Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 17:33     Subject: Re:Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Of my large extended family, the only kids who got into real trouble in high school are sole family affluent enough that the kids attended private school. Drinking, drugs, a huge social media scandal, and sadly, sexual assault. The working class family members had different problems, but no real trouble while in high school. The parents of the first family went along with the partying because they didn’t want to put their foot down and fracture long-standing friendships both between the kids and with the other parents. It would have been too difficult to say “you can’t hang with Larla and June who you’ve known since kindergarten anymore” - when Larla and June’s parents were their closest friends.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 17:23     Subject: Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Anonymous wrote:We make way too much money for this bullshit. Too much to lose.


You think in terms of dollars lost, not LIVES lost?

You are part of the problem, even if you're not the one distributing the alcohol.

Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 17:22     Subject: Re:Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Anonymous wrote:Another parent here - private school - and yes there is a large group of parents that almost encouraged drinking from the start of HS. The rationale was that the kids can UBER, and better drink at their house than in a field somewhere etc. Kids drink vodka drinks and beer. And yes, parents of this crowd def. think of their kids as the cool ones. Many of the parents are big time lawyers too. At graduation kids and parents all drink together at these parties - and even knowing all of this I was still shocked at the number of grad parties where the parents had kegs and didn't give a crap if other parents not in the crowd knew. Nobody ratted them out and some of the parties were huge. I don't mind my kids having drinks in moderation when they are in later HS, but no way would I supply to others to be cool.


Right.

Kavanaugh types (both left and right).

Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 17:20     Subject: Re:Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Another parent here - private school - and yes there is a large group of parents that almost encouraged drinking from the start of HS. The rationale was that the kids can UBER, and better drink at their house than in a field somewhere etc. Kids drink vodka drinks and beer. And yes, parents of this crowd def. think of their kids as the cool ones. Many of the parents are big time lawyers too. At graduation kids and parents all drink together at these parties - and even knowing all of this I was still shocked at the number of grad parties where the parents had kegs and didn't give a crap if other parents not in the crowd knew. Nobody ratted them out and some of the parties were huge. I don't mind my kids having drinks in moderation when they are in later HS, but no way would I supply to others to be cool.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 16:48     Subject: Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
We make way too much money for this bullshit. Too much to lose.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 16:25     Subject: Re:Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Anonymous wrote:They know kids are drinking and they think it's safer at their house than driving around.


Not safer for them if I find out about it, call the police, and make sure that everyone knows they are contributing to the delinquency of minors.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 16:14     Subject: Re:Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
They know kids are drinking and they think it's safer at their house than driving around.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 15:58     Subject: Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:God help any parent who serves my child. I will end them.


You can call me and we'll head over there together.


NP here. I was going to say the same. People be gettin' hurt.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 15:56     Subject: Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how many parents are having teens over and providing or allowing them to drink. My daughter is a freshman and there have been several occasions where this has been the situation. Makes it hard to parent! And what are they thinking? This is private school kids FWIW, but I’m sure that part doesn’t matter.


Wholly unsurprising.


Why do you say that?


DP, but there are data to show that more affluent schools have higher rates of underage alcohol and drug use. I don't think that's surprising at all, and I absolutely think it matters. Families who are working to the bone to make ends meet typically aren't the same ones hosting dinner parties and giving their teens sips of wine or the ones buying alcohol for their teens while they're skiing in Aspen or whatever.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 15:37     Subject: Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how many parents are having teens over and providing or allowing them to drink. My daughter is a freshman and there have been several occasions where this has been the situation. Makes it hard to parent! And what are they thinking? This is private school kids FWIW, but I’m sure that part doesn’t matter.


Wholly unsurprising.


Why do you say that?
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 15:24     Subject: Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how many parents are having teens over and providing or allowing them to drink. My daughter is a freshman and there have been several occasions where this has been the situation. Makes it hard to parent! And what are they thinking? This is private school kids FWIW, but I’m sure that part doesn’t matter.


Wholly unsurprising.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 15:23     Subject: Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Anonymous wrote:God help any parent who serves my child. I will end them.


You can call me and we'll head over there together.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 14:54     Subject: Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
I let my own teens drink alcohol (wine at Christmas, a sangria in another country where there are not the same alcohol laws etc.). I do NOT serve alcohol to other kids and do NOT permit kids to bring alcohol into my house.

For what it's worth, my parents had the same basic philosophy. I drank in college but RARELY really overindulged and remember many times helping the kids who were overly sheltered get home and/or get out of some bad situations.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 14:49     Subject: Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
I can't picture myself ever giving my underage children alcohol. It seems like the microcososm of the "cool parent". There is a reason why there are restrictions on children drinking alcohol and I obey the law.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2019 14:44     Subject: Parents serving alcohol or allowing it in their homes
Anonymous wrote:
When I invite parents and children over for dinner, and serve wine at that dinner, I ask the teens if they want to taste, with their parents' permission. We are French, and this how children start drinking responsibly in France. A sip, not more.

I can't imagine offering alcohol to minors without their parents' express permission, let along letting them drive themselves home afterward.


Yes, Europeans are much smarter about this. Though the UK seems a bit different culturally, ha ha!