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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It must be a Bethesda thing (I am not from here), but it seems so weird when I hear kids on playdates bragging about "the club". If that is not bad enough Columbia does "training" for 4th graders and so now those kids are obnoxious about who "belongs" and who doesn't. Do you think it's the parents who encourage their kids to act this way?

Give an example. Saying they hung out at "insert country club name here" is no different than saying they went to Larla's house, especially if they are young enough to have playdates.

Try again. OP states that kids are bragging about the club, not mentioning it. And of course they are. They are kids. What's new?

Thus the request to give an example, eh?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It must be a Bethesda thing (I am not from here), but it seems so weird when I hear kids on playdates bragging about "the club". If that is not bad enough Columbia does "training" for 4th graders and so now those kids are obnoxious about who "belongs" and who doesn't. Do you think it's the parents who encourage their kids to act this way?

Give an example. Saying they hung out at "insert country club name here" is no different than saying they went to Larla's house, especially if they are young enough to have playdates.

Try again. OP states that kids are bragging about the club, not mentioning it. And of course they are. They are kids. What's new?

Which is why I asked OP to give an example, because of the age. Middle or high school? Sure. Kids who have playdates? Not so much.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It must be a Bethesda thing (I am not from here), but it seems so weird when I hear kids on playdates bragging about "the club". If that is not bad enough Columbia does "training" for 4th graders and so now those kids are obnoxious about who "belongs" and who doesn't. Do you think it's the parents who encourage their kids to act this way?

Give an example. Saying they hung out at "insert country club name here" is no different than saying they went to Larla's house, especially if they are young enough to have playdates.

Try again. OP states that kids are bragging about the club, not mentioning it. And of course they are. They are kids. What's new?

I agree, welcome to DC folks

It is all relative. We have friends who are members and spend their whole summer at the club. I would rather be traveling around the world.

We are Asian though. Not as many Asians at the country clubs besides the ones obsessed with golf.

It’s more showing of your insecurities - it is not an affectation, more like an every day part of their lives

Who cares

I haven't heard the kids you're talking about, OP, and we don't belong to a country club but my inlaws do. My 3rd grader has been taken there for brunch and milestone celebrations her whole life and she does call it "the club" when she talks about it, but I think it's only because that is what her grandparents call it. She's been fortunate enough to enjoy some time there, but when discussing it with friends the only tone I ever hear is wanting to share fun information with her friends, not bragging that she had those opportunities.

I worked at a church in Chevy chase about 10 years ago and kids would definitely brag about their country club memberships. I’d overhear it. My own kids (now in middle school) have never experienced the bragging. They have a few friends who belong to Chevy or Columbia but most don’t and it’s a non-issue.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think we can really judge if these kids are bragging or not. We're only seeing words, not seeing/hearing how those words are delivered. They could very well be bragging or just stating facts.

True. All about tone. That being said, a lot of kids brag. My kids are jealous of kids who get screen time. They get to higher levels because they get to play more.

I don't think we can really judge if these kids are bragging or not. We're only seeing words, not seeing/hearing how those words are delivered. They could very well be bragging or just stating facts.

OP, there are probably a lot of things your kids could be accused of "bragging" about that wouldn't even register to you. They might mention having been to Great Wolf Lodge (too expensive for lots of families), watching a show on a cable network channel (your family spends more on cable), playing with Magformers (cheaper options are available). . .

I think it is you who is insecure.

We just moved to McLean and don’t belong to a club. We can afford it easily but don’t think we would go often since there isn’t one in McLean. I’m sure we would join if Chevy Chase or congressional was 5 min away.

I don’t see how this is different than saying that I will see you later at soccer or swim. My kids do cub scouts and science Olympiad. My kids feel a little left out that some or their friends are doing basketball and I signed them up for tennis at the racquet club.

It's a Money trail thing from DuPont/Georgetown to poolesville . Chevy Chase, Columbia, Kenwood, Bethesda, Burning Tree, Congressional, Avenel, Woodmont, Lakewood, Bretton Woods.

Plus with all the Privates in the money trail .. Sidwell, Saint John's , Saint Albans, NCS, GDS, Stone Ridge, Holy Cross, Georgetown Prep, Landon, Holy Child, Holton, Bullis, St Andrews..

Even the Publics.. Bcc , Whitman, Churchill, RM, QO, Wootton, WJ, Poolesville .

It's just a large, wealthy area and the prettiest landscape in general so it breeds the type.

Anonymous wrote:It must be a Bethesda thing (I am not from here), but it seems so weird when I hear kids on playdates bragging about "the club". If that is not bad enough Columbia does "training" for 4th graders and so now those kids are obnoxious about who "belongs" and who doesn't. Do you think it's the parents who encourage their kids to act this way?

Give an example. Saying they hung out at "insert country club name here" is no different than saying they went to Larla's house, especially if they are young enough to have playdates.

I suppose some kids might brag about it, but those are kids who probably brag about lots of things (family money, sports, grades).

I grew up going to "the club", but it wasn't bragging to talk about it ... we met our friends there to play in the game room and just mess around, swam there, lots of things. It was our primary hangout where parents could just send us and know we'd be safely supervised.

OP, do you have issues with kids going to their country club?