to work" every single weekend.
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:54
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Anonymous wrote:Wonderful that you can stay at home. Wonderful that you have that choice. I'm sure you keep yourself busy. But...I do everything you do, and work full time (including volunteering at the school by rationing time off). I respect you and your choice but DO NOT complain to me about how busy you are. Thank you.
OP, you sound hideously frazzled. I don't envy you or your lifestyle.
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:49
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Anonymous wrote:Omg you are so brave *heart eyes emoji* thank you for sharing your story.
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:38
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Op is talking about sahms of school aged children. Infants and toddlers are hard work!!!
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:36
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Anonymous wrote:My retired mother complains about being too busy all the time. I think people who do this are doing it for attention. Ignore.
YES omg. I wonder all the time how she’s she busy. How are two retired people that busy?!! Some days I think she’s effing with me considering I have 3 under 4
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:34
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
You'd have a lot more time on your hands if you weren't so busy judging everyone's life choices.
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:33
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Not disrespecting your choice...just saying please don't complain to me about how busy you are. My kids are school age, so all of us have child care during the school day. I come home and finish working at home with my kids at home. No nanny. One SAHM could not believe I have to go grocery shopping on the weekends.
Well, I can’t believe it either. Order grocery delivery.
I can't believe it, either. I quickly run in once mid week to pick up a few things before daycare pickup. Then DH takes my youngest on Saturday while I take my oldest to ballet. Works for me!
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:24
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Anonymous wrote:Wonderful that you can stay at home. Wonderful that you have that choice. I'm sure you keep yourself busy. But...I do everything you do, and work full time (including volunteering at the school by rationing time off). I respect you and your choice but DO NOT complain to me about how busy you are. Thank you.
You don’t do everything I do. You don’t watch your young children all day.
It is all relative. My good friend just got remarried and has no kids. She just moved near her new husband’s work and isn’t working. She tells me how busy she is and I think it is laughable.
I can relate to being a working mom and SAHM as well as a part time working mom. I used to have a part time work from home job. It paid well and sounded like a dream job. It was actually the worst because I wanted to participate in all my kids’ activities so I would often do my work at night. I was dead tired. My office job where I got to work in a beautiful office near tons of retail and restaurants was a HUGE break from being home.
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:17
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Anonymous wrote:Hahahaha! I SAH when my kids were young and now I work out of the home. I was way more exhausted when I SAH. Yes you do everything that a SAH parent does....except care for your children 8-10 hours a day. So that’s 8-10 hours your kids aren’t needing you for a food/diaper change, 8-10 hours they aren’t making a mess in your living room, 8-10 hours a day you don’t have to hear them cry and/or whine.
I used to work 70 hours per week before kids.
I’m a SAHM and caring for my toddler plus two elementary school kids is a lot of work.
When my older two were younger, I went back to work because being at home was too hard.
I’m exhausted all the time and I AM busy. It was way easier to run errands during lunch when I was a working mom. Yes, if I had only elemtary kids and up, it may be easier.
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:16
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Anonymous wrote:1) I am a nurse, single mom of one. I switched my working hours to 12-hour shifts on Saturdays and Sundays, only. By committing to this I get paid nearly as much as working 8 hours M-F. That way I get 5 days off with my DS! Lots of time to shop, housework, etc. I have an all-day sitter on Saturday for my son, and my mom takes him on Sundays. I only pay for one day of child-care!
2) I also know a personal trainer who switched all her clients and classes to weekends, similar hours to mine. She subs as well and always, alwyas, has more work offers than she can take in her 2 days. Therefore she has her 2 kids during the week with no work interruptions. Ex- husband, parents, and in-laws take the kids on weekends when mom is working, so no one gets burned out with child-caring.
3) real estate agent friend does similar to #2. She shows houses Sat-Sun and does paperwork at home during the week. Lots of time with her kids.
4) Lawyer friend left her large firm and has a few well-paying clients so she works from home about 30 hours a week. No need for commute, work clothes, etc.
So much more time for her 2 kids. Her clients are aware of her intentional situation. She always turns away business.
OP, can you adjust your schedule, to give yourself more time with your kids? It does not happen overnight, but you can work out a time frame to adjust your schedule.
That’s nice that you can do that, but many moms cannot
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:13
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
1) I am a nurse, single mom of one. I switched my working hours to 12-hour shifts on Saturdays and Sundays, only. By committing to this I get paid nearly as much as working 8 hours M-F. That way I get 5 days off with my DS! Lots of time to shop, housework, etc. I have an all-day sitter on Saturday for my son, and my mom takes him on Sundays. I only pay for one day of child-care!
2) I also know a personal trainer who switched all her clients and classes to weekends, similar hours to mine. She subs as well and always, alwyas, has more work offers than she can take in her 2 days. Therefore she has her 2 kids during the week with no work interruptions. Ex- husband, parents, and in-laws take the kids on weekends when mom is working, so no one gets burned out with child-caring.
3) real estate agent friend does similar to #2. She shows houses Sat-Sun and does paperwork at home during the week. Lots of time with her kids.
4) Lawyer friend left her large firm and has a few well-paying clients so she works from home about 30 hours a week. No need for commute, work clothes, etc.
So much more time for her 2 kids. Her clients are aware of her intentional situation. She always turns away business.
OP, can you adjust your schedule, to give yourself more time with your kids? It does not happen overnight, but you can work out a time frame to adjust your schedule.
2) I also know a personal trainer who switched all her clients and classes to weekends, similar hours to mine. She subs as well and always, alwyas, has more work offers than she can take in her 2 days. Therefore she has her 2 kids during the week with no work interruptions. Ex- husband, parents, and in-laws take the kids on weekends when mom is working, so no one gets burned out with child-caring.
3) real estate agent friend does similar to #2. She shows houses Sat-Sun and does paperwork at home during the week. Lots of time with her kids.
4) Lawyer friend left her large firm and has a few well-paying clients so she works from home about 30 hours a week. No need for commute, work clothes, etc.
So much more time for her 2 kids. Her clients are aware of her intentional situation. She always turns away business.
OP, can you adjust your schedule, to give yourself more time with your kids? It does not happen overnight, but you can work out a time frame to adjust your schedule.
Anonymous
02/14/2019 20:00
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Anonymous wrote:Not disrespecting your choice...just saying please don't complain to me about how busy you are. My kids are school age, so all of us have child care during the school day. I come home and finish working at home with my kids at home. No nanny. One SAHM could not believe I have to go grocery shopping on the weekends.
Well, I can’t believe it either. Order grocery delivery.
Anonymous
02/14/2019 19:49
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Who exactly is complaining OP?
Anonymous
02/14/2019 19:45
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
Hahahaha! I SAH when my kids were young and now I work out of the home. I was way more exhausted when I SAH. Yes you do everything that a SAH parent does....except care for your children 8-10 hours a day. So that’s 8-10 hours your kids aren’t needing you for a food/diaper change, 8-10 hours they aren’t making a mess in your living room, 8-10 hours a day you don’t have to hear them cry and/or whine.
Anonymous
02/14/2019 19:45
Subject: SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are
I don’t think I’ve ever had a SAHP complain to me about being busy. Or maybe you be just been too busy to care.
Expend your energy on caring for your kids, op.
- Single, working full time custody parent.
Expend your energy on caring for your kids, op.
- Single, working full time custody parent.