Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:58     Subject: Re:I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you asked him straight up “what about my time?”


We have had this conversation. It usually involves him saying...ofcourse you can have some time but I really deserve this weekend off.


Then you take the following weekend off. And really, really take it. Go far away so that it will take you a long time to come back.

You are not going to get anywhere being a doormat. He is pushing you around and you are letting him.


I hear you but I don’t really think either one of us should be taking the entire weekend off.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:57     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:Ask him flat out "Why do you deserve more personal time than I do?"


I can but how productive do you think this would be in changing things
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:56     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's a man baby who doesn't actually care about treating you equally or being an adequate parent. That said, he may leave you if you push it too hard.

I would suggest you short-circuit this whole thing by hiring a Saturday morning babysitter. And stop coming back to rescue him.


As the kids are older I am more comfortable with not coming back. He won’t agree to a sitter....thinks a parent should be with the kids.


What exactly do you think he will do if you don't come back?

Has he always been an asshole or is this a new development?


Honestly, it manifested itself after #2 was born.


It sounds like he's just not up for the hassle of two little kids. Because let's be real, it's a lot. I'd like more personal time too. He's allowing himself to treat you unfairly because he's having a hard time coping with his responsibilities.

The next time he goes away, hire a sitter and if he doesn't like it, too bad.

What will he do if you go away and don't come back, really? What do you honestly think he would do?


Blow up my phone...with texts, calls, use find my friends..take DCs to where I am...throw a fit and leave them. Or, call his parents or mine to tell them I have been gone for hours and doesn’t know when I am coming home.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:52     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Ask him flat out "Why do you deserve more personal time than I do?"
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:50     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's a man baby who doesn't actually care about treating you equally or being an adequate parent. That said, he may leave you if you push it too hard.

I would suggest you short-circuit this whole thing by hiring a Saturday morning babysitter. And stop coming back to rescue him.


As the kids are older I am more comfortable with not coming back. He won’t agree to a sitter....thinks a parent should be with the kids.


What exactly do you think he will do if you don't come back?

Has he always been an asshole or is this a new development?


Honestly, it manifested itself after #2 was born.


It sounds like he's just not up for the hassle of two little kids. Because let's be real, it's a lot. I'd like more personal time too. He's allowing himself to treat you unfairly because he's having a hard time coping with his responsibilities.

The next time he goes away, hire a sitter and if he doesn't like it, too bad.

What will he do if you go away and don't come back, really? What do you honestly think he would do?
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:50     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry you’re a bore who doesn’t have any hobbies or friends.


Huh? I have plenty of friends, interests and hobbies.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:48     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's a man baby who doesn't actually care about treating you equally or being an adequate parent. That said, he may leave you if you push it too hard.

I would suggest you short-circuit this whole thing by hiring a Saturday morning babysitter. And stop coming back to rescue him.


As the kids are older I am more comfortable with not coming back. He won’t agree to a sitter....thinks a parent should be with the kids.


What exactly do you think he will do if you don't come back?

Has he always been an asshole or is this a new development?


Honestly, it manifested itself after #2 was born.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:45     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Therapy for you.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:45     Subject: Re:I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you asked him straight up “what about my time?”


We have had this conversation. It usually involves him saying...ofcourse you can have some time but I really deserve this weekend off.


Then you take the following weekend off. And really, really take it. Go far away so that it will take you a long time to come back.

You are not going to get anywhere being a doormat. He is pushing you around and you are letting him.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:44     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's a man baby who doesn't actually care about treating you equally or being an adequate parent. That said, he may leave you if you push it too hard.

I would suggest you short-circuit this whole thing by hiring a Saturday morning babysitter. And stop coming back to rescue him.


As the kids are older I am more comfortable with not coming back. He won’t agree to a sitter....thinks a parent should be with the kids.


What exactly do you think he will do if you don't come back?

Has he always been an asshole or is this a new development?
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:43     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
I’m sorry you’re a bore who doesn’t have any hobbies or friends.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:42     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:He's a man baby who doesn't actually care about treating you equally or being an adequate parent. That said, he may leave you if you push it too hard.

I would suggest you short-circuit this whole thing by hiring a Saturday morning babysitter. And stop coming back to rescue him.


As the kids are older I am more comfortable with not coming back. He won’t agree to a sitter....thinks a parent should be with the kids.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:40     Subject: Re:I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:Have you asked him straight up “what about my time?”


We have had this conversation. It usually involves him saying...ofcourse you can have some time but I really deserve this weekend off.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:35     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
He's a man baby who doesn't actually care about treating you equally or being an adequate parent. That said, he may leave you if you push it too hard.

I would suggest you short-circuit this whole thing by hiring a Saturday morning babysitter. And stop coming back to rescue him.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2019 18:33     Subject: I don’t understand why DH thinks he deserves things for working
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are you his second wife?


Yes


This is the poster. No.