Anonymous wrote:To the OP: I think this has less to do with your daughter's request for cookie baking supplies and more to do with your general feelings about your DH/DD relationship.


Is it that you're envious that he'll drop everything and cater to her?

This is probably too on the mark to get a response.

It's not a big deal. Just go to the store and get the stuff on the list. She's not being a princess. Get over yourself and stop being such a control freak.

“Sounds nice. I don’t think we crave some of those things at home and I won’t be at the grocery store today. You can go later tonight if you need to pick up supplies. Dad will drive you and you can run in. And since it’s your gift to him, YOU can buy the ingredients ”

Its pretty of considerate to make things for other people.

Anonymous wrote:OMG just pick her up and go to the store with her, maybe even bake with her.

She will be gone next year and we will hear about how much you miss her and she won’t call you.

+1

This one thing isn't a big deal UNLESS she is a princessy "do this by this time, I insist" teen who has a repeated pattern of these kinds of requests and who gets peeved if you say no.

Pattern + peeved=A problem.

But if she's otherwise pretty appreciative, doesn't get into a snit if things don't go her way, pulls her weight on schoolwork etc., then cut some slack. Can't get to the store for real? Don't go. Not enough time to bake from scratch tonight? Tell her to get a mix. DH fine with it? Let him do this without being mad at him too. Or tell DD to make BF a card instead or whatever. But unless this request is just another in a series of demands, why so steamed, OP?

The driving or not driving judgements above are simply off-topic. Not every teen is driving the second she or he hits 16, or even 17. Ridiculous for some PPs to make this thread about that.

Instead of cooking, spend the time to teach her to drive.

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Anonymous wrote:Um teach your daughter better. Obviously you have given in to her demands before and she thinks this is acceptable.

OP--DH does, I don't.

What does DH think about this?

OP--DH response was....just send me the list. My comment: "Are you serious? Let's talk about your response once again."

If he has no problem getting the stuff and being there by 6, what is your objection? Apparently he doesn't mind.

Anonymous wrote:OMG just pick her up and go to the store with her, maybe even bake with her.

She will be gone next year and we will hear about how much you miss her and she won’t call you.

+1 and it’s too late at 17 to start teaching her the value of other people’s time.

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Anonymous wrote:Um teach your daughter better. Obviously you have given in to her demands before and she thinks this is acceptable.

OP--DH does, I don't.

What does DH think about this?

OP--DH response was....just send me the list. My comment: "Are you serious? Let's talk about your response once again."

Does he see the same pattern you see?

To the OP: I think this has less to do with your daughter's request for cookie baking supplies and more to do with your general feelings about your DH/DD relationship.


Is it that you're envious that he'll drop everything and cater to her?

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Anonymous wrote:Text back - You can go to the store to buy the ingredients on the way home from school. See you at 630! Or whatever time you normally get home.

+1 and I'd add something to the list that she can pick up for the household.

OP--she is not driving yet, so we HAVE to take her.

Why not?

I really am interested in why so many parents and teens are delaying this important step into adulthood.

OP--She starts driving in a month.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um teach your daughter better. Obviously you have given in to her demands before and she thinks this is acceptable.

OP--DH does, I don't.

What does DH think about this?

OP--DH response was....just send me the list. My comment: "Are you serious? Let's talk about your response once again."

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um teach your daughter better. Obviously you have given in to her demands before and she thinks this is acceptable.

OP--DH does, I don't.

What does DH think about this?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text back - You can go to the store to buy the ingredients on the way home from school. See you at 630! Or whatever time you normally get home.

+1 and I'd add something to the list that she can pick up for the household.

OP--she is not driving yet, so we HAVE to take her.

Is anything in walking distance?

I would encourage DD to walk to the store herself, but then we live a few blocks from multiple grocery stores.